Created To Need A Help Meet: Part 4 Mr. Steady (How To Fix Your Wife’s Unhappiness)

by Aletha cross posted from her blog Yllom Mormonpp 94-95We are still talking about the wives of Steady Men. Today, we're discussing how discontent they tend to be, and the fixes men can take for this. Text is in purple … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Jesus Loves Guns?

by Steven L. Anderson of Faithful Word Baptist Church - Being a Psalm 23 HusbandEditor's note: Looked at this piece on Faithful Word's website figuring that Anderson might do some ridiculous ranting on the roles of men lording over women ala Biblical Gender Roles dude only to find him saying basically that owning a gun to protect your wive is biblical. In light of the recent shootings happening in the US by random MRA-type guys I can't say it makes me feel any safer to know that another unhinged-seeming patriarch with masculinity issues is running around with a deadly weapon. Your thoughts? … [Read more...]

Domestic Violence in the IFB Church

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserFirst, let me give readers the definition for domestic violence. The National Domestic Violence Hotline defines domestic violence as: Domestic violence can be defined as a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner.Abuse is physical, sexual, emotional, economic or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, injure or wound someone.Domestic violence can happen to anyone of any race, age, sexual … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – So Does This Punishment Fit The Crime?

by Biblical Gender Roles from Biblical Gender - 7 Wyas to Discipline Your Wife (linked through Do Not Link)Editor's note: As we've seen too many times with this guy it all really boils down to sex. His having sex every single time a stiff breeze or nothing gives him a random erection. His 7th sin and punish is all about sexual denial of the husband by the wife. He believes in punishing for a wife refusing to provide sex as well as all the other ridiculous things he claims are the primary responsibility of the wife. Does anyone really consult their husband before buying clothing or even take him along?  Seems like everything on his list falls into the category of over … [Read more...]

Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – Ideas For Persuading Brothers To Use Good Table Manners

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – So Does This Punishment Fit The Crime?

by Biblical Gender Roles from Biblical Gender - 7 Ways to Discipline Your WifeEditor's note: He's at it again, explaining in great detail how exactly to punish and control your sig-o for offenses real and imagined. Only good thing I can find about his long article is that he states that physical punishment ala Christian Domestic Discipline is wrong. No spankings for offenses, just insanely control every other aspect of her life until she is repentant. How emotionally unhealthy is this advice? We're starting with number three on the list, getting into the more outrageous parts of failures instead of overspending or treating your spouse with disrespect. Whatever happened to … [Read more...]

The Bad Boy and the Angel

by Virginia Knowles cross posted from her blog Watch the Shepherd(Part of October's focus on domestic violence. Originally published December 2014)While decorating for Christmas last week, I left this angel on the table. The next morning, I found her standing with my daughter's Ken doll. Apparently she was planning for them to get married as soon as she could find someone to officiate the wedding.Something about the angel caught my eye. She was looking down, probably because she is supposed to be a tree topper smiling benevolently at the children below. However, standing right next to Ken, she seemed like she was sad and feeling shamed, like he was mad at her and she couldn't … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Go To Church Or Else?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - I Love It, Don't You?Editor's note: Here Nancy is telling everyone to go to church, no matter what. Ignore the bad theology, ignore the spiritual abuse, ignore all the things that are awful or trigger you. Just go and sit right up front, get under the spout where the glory comes out according to Nancy. But this is foolishness as many of us here know. Forcing yourself to do something that harms you isn't very wise, it's a good way to end up even more broken or spiritually abused if you are not careful. … [Read more...]

Created To Need A Help Meet: Part 3 Mr. Steady (Dealing With Drama Queens – And Every Woman Is One)

by Aletha cross posted from her blog Yllom Mormonpp 92-94Today we're talking more about those "female creatures". In an, I'm sure, flattering and equalizing light. Oh wait. Wrong book. Nope; it's more of the sexism we've come to know from Michael. Here goes!Text is in purple … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Love Being At Home Or Else?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - I Love Home, Don't You?Editor's  note: Nancy once again doubles down on the message and implied threat/blame that you must love being home in your home or else you've failed or are in some sort of selfish sin. Dear Nancy, nobody loves being home every single day. I spent yesterday afternoon and evening cleaning out my closet and I can assure you I would have rather have been a million other places than in that closet.  God had nothing to do with it, just like He has nothing to do with most of what has to take place in the home.. But it needed doing. Being home, doing the things that need to happen to keep home running aren't always the things you l … [Read more...]

Here’s How the ‘Pro-Life’ Money Machine Turns Desperate Women into Submissive Baby Makers

by NLQ Founder Vyckie Garrison originally published on Raw Story(Editor's note: Since October is Domestic Violence month Vyckie's story of her first marriage fits well with that theme. We're going to be featuring information on the subject of Domestic Violence a couple of times a week) Vyckie Garrison was once a minor celebrity in the Quiverfull Movement, made famous by TV’s Duggar family. As a devout, Bible-believing Christian and the mother of seven homeschooled children, Garrison spent 16 years, with her husband, publishing a newspaper for families on a similar path. Today, via a website called No Longer Quivering, she publishes resources for women leaving the movement. The f … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Sex Is Only For Christians?

by John Piper from Desiring God - Sex Belongs to BelieversEditor's note: Sounds like Piper thinks only married Christians, the 'right' kind of married Christians are the only ones that should be having any sort of sex. Good luck with that. I really really do not want to think about John Piper and sex. This is just another thing that Christians claim belongs only to believers, a sort of Christian privilege. … [Read more...]