Not Quoting Quiverfull: Silencing Women Is Wrong

by Tim Fall's blog Tim's Blog: Just One Train Wreck After Another - Silencing Women - the guaranteed way for men to stay in controlEditor's note: Mr. Fall is addressing Tim Bayly's recent childish temper tantrum over Patheo's own bloggers Rachel Miller and Valerie Hobbs of Jesus Creed for saying that the subordination of women in the church is wrong and calling out the misogyny of Doug Wilson and John Piper. Remember when Piper said woman should not be police officers or anything traditionally masculine in the work place? Mr. Fall's entire piece is excellent but we're quoting here the meat of the argument. Enjoy. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: No Negative Talk Ever?

by Colin Campbell from Meat For Men - The Hotter The Battle The Higher The PraisesEditor's note: Now Colin is following his wife Nancy's lead, telling men to control their thoughts and to only be happy, thankful and praising God instead of feeling their true emotions. While I agree openly grumbling likely isn't a good thing all of the time, telling someone to suppress their emotions and thoughts is much worse and can lead you into some pretty strange unhealthy places if you let it. … [Read more...]

Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – Just Friends With A Guy ‘Commenting’

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Focus On Invisible World Only?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - What is Reality?Editor's note: Nancy's one recurring theme she's started harping on more and more is that you should shut up, be grateful to be raising your children plus homeschooling them along with taking care of the house all the while making sure you're doing it like Nancy thinks you should. Anything else, any doubts or independent thought is evil. This is what female cultural enforcers do, dangle the bait of this is how you do it perfectly while pushing all your guilt and shame buttons. … [Read more...]

How Parents Prime Children For Victimization Through Ignorance, Neglect and Abuse of Dependency Needs

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much More GraceOriginally published January 2012. This is part of a series on Understanding How Emotional Development in Childhood Affects Adults: Fostering Spiritual Abuse via the “Roots of Victimization” All images originals from Under Much More Grace. One of the primary roles of a parent should be preparing their children to be safe, protected, and secure in adulthood, preparation that begins in childhood, encouraging the child's growth into maturity. When successful, parents prepare children who become adults who are able to care adequately for their own basic needs and are also responsive to the needs of others without compromising t … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Being a Stay-At-Home Mom is Unsafe Too?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - Out of Sight and Out of MindEditor's note: This piece should really be titled 'Out of Her Mind' because it goes to all new fear-mongering depths. Not only is Nancy saying that working mothers have been duped  by Satan, she's trying to claim that all stay-at-home moms are in danger of being Satan's cabana girl too! How about this Nancy? We will wrap ourselves in clothing fashioned from printed Bible pages, paper the inside of the house with Bible pages and have the Bible being read piped throughout the house while staying inside and away from any possibly Satanic-addled others? Or will Satan magically squish himself under the doorjam and wreck havoc … [Read more...]

“Lies Women Believe” Review 167 – 192

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Samantha P Field.comI think it’s possible that we might be over the hump as far as how terrible the chapters can get. The only sections left for the Lies Women Believe review cover children, circumstances, emotions, and the concluding segment. The “Emotions” chapter might be a bit rough, but today’s, compared to last week’s chapter, is a cake walk. Of course, almost anything compared to a doctrine that could kill women seems like a breeze.This week’s chapter covers what Nancy thinks about children, which means an extensive discussion on, you guessed it, family planning. IT’S UP TO US TO DETERMINE THE SIZE OF OUR FAMILY She roots her arg … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Why All the Hormone-Blaming?

by Steven L Anderson from Faithful Word Baptist Church - Being a Psalm 23 HusbandEditor's note: While some of what Anderson is saying below is true - there will be tough times in marriage - but he eventually goes to that place that Michael Pearl, Biblical Gender Roles and countless other patriarchs go: blaming a woman's hormones for adding to the bad times. Men please get a grip! Hormones aren't causing the strife in your marriage and aren't to blame for everything going sideways! Men have hormones too and be every bit as irrational and angry as the women they accuse. … [Read more...]

The Duggar Family: Jill & Derick Dillard Mission Status & One Slick Real Estate Deal?

Turns out that Jill Duggar Dillard and her husband Derick Dillard are not fully-sanctioned missionaries who have the approval of the Southern Baptist Convention.  They are also not part of the SBC's International Missionary Board either. Not officially part of any legitimate organization, meaning all those angry people who'd initially given to the Dillard Family Ministries have likely paid for a lengthy vacation in Central America for the Dillard family.  At least this is according to The Inquistr - Jill Duggar and Derick Dillard Rejected As Missionaries By The Southern Baptist Church … [Read more...]

What Churches and Time Shares Have in Common – Toxic Manipulation

by Suzanne Titkemeyer cross posted from her blog Every Breaking WaveLast week my husband Jim and I spent a week with friends at a resort in Fort Lauderdale, Florida. It's a pretty nice place, perfect if you want to stay in a perfectly groomed white bread version of a tropical resort with fences and guard gates, minus the ocean but plus a pile of fancy swimming pools. It's wonderful for what it is, but it's not to everyone's tastes. The photo to the left was taken from our suite's balcony overlooking one of the pool areas.It's not a time share, nor do you actually own a week or a certain suite there. It's a vacation ownership organization that works on the points system. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: God MIght Kill You Over a Booty Call?

by Steven L. Anderson from Faithful Word Baptist Church - Being a Psalm 23 HusbandEditor's note: Because of the weird way Anderson reads the King James Version Bible he's not going to come right out and say the words 'sex' or 'sex outside of marriage'. He's calling sex without marriage 'foreign occasions', which makes it sound like he's talking about Bastille Day or Cinco De Mayo instead of what it actually is. Every preacher in the world comes down hard on those that have sex outside the legal and religious bonds of marriage, but Anderson takes it farther, to claiming that God strikes dead some folks that have unmarried sex. Maybe it's wish projection of his. … [Read more...]

Created To Need A Help Meet: Part 4 Mr. Steady (How To Fix Your Wife’s Unhappiness)

by Aletha cross posted from her blog Yllom Mormonpp 94-95We are still talking about the wives of Steady Men. Today, we're discussing how discontent they tend to be, and the fixes men can take for this. Text is in purple … [Read more...]