One of the main purposes of No Longer Quivering is to provide a safe space for those recovering from abusive theology or leaving a faith community. Part of recovery is having a place to discuss the unique challenges of healing in a supportive environment.
In order to facilitate discussion and keep No Longer Quivering recovery-friendly we do insist that all comments and commenters do not personally attack anyone else. Disagree politely, attack the ideas, not the authors and other commenters. Calling someone names, impugning they are not ‘normal’ or rude words will not be tolerated as they do create a hostile environment.
Proselytizing or saying that Christian equivalent of “F-You” of “I’ll Pray For You” is strictly frowned upon and depending on how triggered it makes the moderator will affect how quickly you’ll be warned or banned.
Comments that do not conform to this standard will be removed and if the poster continues to post inappropriate commentary they will be banned by IP address.
Attempts to fight with a moderator is an automatic ban.
Racist comments, or commentary that includes violent hate speech against a people group will also be removed and be an automatic ban.
Ad Hominem responses aren’t acceptable.
No ‘Come to Jesus’ salvation calls allowed or proselytizing your religion on the comments. It’s very triggering to the many here still in recovery from spiritual abuse at the hands of some well meaning religion or from the people of that religion. If all you are after is to tell someone what scripture says with an eye towards converting someone to your flavor of faith and you have nothing to actually ad to the conversation you will be banned.
Please engage in respectful engagement, not willful ignorance. What is considered willful ignorance here? Most of these have already been covered in other rules. The six signs of willful ignorance:
- The person you’re debating uses nastiness as a substitute for thought
- Attacks the source of an argument rather than the argument’s merits
- Claims causation from mere correlation (e.g., a rooster’s crowing makes sun rise)
- Disputes facts on which there’s an overwhelming scientific or historical consensus (evolution, climate change, widening inequality, the Holocaust)
- Blames or stereotypes entire groups of people
- Repeats the same point without responding to arguments or information you provide
Going off topic isn’t a big deal, not agreeing with the author’s assertions is perfectly fine, asking a fellow commenter to explain themselves or telling them why you think their ideas are wrong are all expected. Most of the time, 99%, the comments are great and the commenters themselves a wonderful thoughtful group. Let’s keep it that way!
Think a commenter has gone too far or have questions about our commenting policy? Email me at Suzanne(dot)Calulu(at)gmail(dot)com
If it’s your first time posting your comment(s) will be held in unapproved by moderator status until I have time to look at and approve them. Keep in mind that on the weekends this could mean it may be hours due to life and family, not a plot to keep certain people from posting.
Also occasionally Disqus will quarantine a regular posters comment in the Spam folder. If you post and your comments usually show up but one does not please let me know at CaluluNLQ@gmail.com and I’ve move the comment to approved.
If you are here because you’re a huge Duggar fan please read our special Duggar Comment Policy
Don’t understand how Disqus and flagging works? – Flagging Comments on Disqus
If you’ve been banned and don’t understand why or wish to appeal the ban – If You’ve Been Banned
Comments will be occasionally locked on pages where the discussion has veered into a very off-topic and displays willful ignorance that seems to be leading directly to a fight. The moderator will unlock the comments in a few days once peace has been restored. It is important to keep the site recovery friendly.
NLQ Recommended Reading …
‘Breaking Their Will: Shedding Light on Religious Child Maltreatment‘ by Janet Heimlich
‘Quivering Daughters‘ by Hillary McFarland
‘Quiverfull: Inside the Christian Patriarchy Movement‘ by Kathryn Joyce