Duggar Kama Sutra

Paul Rudnick over at the New Yorker wrote a very funny piece about if the Duggar's wrote a sex manual what it would look like. Especially in light of the fact that no hand holding is allowed in courtship, and side hugs only.One of the funnier bits? … [Read more...]

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Gaslighting Heated Up

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsYou can read Part 1 here.In my last post, I had just touched my toe to the cess pool of gaslighting and how it had impacted my experience with spiritual abuse. But then a comment on that post prodded me to delve a bit deeper into the practice of gaslighting. It wasn’t long before long-dormant memories were being stirred as I read, listened, and learned more and more about how gaslighters operate and how their behavior impacts their victims. … [Read more...]

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Day 9 of 21 Days of Healing: No Strings Attached

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that you may have life, and have it more abundantly.” John 10:10I hope you focus on this verse today because if you have suffered spiritual abuse, you have encountered a thief intent on stealing, killing, and destroying you. So cling to the life that Jesus gives – abundant life!And that’s what today’s post is about, too. … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Is Porn a Marriage Deal-Breaker?

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by John Piper from Scott Brown Online - Is My Boyfriend's Porn a Marriage Deal-Breaker?Does Piper have a point or is he totally out there making wrong assumptions? … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Parents Need To Stop Minnesota From Ending Gender Distinctions In School Sports?

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from Ladies Against Feminism - What's a Social Engineer to do When Parents Get in the Way? and the source piece they are citing from The Federalist - Minnesota Plans To Eliminate Gender Distinctions For High School SportsThe ladies of Ladies Against Feminism were largely silent during the month of November except for a few posts about stylish modest clothing. Too bad they aren't  quiet now because they're joining in the gay fear mongering with Steven Anderson and the Duggars. Nothing like a little old-fashioned fear mongering along the lines of Michelle Duggar's trans-phobic robo calls. Ladies Against Feminism is freaking out over the same thing that Michelle Duggar was, the possibility … [Read more...]

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“Real Marriage” review: 156-176, “Selfish Lovers and Servant Lovers”

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons [note: this post inspired some swearing] This chapter seems to be laying all the necessary groundwork for the last chapter in the “Sex” section of the book, and from the title (“Can We ____?”) I’m guessing that’s the one that caused some of the firestorm around it. Honestly, unless he does something drastic in that last chapter, I’m going to be a little confused as to why people were so bothered, since he hasn’t said too much at this point that I haven’t heard echoed in plenty of other corners. … [Read more...]

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My Dogmatic Crazy Glue

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I don't know if anyone else at NLQ follows the comedic genius that is Matt Inman aka The Oatmeal, but if I could but afford it I would hire Inman to do a caricature of the Duggar family I would use in all Duggar postings instead of their photos because it would be so awesomely bad. Matt has an ability to make you laugh even at awful things. Some of his cartoons about religion have been right on the money.Recently he spoke at BAH Fest West and explained his thoughts on Faith (tm). Enjoy. Praise Jibbers!   … [Read more...]

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Gaslighting

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts Editor's Note: We've covered this topic before but it never hurts to revisit some of the basics of harmful practices in churches and the world.I’ve been reading a bit about gas-lighting lately and at first I didn’t think that it played a part in my spiritual abuse. Maybe that’s because many of the articles and blogs that I read assumed that we all know what gas-lighting is already and so they didn’t give a very complete description or definition. I think it was the word “crazy” that finally hit home with me. Essentially, as I started putting it all together, I determined that gas-lighting is when someone tries to make you believe y … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Don’t Complain Ever Because God?

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by Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies - You Are Destined For ThisIf you're even thinking about complaining about anything Nancy Campbell, Evangelical Cultural Enforcer, is poised above your head to hit you with a Biblical fly swatter and a reminder to shut up because it could be worse. Or maybe God had planned all this torment for you to 'refine' you or as a test. What type of all loving all knowing deity tortures people for no good reason? Because Bible! … [Read more...]

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Day 8 or 21 Days of Healing: The Arena

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts“Keep your heart with all diligence . . . ” Prov. 4:23A big “aha!” moment for me came when I went to a conference based on Brene Brown’s book, Daring Greatly.In the book, Brene describes our lives as being lived in an arena. We all live in an arena with people sitting in the seats around us, watching.What we must determine is who sits where. Who gets to sit in the box seats – the places of honor in our lives? Who gets to sit in the cheap seats? … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: AIDS Free By December 25th – The Duggars Lose Their Homophobe Crown?

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from Raw Story by Steven Anderson, Pastor of Faithful Word Baptist Church - Arizona Pastor Predicts "AIDS-Free Christmas" If All Gays Are Killed, As God CommandsAnd here we thought Jim Bob and Michelle were the hatingest haters of the homosexuals in the world of the Christian Patriarch Movement. Looks like Zsuzsanna Anderson's hubby is trying to snatch that crown from their heads.This extreme hatred of gays to the point where he is advocating killing gay people makes me wonder if Steven is so far into the closet that he's seeing the next century's worth of Christmas presents. Many of these guys in the Quiverfull movement are so obsessed with proving their masculinity by keeping the … [Read more...]

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“Real Marriage” review: 139-155 “The Porn Path”

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons Ok, so the last time I talked about porn, a lot of people seemed to think that I don’t have any problems with porn, or that I think that porn is always ok and having negative thoughts/feelings about porn makes you a prude or something. So let me clarify something up front: I have a problem with a lot of porn, but I do my best to limit my discussions about porn to arguments that are reliable in the sense that I have more than anecdotal evidence to back me up. … [Read more...]

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