Kiss Your Monster on the Nose

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceAll images by Cindy Kunsman and Under Much Grace used with permission. I first encountered this story near the end of the book An Adult Child's Guide to What's “Normal” by Friel and Friel, but beyond that, I have no idea where it originated.In many ways, I hope to make the monsters of Cognitive Biases something of friends by what they tell us about ourselves. May we continue to learn from our mistakes and those uncomfortable parts of ourselves that tend to scare us. May they become our respected friends and instruments for fostering healthy growth.Once upon a time there was a little girl who lived in a village far fro … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Single Mothers MUST Stay Home?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - Nancy Wolgemuth's 'Better Understanding' of Keepers of the HomeEditor's note: Lori jumps around on a couple of different topics in this bit. First, that Nancy Wolgemuth has shifted a bit from her original thinking since she got married. That's followed by the toxic ridiculousness that is the idea that single mothers must work from their homes. … [Read more...]

The Power of the Transformed Wife – You Dirty Lazy Woman!

by Suzanne TitkemeyerWe are now on Chapter 16 'Clutter No More' from Lori Alexander's confusing and disjointed book on being a stay-at-home wife “The Power of the Transformed Wife”The subjects still jump around like a frog addled with ADD and amphetamines in a confusing writing style.There's just one big problem with the chapter, worse than the hopping around. There is not one real strategy or idea on how to unclutter, even if Nancy references as a very important thing to do repeatedly in her book and on her blog. The majority of the chapter has been written by another blogger and all five pages can be reduced to this – keep your home immaculate, you lazy woman! Not one possible h … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Shelter Your Children Like Delicate Plants?

by Lori Alexander of The Transformed Wife - Raising Children in the Light of TruthEditor's note: Aside from Lori's usual grammar mistake of 'good' versus 'well' she's attempting to make an analogy between growing plants and raising children. Just like Vaughn Ohlman's Girls Are Apple Trees meme this is not how you raise lemons or children! Some plants must have the cycles of seasons in order to bloom, the hardness of winter giving way to the mild weather of spring, or they remain stunted. Some plants, like orchids, have periods of dormancy where they must be left alone and only watered to cycle before blooming again in glorious abundance. Cacti and succulents require very little water or … [Read more...]

Missing Out on Life When Jesus Owns You

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserYe are bought with a price; be not ye the servants of men. (1 Corinthians 7:23)Yea doubtless, and I count all things but loss for the excellency of the knowledge of Christ Jesus my Lord: for whom I have suffered the loss of all things, and do count them but dung, that I may win Christ. (Philippians 3:8) … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Homosexuality Obsessions in the Church?

by Tim Bayly from Bayly Blog - Every Disability Conceals a Vocation....Editor's note: Sharing this not because of the bad theology that God causes us to be disabled so that He can work some great grand vocation or gift from us. No, as toxic as that thought is it's not why I'm sharing this. This piece, and the two immediately proceeding it, are all consumed with ranting against people who are not straight heterosexuals. Which makes me wonder why Bayly and so many others in the more conservative branches of Evangelicalism so obsessed with what other people do in their bedrooms? It seems almost obscene and telling that every post involves someone else's sexual choices. … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week – Why a Gay Devil Under Every Bush?

This is a series we run every Thursday. The questions are things that people who may not know much about the Quiverfull movement or even Fundamentalist or Evangelical Christianity ask about the lifestyle. Examining some of the questions involving Quiverfull theology and life can only shine a light on the toxic nature of this lifestyle choice. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Banning Working Women – So What if a Few Are Abused by Husbands?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - Being a Stay-At-Home Mom Should be Illegal?Editor's note: Larry has his BVDs in a twist today because a politician in Australia wants to make it mandatory that all mothers work after their children reach school age. He's proposing exactly the opposite. Why is it that neither side seems to realize that feminism does not mean everyone works or everyone stays home? It allows women to hold more choices over their lives, such as not working outside of the home if this is what they and their partner want, or working. It's not an either / or proposition. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Bragging About Messy Homes?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - Bragging About Messy HomesEditor's note: Has someone been openly bragging about having a messy home? I've not seen that anywhere. Show me where this is, Lori, or shut up about it. What I have seen is women agonizing over being pulled too many directions at once, leading them to leave things undone and feeling guilty about it. Lori makes a lot of demands about clean homes for someone that had paid help. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – How Should I Prepare For The Mission Field?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: College Does Not Make You a Better Mother?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - Did My College Education Make Me a Better Wife or Mother?Editor's note: Failure of education at a sub-par Christian college is more what Lori's story sounds like. I attended college and can think of a million small examples where my education did come in handy in my marriage and raising my children. Early Childhood Development classes helped me distinguish between normal behavior and abnormal and the psych classes are invaluable in learning to understand and effectively deal with others just to cite two examples. Lori's parents need to demand a refund from whatever 'College' she attended. This is so not true for everyone! … [Read more...]

When Love Isn’t Enough – Part 2 DYI RAD Treatment

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideI've been thinking about why I'm having a strong reaction to how the Musser family restricted Katie's therapists to no physical affection and only the minimal amount of physical contact.    I think there are two realities of my life that are at play now. … [Read more...]