Quoting Quiverfull: It’s Good For Men to Objectify Women?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - Why it is NOT Wrong For Men to See Women as Sex ObjectsEditor's note: Every single time I think Larry cannot possibly get any viler in his beliefs he ups the ante. I'm skipping all the squishy sex parts in this because I hate throwing up. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Be Cheerful to Make Men Happy?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - Her Sunny, Gladness Bringing PresenceEditor's note: You know what's really tragic in this piece? Lori's attempts to insist that to be a good woman you have to be fake-joyed out, like an animated blowup doll, or a grinning idiot. If there is one piece of theology out of Quiverfull that is the most dangerous it is this - suppress all negative emotions and thoughts. The only one coming across as bitter, angry, frustrated and controlling is the author. … [Read more...]

Abusers and the Good Times

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog SamanthaPField.comI bought Adele’s 21 album spontaneously. A few of her songs were coming up somewhat regularly on the Pandora station I listened to at work, so when I spotted her album standing in line at Starbucks while on a road trip up to New Jersey I couldn’t help myself. That afternoon was the first time I heard “Someone Like You” and I did not understand it. At all. Later, some colleagues were talking about their favorite breakup songs and after sharing mine– “King of Anything” by Sara Bareilles–  someone said “Someone Like You” was theirs. I snatched at the opportunity to understand what the hell … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Women Cannot Be Cops, Soldiers or Firefighters?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - Should Women Be in the Military, Police Force or Firefighters?Editor's note: This is so insulting to our armed forces and anyone that works in public service positions, like police officers and firefighters. No one disputes that many men are physically stronger than women, but that does not mean there is no place in these fields for women.  Lori also exhibits a breathtaking lack of knowledge concerning the issues of rape for men and women. … [Read more...]

Does God Approve of Kitchen Countertops?

by Suzanne Titkemeyer cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapeI've had a hard time keeping my mouth shut lately in regards to the total and complete hypocrisy of Quiverful/Evangelical female cultural enforcer Lori Alexander of The Transformed Wife.Lori has recently been martyrbating over the fact that many of us resist her theology, mistakenly claiming that anyone not lining up with her claims hates her. … [Read more...]

Don’t Sleep With Men to Keep Their Sperm Out of Your Brain?

This was just so bizarre a claim and attempted shaming of any woman that has had sex outside of marriage that I had to share it here. Not sure if the author is religious or Quiverfull. Clearly the site Your News Wire.com is a click-baity fake news site, but I find it interesting that they would attempt to push a lie that I feel pretty certain that Tim Bayly, Doug Wilson et al will attempt to latch on to  justify their slut-shaming words. This has very important ramifications for women. Every male you absorb spermatazoa from becomes a living part of you for life. The women autopsied in this study were elderly. Some had been carrying the living male DNA inside them for well over 50 y … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – What To Do In An Awkward Situation?

This letter is another one of those problems that oh so rarely occur with people outside of cult isolation. Usually people get plenty of time to learn how to deal with crushes, interacting with a former curse and how to navigate gracefully those awkward situations. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Build a Good Relationship With Your Child Before Abuse?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - The Two-Brained KidEditor's note: Oddly enough in the last bit of this of mules and children Michael never goes to his obvious usual solution - beating the mule/child to make them behave. This is one of those rare Pearl pieces where Michael gives non-toxic advice. Yes, it is important to establish a good relationship with your children, but that does not include physical violence, the thing lurking just below the surface in Pearlworld. … [Read more...]

Jodi Heckert Pledged to Protect His Daughter’s Virginity, Now in Prison for Child Molestation

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserJodi Heckert and his daughter appeared in a June 14, 2014 Slate Magazine article titled “Striking Portraits of Fathers and the Daughters Whose Virginity They’ve Pledged to Protect.” (While Heckert’s daughter is now an adult, I have decided to not publish her name.) The story features the photography of David Magnusson. As a photographer, I found Magnusson’s work to be stunning (and creepily disturbing), but I do wonder, based on several of his quotes in the article, if Magnusson really understands the American purity culture. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Michael Pearl Confuses Mules and Children?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - The Two-Brained KidEditor's note: Michael Pearl shows that he knows as much about mules as he does about children in this confusing piece where he equates mule training and child training as one in the same and does injustice to the nature of both. I hope he has no access to poor mules! … [Read more...]

Questioning the Pearls – Modesty is Everyone’s Issue

This may well be another of those faux Pearl letters just written to make a point. The letter writer says that if a man has lust problems, that they are his problems. A 'ministry supporter' claims that it's everyone elses responsibility to make sure men aren't tempted with the penis-demon. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Sexual Abuse Victims – Final Advice

by Doug Wilson from Blog and Mablog - When Your Kayak is SmallEditor's note: More Doug Wilson word salad that makes zero sense in light of the life of recovery from sexual abuse. I think, I hope at least, that this might be the final episode of Wilson's toxic advice. … [Read more...]