The Good Aspects of ‘Bloom Where You’re Planted’

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from Under Much Grace Platitudes can be helpful when they're used well and when both parties understand what they're meant to communicate. Much like pictures, they can encompass and encapsulate more meaning that just the words in-and-of-themselves. They're verbal shorthand that can sometimes be more direct and concise than long discussions, and they're especially helpful when one party doesn't have a lot of emotional energy to stop and listen to a long explanation. We can all imagine a tenacious flower like a dandelion that grows in a tiny bit of soil that has inadvertently collected in a crack in a sidewalk. Sometimes life requires our tougher nature to … [Read more...]

Help! I am a Believer, but my Husband is Not

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserEditor's note: Reposting this piece because I believe it's valuable advice for many leaving Quiverfull as well. My mailbox regularly fills up with more emails that I can possibly answer from people wanting to know how to help a brother/husband/daughter/son/cousin who is stuck in a toxic religious environment or from someone trying to hang onto their faith as they are leaving a toxic church. I think much of Bruce's advice here could be useful for many situations.Recently, a new reader sent me several questions she would like me to answer. Her questions and my answers follow. … [Read more...]

Not Quoting Quiverfull: Embracing Halloween?

by David Mathis of John Piper's Desiring God - Take Halloween CaptiveEditor's note: While there are some things in this article that aren't great, it's surprising in a good way when you see a ministry that usually promotes poisonous theology that spiritually abuses others to take a common sense stance that lines up closer with the words of Jesus than 99% of the other Evangelicals on this same subject. Thankfully he's not saying to wrap those candy bars in tracts either.. … [Read more...]

Blame it on the Smurfs – Post-Tramatic Church Syndrome

by Suzanne TitkemeyerWhen I first cracked open my copy of Reba Riley's book, Post-Tramatic Church Syndrome I wasn't entirely sure what to expect. I figured it might be much like many of the series we feature here on No Longer Quivering: Girl/boy is immersed in a Quiverfull/Fundamentalist/Evangelical church and leaves for a long laundry list of reasons with a heavy burden of spiritual abuse and a heaping helping of depression only to be heckled/harassed/hounded by those well-meaning 'Good Christians' left behind. Usually the woman/man has a long road of healing with lots of twists, turns and tears before coming to a place that works on all levels for them. A sadder but wiser person. … [Read more...]

Not Quoting Quiverfull: What To Say To Someone Suffering

by Nancy Guthrie from John Piper's Desiring God blog - What Not to Ask Someone SufferingEditor's note: Most of the time when I read Desiring God I have to say 'ugh' at the terrible Evangelical Quiverfull ideas it contains. This is different, this is something I think all of us in recovery can learn from. It's a good list of what to say to someone suffering. Guess even places with bad ideas will occasionally stumble over something that isn't so bad after all. … [Read more...]

When Abuse Leads to Cynicism

by Virginia Knowles cross posted from her blog Watch The ShepherdDo you know anyone whose faith has been turned upside down into cynicism because of hypocrisy or abuse within a church or a family?I do. I've lost count of those I know personally, and I have read about far more who have walked away from the Christian faith or at least wandered to the outer fringe of fellowshipI have been researching abuse and authority issues in families, churches, and religious movements for over seven years. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Surviving the End of the World as We Know it? Part 3

by Michael Pearl of No Greater Joy - How to Survive the Coming Apocalypse Part 3There is no letter to start with this time, and for once Michael is making some sort of sense. … [Read more...]

Why I am a Christian Feminist

by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating the DragonsSo, I got an interesting question on twitter this morning. “John” asked me “how does modern day feminism and Christianity complement each other?” and it occurred to me that while I’ve talked a lot about how I became a feminist, and why I’m a feminist, and why I think Christianity desperately needs feminism . . . I don’t think I’ve talked about why I specifically identify as an egalitarian and Christian feminist, even though I’ve spent quite a bit of time talking about why I disagree with complementarianism. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Demanding Sex is Unbiblical?

by John Piper of the Desiring God blog - When the Sex Should StopMisuse #1: “Give me more sex, because the Bible says so.” A truncated explanation of 1 Corinthians 7:5 inevitability leads to this rationale. But whether it’s the husband or the wife pleading this case, it turns into trouble as soon as the other spouse isn’t on board. … [Read more...]

Racism, Colorblindness and Me

by Kristen Rosser cross posted from her blog Wordgazer's Words"Stop staring!  What's the matter with you?"I was about six years old, living in a smallish town in Colorado.  One Sunday afternoon we went to a park in a nearby larger town.  An African-American family had also brought their children to the park, and they were playing on the children's play equipment.My eyes were riveted.  I couldn't look away. … [Read more...]


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