Bonus Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Is He Wetting on Purpose?

Alright, so I know that we've already had one of these today, but when I ran across this question shortly after posting the earlier one I decided that posting a second question on Thanksgiving Eve might not be a bad thing. Especially in light of some of the recent posts and discussions we've had about effective non-physical child discipline. … [Read More...]


Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – I Made My BFF’s Mom Mad – Help!

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read More...]


Quoting Quiverfull: Chosing to be Quiverfull is Like Taking Some Joy Pills?

by unidentified author at Hope By Design - Take a Joy PillEditor's note: There is just so much so wrong, blaming and almost hateful about this posting on why Quiverfull is what they think is the only way. Again ideas that the rest of the world is somehow 'selfish' or not having scads of children because they want new cars or fancy geegaws are trotted out like the moldy strawmen that they are. The reasons people don't have large families any longer outside of Quiverfull are as varied and complex as people themselves are. This is another sad example of reducing a complex problem into a simplistic black and white type thinking that reduces some people to less than others. It makes it much … [Read More...]


4 Ultra Conservative Christian Patriarchs Who Make Jim Bob Duggar Seem Like a Champion of Women’s Rights

by Vyckie Garrison NLQ Founder as originally published in Raw Story Mega-family patriarch, Jim Bob Duggar recently re-posted a whimsical note of advice to Christian fathers who wish to be spiritual leaders in their homes: Start protecting your family by removing books, magazines, television, or internet that have worldly or sensual content. Replace them with good things like wholesome music, biographies of great Christians, good old-fashioned family fun and games. … [Read More...]


Quoting Quiverfull: Willfully Misunderstanding What Freedom of Religion Is?

by the Patrick Johnson family - Johnson Family Ministry Blog - What's the Problem with Kentucky Governor Accommodating Kim Davis' Religious Beliefs?Editor's note: The very fact that Patrick Johnson has his nine year old son photobombing gay couples with a hateful sign says a lot about him beyond his misunderstanding of US constitutional law. He's claiming like so many others that the Freedom of Religion laws should be only to promote Christianity. This belief is particularly disgusting in light of the fact that Thanksgiving is in a few short days. Remember the Pilgrims? They left England in order to be able to practice what they believe without interference, not force their beliefs on … [Read More...]


Created To Need A Help Meet: Part 3 Mr. Command Man (The Commanding Servant?)

by Aletha cross posted from her blog Yllom Mormonp 112-114When you think of a Command Man, what words pop into your head? Tyrannical? Demanding? Unreasonable? Selfish? Those were the first few I thought of. But today, we get to talk about another side of the Command Man. Mr. Command, the servant. Because Mr.C is based off of God, and everybody knows God the Father is so serving...I'm lost.I'll let Michael explain! … [Read More...]


Quoting Quiverfull: Wives Cause Affairs?

by Lori Alexander from Always Learning - Can Wives Contribute To Their Husbands Affairs?Editor's note: Lori goes into Biblical Gender Roles territory with this blaming bit of crap. No Lori, not having sex with your husband for any number of reasons legitimate or ridiculous, does not mean that the man is going to automatically cheat. Cheaters cheat because of something deficient in them, not their spouse in most cases. Who wants a man that weak and unable to control his animalistic nature? This type of thinking reduces men to beasts. … [Read More...]


Are Evangelicals Fundamentalists?

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce Gerencser(Editor's note: Since all Quiverfull either self-identify as either 'Fundamentalist' or 'Evangelical' with a great deal of overlap between the two I thought we'd best take a look at what they really are.)Many people think that Evangelicalism and fundamentalism are two different species of conservative Christianity. However, I plan to show in this post that Evangelicals are inherently fundamentalist and that the only issue is to what degree they are fundamentalist.Some of the confusion comes from the fact that there are Evangelicals, such as the Independent Fundamentalist (IFB) church movement, who … [Read More...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Women Pastors Are ‘Sinning’

by Tim Dukeman as quoted by Lori Alexander at Always Learning - Men Make Better PastorsEditor's note: So not only are women responsible if their husbands abuse them they also cannot be pastors or elders in churches because vagina. Wonder what these people make of the Mother Theresa's of this world? Oh yeah, I forgot, it's okay for women to serve others, but not to tell any man what he should do. All Christians who believe the Bible will affirm that the office of elder {Pastors are simply the elders who labor in preaching and teaching} is limited to men. We affirm this because the Bible says it with greater clarity than almost anything else.However, as we affirm this truth, we often … [Read More...]


Quoting Quiverfull: Women Overusing ‘Abuse’?

by Lori Alexander from Always Learning - The Overuse of the Word 'Abuse'Editor's note: So if your husband is looking at porn or telling you that you're a piece of garage this is somehow a reaction to something you have done? I don't think so. Abusive takes many subtle forms that are sometimes hard to see when you're in a relationship but someone else making the choice to abuse you is not your fault! She should rename her blog because she's not learning a damn thing except how to silence and shame abuse victims. … [Read More...]


“Spotlight” Review – It Takes A Village To Abuse A Child

by Suzanne TitkemeyerLast night I had an opportunity to see an extraordinary film, one that I'm sure would deeply resonate with everyone that is a regular reader of NLQ. The film is "Spotlight" and it's playing right now in theaters across the country after a wide screen release on Friday, November 20th. … [Read More...]


Review Part 2 – “Spanking, Why, When, How” by Roy Lessin

Continued on from yesterday here are the words of others that have been raised using this method from Roy Lessin's books. My life has been full of pain and anguish due to Roy's methods. Your daughter is happy because children will be whatever you ask them to be after hitting them. I would have thought someone strange for telling me my parents were cruel too when I was six, twelve, or even 15 years of age. My parents were my world when I was a kid. The horrible affects of Roy's spankings will probably not show up until it is too late. You will have already made your parental choice and the damage will be done. I was a happy child or so everyone thought. Inside I was torn up and didn't really … [Read More...]