Quoting Quiverfull: Happy Marriages Mean Wives Change to Suit Husbands?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - Why Unity in Marriage Has More to do With the Wife Than the HusbandEditor's note: Larry starts his piece by returning to his most familiar of themes - wives must give sex upon demand, wives must submit, wives must treat husbands kindly and now this: change to suit your husband? So in Larry's village in Fundytown wives should be all the time changed or changing to be the perfect fit. What if the husband does not know what he wants? What if he is abusive? What if he likes the person he married just the way they are? Larry sounds like he's describing marriage as some sort of 'Westwood' situation or a partnership with a walking talking sex robot. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Does He Like Me Or Not?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 8 – Infant Manifesto?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy – Infant ManifestoEditor's note: Last little bit. What I'm not quoting is Momma reading the book "To Train Up A Child" and sharing it with Daddy followed by a tantrum the next morning at the breakfast table when the child got unsweetened oatmeal instead of the desired breakfast of cold sugary cereal. So it's a two-fer, child beating combined with Pearl dietary preferences. All this is followed with this supposed child saying they learned that whining and demanding only brought the switch and to cooperate. I cannot imagine beating a child for not liking what you served for breakfast. What type of monster does that? … [Read more...]

Can Atheists Celebrate Christmas?

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserGrowing up in an Evangelical home, I knew that Christmas was all about the birth of our Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ. Gifts were sparse, often just two or three packages, but never far from view was the most wondrous gift of all, salvation through the atoning work of Christ on the cross. The churches I attended spent significant time each holiday season reminding congregants that Jesus was the reason for the season. Sermons against Santa Claus, consumerism, and idolatry were common, as were pleas for money to help the poor and disadvantaged. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 7 – Infant Manifesto?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy – Infant ManifestoEditor's note: We continue on with our glimpse into the frightened small mindset of one Mr. Michael Pearl and why he should never be allowed around small children. Turns out this answer to the earlier stated goals of all toddlers and babies is supposedly from the mouth of a two year old. … [Read more...]

The Suspects – Is Justice Delayed Justice At All For Carol Ann Cole?

by Suzanne TitkemeyerLast week we looked at the rules and reality of trouble teen home New Bethany Home for Girls in Arcadia, Louisiana. A place where Carol Ann might have been that possibly figures into her murder. Today I was going to talk about the cruelty and abuse handed down at New Bethany by IFB pastor Mack Ford. But several things have popped up on Facebook groups involving finding Carol Ann's murderer that we must talk about.Initially I was going to delay discussing the suspects until the very end, but I think in light of the Facebook postings we need to address the list of suspects now. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: If He Cheats Immediately Forgive?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - When He Comes Home After An AffairEditor's note: Taking a very short break from finishing up Michael Pearl's vile Infant Manifesto to bring you this bit of toxic 'change your husband by your submission without a word'. This is actually not written by Lori, but by one of her Facebook followers about how difficult it was to get over her husband's affair. While salvaging your marriage when a spouse cheats is really something that is only the business of the husband and wife involved applying the more submission and no talking is really a recipe for disaster later on down the road. Of the many marriages I observed in my old faith community that … [Read more...]

On Fornicators and Misfits

by Cindy Foster cross posted from her blog Finding Fundamental1It is reported commonly that there is fornication among you, and such fornication as is not so much as named among the Gentiles, that one should have his father's wife. 2And ye are puffed up, and have not rather mourned, that he that hath done this deed might be taken away from among you. 3For I verily, as absent in body, but present in spirit, have judged already, as though I were present, concerning him that hath so done this deed, 4In the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, when ye are gathered together, and my spirit, with the power of our Lord Jesus Christ, 5To deliver such an one unto Satan for the d … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 6 – Infant Manifesto?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy – Infant ManifestoEditor's note: Now Michael flips the script to the beaten child justifying Michael's constant calls to beat childen into submission starting around 6 months old. I am not old enough to read, but I heard my parents reading that article called Infant Manifesto. I wanted to respond, but I can’t write yet, so I dictated this to my older sister—she is three years old—and she wrote it down on our new computer. If it weren’t for that grammar and spell check, I don’t believe she could have done it. … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated – Part 1 Chapter 12

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows & Kids CollideQuoted text from the book in blue text.Chapter 12 is titled "What a Man Needs at His Side: How to Become a Girl a Man Would Want as a Wife as Well as a Friend.  Ironically, I can start by parsing the problems with the title of the chapter.The first word of the chapter title is an interesting Freudian slip.  The Botkin Sisters use "What" - a term used to designate an object in English - instead of "Who".  A man apparently doesn't need a woman; he needs a tool. Girls shouldn't marry.  Girls are by definition immature and still growing.  A man who is looking for a wife is looking for a woman or a lady.  (If a man is loo … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 5 – Infant Manifesto?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy – Infant ManifestoEditor's note: This final bit of the original manifesto has all the Pearl strawmen/boogiemen under the bed in it. It bashed government public schools, modern medicine, behavioral sciences, people's needs and individuality. … [Read more...]

The Emotional Effects of Divorcing God

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserEvangelicals-turned-atheists are often accused by Christian zealots of being angry and/or bitter. The goal is to dismiss the intellectual reasons people deconvert, painting former Evangelicals as emotionally damaged goods. By doing this, Evangelicals are free to say things such as, you are just mad at God or my all-time favorite, someone hurt you. Of course, this argument works both ways. Few Christian converts convert solely for intellectual reasons. I have heard hundreds of salvation testimonies, and every one of them had an … [Read more...]