This Is What ATI Teaches Families Like The Duggars

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Samantha P Field.comA few months ago, when the news initially broke about Josh sexually abusing his sisters and others, I wrote a post that examined some of the reasons why his parents were able to cover up what he’d done so effectively: the purity culture they raised their children in blames women for their own assaults. Specifically, they used a program created by Bill Gothard, a man known for sexually harassing women and minors (Josh Duggar received his “counseling” from Gothard’s ministry). This program is known as the Advanced Training Institute (ATI). … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: So God Will Injure You To Make You Turn Back To Him?

by Karen Campbell from That Mom - When Failure Comes To Our ChildrenEditor's note: This bit is also from the homeschooling book "The Joy of Relationship Homeschooling" by the blogger. She frequently flouts bad ideas from the book on her blog in an attempt to bolster sales. She used to go by the first name "Faye" online in the early days of the internet and was heavily involved in the lawsuit between Gentle Spirit Magazine founder Cheryl Lindsey Seelhoff and Homeschooling World's Mary Pride. It's interesting to see a bunch of grown women fight to be the head mean girl while claiming to be Christians. They took it pretty far in what heinous things they were willing to do. This paragraph … [Read more...]

Created To Need A Help Meet: Part 1 – Mr. Visionary (Michael The Prophet?)

by Aletha cross posted from her blog - Yllom MormonIn this Chapter, we learn more about Mr. Visionary. Text is in purple. Visionary, Steady, CommandGod the Holy Spirit is a prophet. He comes into the world with the mission of rectifying wrongs and moving men to repentance. "And when he is come, he will reprove the world of sin, and of righteousness, and of judgement (John 16:8)". Some men are created in the image of the Holy Spirit, but that image is marred by the reign of sin. Yet there is one recognizable trait that remains whether they be sinners or saints: it is the visionary aspect of the third person of the godhead-the disposition to right wrongs, seeing the world as a place … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Godly Response To Emotional Abuse?

by Rick Thomas from Rick - Emotional Abuse:  Its origins, its cureEditor's note: Another perfect example of why the evangelical and fundamentalist Christian crowds are so toxic to those struggling with depression, spiritual abuse issues, verbal abuse and issues dealing with human emotions. Thomas claims that what we call emotional abuse is sin and that it is not causing real damage, that we must respond to the person 'sinning' against us with love, forgiveness and scripture. What a victim-blaming, self-righteous, unhelpful load of hog wash! If someone is abusing you in any fashion the best thing to do is to leave the abuser, get far away from them and their attempts to hurt … [Read more...]

See, Here Is Water

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Samantha Field If you grew up going to Sunday school, you’re probably at least a little bit familiar with the story of Philip and the Ethiopian Eunuch. I’ve never been entirely sure why, but this story, which appears in Acts 8, has always been one of my favorites. I’ve always been fascinated by everything about it, especially since it reads almost like a sci-fi/fantasy story. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 4 – Don’t Withhold Sex To Change A Husband?

by Biblical Gender Roles from Biblical Gender Roles.Com - Can A Christian Wife Withhold Sex As A Way To Change Her Husband's Bad Behavior?Editor's note: So now you not only have to allow your husband any sort of sex upon demand and not consider it rape, now you have to control your thoughts, emotions and attitudes about being raped lest it make you 'bitter'. Bitter seems to be an evangelical fundamentalist buzz word for 'Shut the hell up and SMILE!" How is it healthy to deny your own feelings about being abused? It's not. … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Imbuing Politicians With ‘God’s Favor’?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.Well here we are, mere hours away from the first Republican presidential candidate debates. One of the things that is interesting about the 2016 crop of Republican possibles is that many of them are claiming that God favors them and wants them to be president to restore America to a Christian nation again. At least their version of what a 'Christian' nation looks like. Two different Duggar-approved candidates are in the race, Mike Huckabee and Rick Santorum. Other prominent Christians and their ministries support others claiming to be God's choice, … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 3 – Don’t Withhold Sex To Change A Husband?

by Biblical Gender Roles from Biblical Gender Roles. Com - Can a Christian Wife Withhold Sex As Way To Change Her Husband's Bad BehaviorEditor's note: You might want to sit down for this bit. BGR is claiming yet again that any time a man has sex with his wife it cannot ever be considered rape or sexual abuse. This stands in direct opposition to the established laws of our land. Or even the Bible. Where in the Bible does it clearly state that men are always allowed sexual access upon demand to their women? … [Read more...]

Dear Mrs. Evangelical, If Your Husband Has A Porn Habit It’s Your Fault

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserJust when I think Evangelicals have run out of ways to blame women for the weaknesses of men, I stumble across another “blame the woman” article. In an article titled What Women Don’t Understand About Men Who Struggle With Pornography, Jennifer LeClaire, senior editor at Charisma Magazine, interviewed social researcher Shaunti Feldhahn and Craig Gross, the founder of … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – Don’t Withhold Sex To Change A Husband?

by Biblical Gender Roles from Biblical Gender - Can A Christian Wife Withhold Sex As A Way To Change Her Husband's Bad BehaviorEditor's note: This guy is so twisted up he'll use any justification to say that all wives owe all husbands sex upon demand. It's his hang up, and likely the thing he had the hardest time with in his first marriage. He never addresses the validity of issues that can lead wives to delay or deny sex. Is the husband lacking all basic hygiene skills, does he demand sex while she's overloaded trying to do some household task or take care of a sick child? Is he emotionally abusive to his wife? There are lots of factors that can influence if a wife doesn't … [Read more...]

Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – Can Wanting To Please Your Husband Become Unhealthy?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Don’t Withhold Sex To Change A Husband?

by Biblical Gender Roles from his blog Biblical Gender Roles - Can A Christian Wife Withhold Sex As A Way To Change Her Husband's Bad Behavior? (safely linked through Do Not Link)Editor's note: This is the cowardly guy that runs BGRs answer to a wife who is being treated like a live in maid/roommate/sex worker by her weak Good Christian(tm) husband. She says that the way he treats her is a type of abuse (it is) but this just makes BGR guy say that the husband's behavior is no reason to stop having sex with him. The letter he's responding to is at the above link. It was not shared here because of the long-winded response that BGR answered it with. On a side note: Looks like BGR's is a KJV … [Read more...]