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Lourdes Torres, Christian Homeschooling and Consent

by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, Feminism I recently came upon an excellent example of what I was talking about when I wrote my “The Tale of Two Boxes” post several years ago. Homeschool leader Chris Jeub had this to say in a recent blog post titled “Patriarchy Has Got To Go“: In a nutshell, Phillips is being sued by his former nanny, someone he knew for over a decade and was very close to the Phillips family. Her lawyers have graphic details of Phillips forcing himself sexually, and Phillips’ lawyers are denying little of it, claiming “consensual” contact between adults. For those of us in the Christian homeschool community, this is just as bad as … [Read More...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Redefining Patriarchy?

by Kevin Swanson cross posted from Generations With Vision I am not a patriarchal-ist. I have never been a patriarchal-ist, and I’ve never called myself a patriarchal-ist, and here are a few reasons: 1. The Bible employs the Greek word “patriarchy” to refer to Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob (Acts 2:29; 7:8,9;, Heb. 7:4), and I’m not Abraham, Isaac, or Jacob. I’m some guy named Kevin Swanson. It would be arrogant for me to assume that I will bear the influence of men like this over the next 2000 years. … [Read More...]

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Satan’s Balls and Easter

Happy Easter everyone! From Westover Baptist Site Comments open below NLQ Recommended Reading ... 'Breaking Their Will: Shedding Light on Religious Child Maltreatment' by Janet Heimlich ‘Quivering Daughters‘ by Hillary McFarland ‘Quiverfull: Inside the Christian Patriarchy Movement‘ by Kathryn Joyce   <A HREF="http://ws.amazon.com/widgets/q?ServiceVersion=20070822&MarketPlace=US&ID=V20070822%2FUS%2Ffamiliesthatflou%2F8010%2F3a66ffe9-ddd0-4d6b-8d9b-5eebb6c82db3&Operation=NoScript">Amazon.com Widgets</A> … [Read More...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Submission Keeps You From Being Victimized?

by Rebekah (Doug Wilson's daughter) at Femina - On Not Being A Victim 1. Christian women should be characterized by submission. No matter how much cool-shaming is thrown at the concept of headship and submission by the hipper-than-thou crowd, we can’t get around it that the Bible teaches this. Some people scream and run when they hear the word submission, and men like Doug Philips make that reaction understandable. Then over amongst the crowd that’s all gung-ho about submission there is frequently a scary lack of nuance. On the two sides of this question you find people waving their flags saying either, “submission is terrible,” or “submission is wonderful.” But submit is a a … [Read More...]

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Coming Out of the Cult Closet

by AJ cross posted from her blog I Am Phoenix The last year has been full of shifts, most of them tumultuous, but most of them ending up being quite positive. In the actual moment, each change didn't feel positive. It felt like I was wearing skin that didn't fit me anymore, and I was trying to wrestle out of it. Much like a critter shedding it's old skin. Painful, itchy, uncomfortable, exhausting. But then each time I shed an old layer, it felt great afterwards to relax and sit in the sun, so to speak with spanking new skin that felt all new and glowing. … [Read More...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Victim Blaming

by Doug Wilson from Blog and Mablog - Vice, Victims and Vision Forum Re: Doug Phillips and Lourdes Torres Given that, either his sexual attentions were entirely unwelcome, or they were not. If they were not unwelcome, then the affair appears to have been one of complicated and unconsummated adultery, with two participants. She was an adult, and so if his attentions were not entirely unwelcome, she was a player in the vice, not a victim. The victim in this would have been Beall, with two people victimizing her. … [Read More...]

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News: Bill Gothard’s Mea Culpa

A statement from Bill Gothard has gone up on his website in the last 24 hours in which he attempts to explain himself. I have withheld this statement in order to honor the request of the Board of Directors to wait until an initial review has taken place. As the review continues, I now want to make this statement. God has brought me to a place of greater brokenness than at any other time in my life. It is a grief to realize how my pride and insensitivity have affected so many people. I have asked the Lord to reveal the underlying causes and He is doing this. … [Read More...]

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TTUAC: Dogs, Soldiers and Disturbing Analogies

by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, Feminism To Train Up A Child, pp. 2—3 OBEDIENCE TRAINING Most parents don’t think they can train their little children. Training does not necessarily require that the trainee be capable of reason; even mice and rats can be trained to respond to stimuli. Careful training can make a dog perfectly obedient. If a seeing-eye dog can be trained to reliably lead a blind man through the obstacles of a city street, shouldn’t a parent expect more out of an intelligent child? A dog can be trained not to touch a tasty morsel laid in front of him. Can’t a child be trained not to touch? … [Read More...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Shy Children Must Be Trained Out Of It?

from No Greater Joy magazine by Shalom Pearl Brand - Three Types of Children, Part 3: Building Confidence (Steady/Servant Type) Don’t let your children be shy; help them overcome their fears and reach out to others. Observe your children and determine what is causing them to be shy. Is it only when someone talks to them, or is it all the time? Then, create an environment where you are in control and can train them to be confident. Do not push them to the point that they are afraid. … [Read More...]

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News: Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar To Speak At ATI Conferences

from Stargasm.com - Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar Slated to Speak at ATI Conferences Despite Sexual Abuse Scandal Apparently ATI's attempt to paper over the allegations of sexual abuse by former leader Bill Gothard is to get the Bates and the Duggars to speak at their conferences. Nonetheless, it’s apparent that many IBLP and ATI followers — including the Duggars — are still committed to the programs. In fact, according to the newly released “2014 Family Conference Guide” for ATI and IBLP followers, Jim Bob Duggar and Michelle Duggar are slated to speak at three upcoming national conferences. … [Read More...]

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So I’ve Been Spiritually Abused. What Next? – Dealing With Anxiety and Panic

by Pastor Randy Orndorff of Culpeper United Methodist Church shared with permission from the church website Editor's Note: Pastor Randy is the pastor of the church I now attend after my years at the abusive Evangelical church in my past. He's a good guy, he possesses one of the most important important characteristics of a good pastor would wouldn't abuse you, he is not controlling. This new year he actually did something sort of revolutionary for a pastor, he preached an entire series on coping with the slings and arrows of real life. So as part of our series I'll be sharing some of his sermon notes here. The rest can be viewed at the CUMC website. … [Read More...]

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Fundraiser To Reunite Father and Daughter

Long time friend of NLQ Lucreza Borgia and her husband have asked NLQ to post their Go Fund Me page,  ask you, our readers, to take a look and consider donating. They are raising funds to bring home Lucreza's husband's daughter. Every story has a beginning, and our story began in May 2010. My daughter’s mother moved from Green Bay, Wis. to northwestern Mo., without my knowledge and took our daughter with her. Unbeknownst to me, while I was searching for my daughter, the state of Missouri took custody of her due to neglect and placed her in a foster home. Since then, I’ve been trying to bring her home. Missouri has made little effort to reunify my daughter with me. For more than two … [Read More...]