The Reluctant Mother – A Drastic Change of Heart

by Joe Sand cross posted from his blog Incongruous Circumspection My little baby sister recently wrote the following love note to her new daughter.  The note really hit home with me because I have gone through much of what she describes.   Enjoy the read: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Fighting in Marriage?

by Steven Anderson of Faithful Word Baptist Church - Fights in MarriageEditor's note: Wow, marriage advice from Anderson that is not entirely toxic. Yes, there will likely be disagreements, but how you handle them and if they spin off into true 'fights' is another topic altogether. Again, talk like adults! But I don't agree with his assertion that pastors should be up front with everyone about how difficult their personal marriage is. That's really no one else business. All it does it set up the congregation to gossip. Somethings are truly TMI. … [Read more...]

The Power of the Transformed Wife: Part 1 Chapter 8 Grin and Bear it Silently

by Suzanne TitkemeyerLast week I neglected to do a review because I was house/pet sitting and accidentally left the book home. Freudian slip perhaps because Chapter 8 is possibly the most toxic idea in both the book and Quiverfull. It's titled 'Win Him Without a Word'.The idea that if your husband is not perfect that the best way to change him is to submit as hard as you can, behave like Jesus with a vagina and God will honor that by convicting your sinning husband of his sinning sinning ways before changing him into the Good Christian Man of your dreams on that white horse swooping in to make you the Queen of his life. Fulfilling all your inner unrealistic daydreams and wishes. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Don’t Help Whores, Druggies and Winos?

by Steven Anderson of Faithful Word Baptist Church - Lazy Bums Wanting Money From Our ChurchEditor's note: This is so breathtakingly mean-spirited and awful that I had to share it here. Different denominations handle giving out of charity in many different ways, but I've never seen one just come right out with an outright no and then blame the person asking for a variety of reasons. Most churches will take care to make sure that the money is going for things like food, shelter, bus ticket or other legitimate cause instead of into intoxicating substances. One church I know mans a soup kitchen, another a food pantry and still another will go with you to buy a bus ticket, hotel room or will … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Being Like a Man Greatest Sin of a Woman?

by John MacArthur from Grace to You - Head Coverings For WomenEditor's note: So it seems that the idea of doing anything like a man if you are a woman is automatically considered rebellion against God. I guess that explains why men with fragile masculinity like Tim Bayly lose their minds when women fight in the UFC or try to have combat positions in the military - it's just the CPM version of the Little Rascals 'He-Man Woman Haters Club'. Hair and clothing are such personal matters than only the person with the hair or making the clothing decisions should have say over what their choices are. … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Why Grandiose Claims About the Future?

This is a series we run every Thursday. The questions are things that people who may not know much about the Quiverfull movement or even Fundamentalist or Evangelical Christianity ask about the lifestyle. Examining some of the questions involving Quiverfull theology and life can only shine a light on the toxic nature of this lifestyle choice. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Pick Up His Dirty Socks With a Smile?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - Things He Fails To DoEditor's note: I think all of us as human beings are guilty of this - doing things differently than our spouse would like. It's part of the human condition. I would even agree that nagging and yelling about this things is counterproductive. But... so is cheerfully putting up with it. What's so wrong or rebellious about gently reminding someone occasionally that you would like them to put their socks in the laundry basket or dishes in the dishwasher and explaining that every time you have to stop what you're doing to accomplish those things it leaves you less time for more crucial matters. Adult conversations without … [Read more...]

Bonus Quoting Quiverfull: Physically Abuse Your Daughters?

by Tim Bayly of Bayly Blog - The Good Father: Fight the Good Fight 3Editor's note: Thank you Karen for pointing out this post in the comments. It is horrifying on so many levels. Notice too that Bayly is not advocating doing this to his sons, merely his daughter. This is what child abuse looks like in the CPM. … [Read more...]

Secretive

by AJ cross posted from her blog I Am Phoenix I don't know if I'll ever shake the need to be secretive. About, like, everything. Even writing this blog is a big stepping off point for me. It still feels taboo to be actually writing things that anyone could find and read. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – Why There Are Smaller Numbers of Male Missionaries?

by John Piper from Desiring God at Church Leaders.com - Why Are Women More Eager Missionaries?Editor's note: Seems to me that men not marrying, or delaying marriage, are perhaps not the most mature people in the first place. Perhaps that's just the type of guy that has no business being  missionary at all. But it is wisdom not to marry or pursue serious types of activities when you're not ready for them. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Is it Wrong to Not Want to Marry?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Why There Are Smaller Numbers of Male Missionaries?

by John Piper of Desiring God at Church Leaders.com - Why Are Women More Eager Missionaries?Editor's note: What? He's thinking that women have nothing in the way of control and influence over if they'll be married? What are we? Some low hanging fruit just waiting and dangling on that branch for the first lout to pick us off the tree? I think the idea that more women than men serve in missions has more to do with the fact that women are usually the core of any religious organization, the ones that do the grunt work and already outnumber men by a serious amount, not because guys aren't getting married. … [Read more...]