Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – Ideas For Persuading Brothers To Use Good Table Manners

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read More...]


Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – So Does This Punishment Fit The Crime?

by Biblical Gender Roles from Biblical Gender - 7 Ways to Discipline Your WifeEditor's note: He's at it again, explaining in great detail how exactly to punish and control your sig-o for offenses real and imagined. Only good thing I can find about his long article is that he states that physical punishment ala Christian Domestic Discipline is wrong. No spankings for offenses, just insanely control every other aspect of her life until she is repentant. How emotionally unhealthy is this advice? We're starting with number three on the list, getting into the more outrageous parts of failures instead of overspending or treating your spouse with disrespect. Whatever happened to … [Read More...]

Image by Virginia Knowles from Watch the Shepherd

The Bad Boy and the Angel

by Virginia Knowles cross posted from her blog Watch the Shepherd(Part of October's focus on domestic violence. Originally published December 2014)While decorating for Christmas last week, I left this angel on the table. The next morning, I found her standing with my daughter's Ken doll. Apparently she was planning for them to get married as soon as she could find someone to officiate the wedding.Something about the angel caught my eye. She was looking down, probably because she is supposed to be a tree topper smiling benevolently at the children below. However, standing right next to Ken, she seemed like she was sad and feeling shamed, like he was mad at her and she couldn't … [Read More...]


Quoting Quiverfull: Go To Church Or Else?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - I Love It, Don't You?Editor's note: Here Nancy is telling everyone to go to church, no matter what. Ignore the bad theology, ignore the spiritual abuse, ignore all the things that are awful or trigger you. Just go and sit right up front, get under the spout where the glory comes out according to Nancy. But this is foolishness as many of us here know. Forcing yourself to do something that harms you isn't very wise, it's a good way to end up even more broken or spiritually abused if you are not careful. … [Read More...]


Created To Need A Help Meet: Part 3 Mr. Steady (Dealing With Drama Queens – And Every Woman Is One)

by Aletha cross posted from her blog Yllom Mormonpp 92-94Today we're talking more about those "female creatures". In an, I'm sure, flattering and equalizing light. Oh wait. Wrong book. Nope; it's more of the sexism we've come to know from Michael. Here goes!Text is in purple … [Read More...]


Quoting Quiverfull: Love Being At Home Or Else?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - I Love Home, Don't You?Editor's  note: Nancy once again doubles down on the message and implied threat/blame that you must love being home in your home or else you've failed or are in some sort of selfish sin. Dear Nancy, nobody loves being home every single day. I spent yesterday afternoon and evening cleaning out my closet and I can assure you I would have rather have been a million other places than in that closet.  God had nothing to do with it, just like He has nothing to do with most of what has to take place in the home.. But it needed doing. Being home, doing the things that need to happen to keep home running aren't always the things you l … [Read More...]


Here’s How the ‘Pro-Life’ Money Machine Turns Desperate Women into Submissive Baby Makers

by NLQ Founder Vyckie Garrison originally published on Raw Story(Editor's note: Since October is Domestic Violence month Vyckie's story of her first marriage fits well with that theme. We're going to be featuring information on the subject of Domestic Violence a couple of times a week) Vyckie Garrison was once a minor celebrity in the Quiverfull Movement, made famous by TV’s Duggar family. As a devout, Bible-believing Christian and the mother of seven homeschooled children, Garrison spent 16 years, with her husband, publishing a newspaper for families on a similar path. Today, via a website called No Longer Quivering, she publishes resources for women leaving the movement. The f … [Read More...]


Quoting Quiverfull: Sex Is Only For Christians?

by John Piper from Desiring God - Sex Belongs to BelieversEditor's note: Sounds like Piper thinks only married Christians, the 'right' kind of married Christians are the only ones that should be having any sort of sex. Good luck with that. I really really do not want to think about John Piper and sex. This is just another thing that Christians claim belongs only to believers, a sort of Christian privilege. … [Read More...]


NLQ Question of the Week: Why So Fearful of Every Single Thing?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.Last week we were talking about the Blood Moon and the other Evangelical Christian fear-mongering involving the end of the world, but since then I've been doing a great deal of thinking and observing on the subject of fear in the church. Seems like many people have many, many, MANY fears over things that those outside of the church never bother worrying about. Things like protecting their children from the 'evil' outside world, or avoiding normal things like swimming in the … [Read More...]


Quoting Quiverfull: Speaking Plain Words Shows Love For Enemies?

by Vaughn Ohlman from True Love Doesn't Wait - Love, Acceptance, and PragmatismEditor's note: This is one of the most frightening things about the Quiverfull movement, the attempt to seize and redefine language in order to force ones religious and political beliefs on another group of people, to legislate morality. There's a great deal in the unquoted parts about banning abortion, doing away with same sex unions and forcing young marriage on people that we'll not quote here. But the semantics of seizing the language that we use to discuss those things is a terrifying thing and how fundamentalism forces their views on others legally. No matter what Von says that is not love. … [Read More...]


How Piety and Perfectionism Prime a Child for Explotation and Victimization

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much More GraceOriginally published January 2012. This is part of a series on Understanding How Emotional Development in Childhood Affects Adults: Fostering Spiritual Abuse via the “Roots of Victimization” All images originals from Under Much More Grace. Human beings make mistakes, and it is unreasonable and unhealthy for people to believe that they are perfect. By embracing and anticipating the needs of children related to their characteristic of imperfection, parents can raise children who become adults who not only feel comfortable with themselves, but they learn to become accountable for the impact that their actions have on other peo … [Read More...]


Quoting Quiverfull: Christians Are Supposed To Be Judgmental?

by Steven L. Anderson from Faithful Word Baptist Church - Pope Francis and His LiesEditor's note: A recent sermon by Anderson in which he makes some pretty ridiculous claims, such as that the Catholics copied the idea of monks and nuns from the Buddhists, that Pope Francis is some sort of agent of the Anti Christ and that all Catholics do is sit around all day worshiping Mary.  In this morsel of word salad from that sermon Anderson claims that it's perfectly fine for Christians of their ilk to judge Catholics, the Pope and anyone else that isn't exactly like them. … [Read More...]