Brave New Life: Part 5: Tolerance

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by Melissa cross posted from her blog Permission To Live This post is part of a series, to start with the introduction, please click here. Mere weeks after the phone call that prompted the silence between me and my parents, I received a card from them for Haley and my wedding Anniversary, along with a beautiful queen size quilt. Any other time I would have been thrilled to get them, in the wake of our interaction it just made me feel confused. If they were this upset with me, and did not approve of my marriage, than why the affirmation of it with a card and gift? I couldn’t bring myself to use the quilt, it felt so dirty somehow to put a blanket on our bed when it had been sent by … [Read more...]

Not Quoting Quiverfull: What Happens to the Preyed Upon?

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Remember that awful mea culpa of the youth pastor who'd been caught committing statutory rape with girl at his church as published in Christianity Today? The furor was so immediate and passionate that the story was eventually removed from all media outlets that published it. Now someone who was taken advantage by a youth pastor as an under legal age young woman with body image issues has stepped forward to tell what it's like to be on the receiving end of a sexual predator in t … [Read more...]

It Would Have Been Easier

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by AJ cross posted from her blog I Am Phoenix It would have been easier if my father had just been a regular old sicko who committed incest. I think I wouldn't have been as mad if he was just a regular joe pervert who also was abusive. It’s the way he used Christianity as his cover to hide the abuse, as well as using Christianity as his weapon to threaten us into not speaking of it, that makes me angry. Also, that he had all of us believing that the abuse was God approved makes me even angrier. … [Read more...]

Christian Reconstruction, ATI, Abuse and Submission: Modesty and Lust Part 6

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by SJ Reidhead cross posted from her blog The Pink Flamingo NOTE:  For more information on fashion during the Biblical era, The Far Right’s Manly, Sexy Jesus.  For a history of the period, in perspective:  Part I: Jerry Boykin’s Homo-Erotic Tribute to Manly Men also has a brief fashion history of the Jewish people.   Part II: Jerry Boykin’s Homo-Erotic Tribute to Manly Men contains a short history of bathing and cleanliness of the ancient Hebrews. Part III: Jerry Boykin’s Homo-Erotic Tribute to Manly Men is about soap, water, deodorant, and the basics of the ancient bath in relationship to the Judeans during the time of Christ. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: God Will Provide Enough For A Baby If You Just ‘Trust’ Enough?

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by Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies - Why Are We Scared? Why are we so scared to trust God? Why are we so scared to trust Him with our lives when He is the God of the universe? Why do we think we can make better decisions than God when He is Omniscient (all-wise and all-knowing)? I'm not condemning you; I am guilty, too. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: The Four Points of Obedience For The Duggar Kids?

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From page 44 of the book "Growing Up Duggar" in a section on why children being obedient in all things to the parents is important. Obedience must be: Instant. We answer with an immediate, prompt, "Yes ma'am!" or "Yes, sir!" as we set out to obey. (This response is important to let the authority know you heard what he or she asked you to do and that you are going to get it done as soon as possible.) Delayed obedience is really disobedience. Cheerful.  No grumbling or complaining. Instead, we respond with a cheerful "I'd be happy to!" Thorough. We do our best, complete the task as explained, and leave nothing out. No lazy shortcuts! Unconditional. No excuses,. No, 'That's not my … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: The Prophet – Part 1

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids Collide The next three chapters cover Debi's conceptualization of the personality types of men.  I will give Debi credit for coming up with a schema that I've never heard or seen before.  The chapters on The Prophet (Visionary Man) and The Priest (Steady Man) are rather gentle and painless for a Pearl book.   She gives some breathtakingly bad advice but spends less time than normal running people down. "God tells us right at the beginning of the Bible that he created man in his own image. "And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness" (Genesis 1:26)" … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Bill Gothard and Doug Phillips are like ‘Surrogate Daddies’ not Sexual Predators?

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by Nathaniel Darnell from Persevero News - Of Men and Megalomanics (It must be noted that Nathaniel Darnell also worked at Vision Forum for some years with Doug Phillips. Covering for sexual predators is an ongoing problem in ministries and churches.) Is it possible that some of the accusations being made against Mr. Gothard (and other surrogate daddies) are due to his assuming a “daddy” role in the life of many of the young ladies that came to his ministry and talking to them about various intimate things, or treating them in various intimate ways that might would have been appropriate for a father (but not necessarily appropriate for a non-relative)? … [Read more...]

The Soul is in the Sperm

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, Feminism Now this is weird . I just came upon a video in which Michael Pearl answers questions about sin nature, the soul, sperm, and the artificial insemination of Mary. In case you’re not interested in watching the video, here is a transcript: Jared:  If we are not born with a sinful nature, then why did Jesus need to be born from a virgin? Let’s stop here for just a second. I was definitely taught that we are born with sinful natures. Growing up, I do remember my parents disagreeing with this aspect of Michael Pearl’s teachings. … [Read more...]

Speaking Up About Sexual Abuse

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by AJ cross posted from her blog I Am Phoenix I am at the point in my life now where for the last several months, I have felt safe enough to process the past.  Although I was sexually abused when I was a child, I didn’t tell my family then or as an adult. I kept quiet because I was threatened with hell and the devil when I was a kid. I was so traumatized, I pushed most of the memories away and didn’t think about them for over 30 years. Now that I haven't been a Christian for over a year, I've lost my fear of hell and devil, and I finally feel unthreatened and able to process the abuse. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Don’t Grumble About Cooking?

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by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - Pass On The Tradition It's time to cook supper. "Not again," you sigh. "Why can't I have a break from cooking night after night?" Can I remind you that preparing a meal for your family is not insignificant. It's not a waste of time. It is very much part of your mothering anointing. We see a beautiful description of a godly woman in 1 Timothy 5:10 NASB. The description of her "good works" are, "If she has brought up children, if she has shown hospitality to strangers, if she was washed the satins' (sic) feet, if she has assisted those in distress, and if she has devoted herself to every good work." … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be His Help Meet: Creative Interpretations of the Book of Ruth

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids Collide After Debi finishes twisting Esther from an active woman into a passive girl, Debi turns her attention to Ruth.  In her discussion of the Book of Ruth, Debi pulls a two-fer: Ruth is a passive follower as befits a young girl while Naomi, a wise older woman, gives her great counsel.  In short, Debi uses the story of Ruth to imply that Debi's young, naive readers should follow Debi's ideas unquestioningly.   On a positive note, Debi is blessedly brief on the subject. Away we go! … [Read more...]


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