Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Physical Healing?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, OKrational and the best possible solution, in other words … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Valentine’s Day Edition – Being Alone is ‘Not Good’ Unless it’s to Glorify God?

by K. Marie Adams from Answers in Genesis - If God Made Woman for Man, Then What is God's Plan for Singleness?Editor's note: This author starts out bemoaning Valentine's Day and the state of her singleness before turning it around to claim that being single is all about pressing into God for that relationship. While most holidays are merely marketing tools invented by retailers to increase sales it seems that in Evangelical Fundamentalist Quiverfull being married off young is the be-all and end-all of existence, and this holiday makes the feeling of having failed the primary goal all the worse.  So many young women are not accomplishing this self-stated goal for a variety of reasons. … [Read more...]

A Model of Self – Retracing My History and Healing

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceAll images by Cindy Kunsman used with permission from Under Much GraceAs part of my own pendulum swing of life extremes, I ended up in Quiverfull (QF) as an adult, though I never experienced the fullness of it. As Julie Anne Smith said to me recently, I didn't suffer the same kind of abuse as QF moms or their children, but I was also a victim of the system's cruelty. On top of my own natural grief and despite the experience of a degree of rejection by both peer groups of QF moms and their homeschooled kids, I did suffer my own heartache. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Blind Obediance Isn’t a Well-Trained Child?

by Shalom Pearl Brand in No Greater Joy - Reaching the HeartEditor's note: While Shalom doesn't say anywhere in this article what type of punishment is meted out for failure to obey knowing who her father is and his ideas on physically abusing children I think it's pretty safe to assume that the 1/4 inch plumbing line is alive and well-used in his children's homes as well. This is the first time I've run across anything in the Pearl's teachings that says that a child that blindly obeys isn't doing it right. I thought the entire focus of Michael Pearl's ideas was blind obedience each and every time. What do you think? … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated – Part 1 Chapter 2

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideChapter Two has the delightful title of "Why We're Interested in Boys And Why That's a Good Thing". This chapter can be divided into four themes, but two of the themes are so absurd that they need a separate post to deal with.  Today's two themes are strange in their own right.Overarching Themes: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 Teach Your Children to Fear You or Have Them Harmed?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy – Organize and ManageEditor's note: Again, what is so wrong with not harming a child too young to understand what they did that was wrong? Is there anything really wrong with wanting to be a loving father or mother that prefers to train their child using logic, reason and love? … [Read more...]

Landon Schott Says Millions of People Celebrated Homosexual ‘Love’ by Watching the Super Bowl

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserEditor's note: Just had to post this in the aftermath of the big game. It's a prime example of what goes on in Quiverful,l Fundamentalist and Evangelical theology, simple entertainment or things imbued with imaginary Satanic overtones designed to trip up Good Christians. If the God of the CPM world is so weak as to not be able to have you resist Satan or temptation then what in the heck are they doing worshiping him?Along with tens of millions of Americans, I watched the Super Bowl on Sunday. The Gerencser family has a Super Bowl tradition of gathering at the home of our second-oldest son and … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 Teach Your Children to Fear You or Have Them Harmed?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Organize and ManageEditor's note: Michael starts with what is obviously one of his faker, more made up stories, in order to blame and shame a father protrayed as trying to protect his young daughter. Do any stores have huge heavy automatic doors that swing like this as he describes them as a 'child-swatter'? What's so wrong about a father rescuing their child from a dangerous situation (even a fake one in a story like this) and dealing with the child later about not listening to what they were saying? Yes, folks, another treatise on beating fear into your child to make them mind. One note Michael. Keep in mind the child he is describing is an eleven … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Why Do Quiverfull Families Do Awful Things To Their Families and Claim God Told Them To Do It?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.One thing is for certain, in our real life circles of acquaintances at the old Quiverfull churches and in Quiverfull families online people make risky, not good for their children, their families, their finances, their health, and their emotional well being all the time and justify it by claiming that it's something that God called them to do. I'm talking about when it looks to the outside world that they're doing exactly … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: God Created Your Sinful Desires?

by Mark Watson as republished at No Greater Joy - Confidence When Facing TemptationEditor's note: This is one of those letters that the Pearls purport to get from others praising them for helping them overcome all sorts of stuff. This letter was accompanied with an article written in a rambling style about how the author had struggled with 'lust', but without the usual Pearl-dose of blaming and shaming that goes on in the likely-fake letters they publish. This is another toxic meme in quiverfull and fundamentalist beliefs, that God created you in such a way that you will constantly be tempted to sin. Their version of God always comes across like some sick and cruel bastard. Who would … [Read more...]

My History in the Conservative Quiverfull Home Schooling Movement: An Introduction to the Gender and Authority Series

by Virginia Knowles cross posted from her blog Watch the Shepherd(Editor's note: This series was originally posted in 2011 and is written from the perspective of a woman that is still a Christian.)Dear friends,I've been posting articles and web links for my series on Gender & Authority this past week, and just compiled them all into the July edition of my Hope Chest e-magazine which is sent to about 950 families around the world. This is the introduction I gave to those who don't know me, and I thought it would serve well as an introduction to the blog series, too... … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Give In To What Your Husbant Wants All The Time?

by Stephane Singletary from Purposeful and Meaningful - What To Do When You Are Married To An Unbelieving HusbandEditor's note: What?!? So not only are you supposed to endlessly submit to a guy that isn't living the same way you are but now you're supposed to also go along with him and have no opinions or disagreements on day to day life? It sounds almost as though what's being advocated is worshiping your husband and turning him into the center of a cult of two people, him as the sacred leader/idol and you, the only worshiper/servant. This is not how emotionally healthy marriages function no matter what this woman says. This is not how respect between spouses works. … [Read more...]