Questioning the Pearls – Babbling in the Night?

For well over a year we’ve been running a second Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ on Sundays, filled with questions by young ladies trying to get ready for marriage. Since we’ve run through many of the questions on their site it’s time to shift Sundays to something else, like perhaps examining the cornucopia of probably fake emails and questions that Michael and Debi Pearl of No Greater Joy post on their website and the possibly poisonous answers they give. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Women Weaken Every Workforce?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - "A Day, No Years, Without Men" in the WorkforceEditor's note: This week I tried not to quote Ms. Alexander much because I did that review of her book and her lack of logic and wisdom temporarily broke my brain. I ranted to anyone who would listen, my husband, Cindy Kunsman and others about how foolish her financial advice was.This is even worse. What does the title even mean? It's not grammatical and it's confusing. This idea that women in the workforce make every workforce weaker has been debunked many times over by studies done by our nation's Department of Labor and many university studies and research. Lori cites no legitimate source … [Read more...]

The Image Rehab of One Josh Duggar

When it was announced late this week that Anna and Josh Duggar were expecting again it immediately started conversation on message boards speculating two things. 1 - How long before Josh re-offends? He had a long history of bad behavior his parents have swept under the rug, starting with his molesting his sisters and the other victim, through the rumors he looked at porn on campaign computers for another politician through his Ashley Madison exposure, hookups and shenanigans. Add in all the sightings of Josh at Arkansas and D.C. area strip clubs and this seems to be a long-established pattern. Unlikely that his six months at a pray the porn away work camp had much of a dent on his desires. … [Read more...]

A Few Things I Wish Christians Understood About ‘The World’

by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalIf you act like total jerk and people object, you are not "suffering for Jesus", or being "persecuted for your faith". You are simply experiencing normal, negative feedback. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Act Kind to Homosexuals But Convert Them!?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - Trying to Justify Christians Watching 'This Is Us"Editor's note: This week's theme for Lori seems to be sinful movies and television shows. She apparently approves of watching shows with dramatic depictions of murders and other 'sins' but not watching a show named 'This Is Us'. I admit I haven't seen this show so I cannot make a judgment call on if it's sinful or not, but for goodness sakes it's just a fictional television show. If you don't like it, don't watch it and don't beat up on your readers that said they liked it. No one is forcing you to participate in watching the show! Personal tastes vary wildly. I had to share this little bit by … [Read more...]

Josh and Anna Duggar Expecting Again

Guessing that all the rumors of a divorce between reprobate Ashley Madison member Josh Duggar and his long-suffering wife Anna aren't so true. It was just reported that the couple announced that Anna is pregnant with another son on one of the official Duggar blogs. Here's a screen cap of the announcement:Here's hoping things go well? That Josh doesn't cheat or treat her poorly?Have to say while this is not unexpected since there have been rumors since Thanksgiving that Anna was pregnant again, this feels so sad. Poor Anna.Anna must have taken the advice posted in Michelle's blog again and again in the aftermath of Josh's exposure to heart. Michelle kept reposting her advice … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Hipster Clothing Threatens Pastor Tim Bayly’s Masculinity?

by Tim Bayly of Bayly Blog - The Emperor Has Hip ClothesEditor's note: For a guy who claims to be uber masculine pastor Bayly seems to spend a disgracefully large amount of time judging others levels of masculinity. Why would that be?Also, hair is coiffed, scarves are not. Scarves are coiled. Coiffing can only happen to hair, careful styling, or donning a headdress.Saint Benedict never called out random people out for being effeminate either. What he did call out was soft living, as there was a hatred of the body and self-punishment among the monks of that time. Softness and soft bedding, being concerned with soft living was described as 'effeminate' in that time, and those … [Read more...]

The Power of the Transformed Wife – Lori Has Scanty Knowledge of How Money Works

by Suzanne TitkemeyerToday's chapter of Lori Alexander's book is called “Talking About Your Financial Health” It makes me sad. I'm mostly sad with it because of two reasons. First, there's a tremendous opportunity here to give good advice that could ease peoples financial burdens that's misused, but also it's written entirely from the perspective of someone that does not understand the realities of poverty or finances beyond the most simple level. … [Read more...]

Why My Common Cognitive Biases Make Me Lousy at Poker

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceAll images by Cindy Kunsman and Under Much Grace are used with permission. Just a reminder that the purpose of this discussion aims at stimulating thought and self awareness as tools to help those in recovery from trauma learn how to make safer choices. To make the discussion more jocular, we've defined Cognitive Biases as “CranioRectal Inversions” (CRI).As I walked through this past year (recapped here), I recognized the familiar sense of panic that I felt during my last year in my spiritually abusive (cultic) church. A number of years ago, I'd become involved with a new group of people that aspired to achieve some ide … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 6 Everything Women Do is Wrong?

by Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy - The Jezebel ProfileEditor's note: Last bit. We learn that women can try to control without even realizing they are. In Debi Pearl's world there is no winning for a woman no matter what you do. The goal post shifts every time you look. That is the ultimate in keeping someone cowed, controlled and fearful, never let them assume they are doing anything right. … [Read more...]

NLQ Question on the Week: Why Do Women Willingly Join Quiverfull?

This is a series we run every Thursday. The questions are things that people who may not know much about the Quiverfull movement or even Fundamentalist or Evangelical Christianity ask about the lifestyle. Examining some of the questions involving Quiverfull theology and life can only shine a light on the toxic nature of this lifestyle choice. … [Read more...]

News: Toby Willis Arraigned Yesterday

Another TLC good patriarch in Quiverfull is having legal troubles. Toby Willis of "The Willis Family" was arraigned yesterday in a Tennessee court on four counts of child rape according to several news outlets. Toby goes to trial on July 18th, 2017. Willis plead not guilty. More as this story develops. … [Read more...]