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The 49 Character Qualities of Ruth #10: Basic Training II

March 3, 2010 By Patheos Admin

Persuasiveness vs. Contentiousness – Guiding vital truths around another’s mental roadblocks (II Timothy 2:24) – Bill Gothard by RazingRuth One of the goals of homeschooling, for ATI and I’m sure other communities that homeschool, is to forge tighter bonds within the family unit. As my teacher and the only other female in the house (prior to the first [...]

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The 49 Character Qualities of Ruth #9: Basic Training

March 1, 2010 By Patheos Admin

Wisdom vs. Natural Inclinations -Seeing and responding to life’s situations from God’s frame of reference (Proverbs 9:10) ~ Bill Gothard by RazingRuth Bill Gothard wasn’t a great student. He makes no effort to hide the fact that he flunked the first grade and barely passed the next eight grades. From 1st to 8th grade, he was [...]

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Looking Back: My Family 10 Years on From Fundamentalism

March 1, 2010 By Patheos Admin

by Arietty The past is a foreign country: they do things differently there. ~ L.P. Hartley, The Go-Between When looking back at my family during our days of patriarchal fundamentalism this opening line in the novel The Go-Between often comes to mind. In the last decade we have journeyed so far from where we once [...]

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The 49 Character Qualities of Ruth #8

February 27, 2010 By Patheos Admin

Security vs. Anxiety -Structuring my life around that which is eternal and cannot be destroyed or taken away (John 6:27) – Bill Gothard by RazingRuth (Note from Ruth: This chapter is about my experience and my life. This is not intended to represent any family but my own or any childhood but my own. I fully [...]

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Daughter of the Patriarchy: Two Snakes and a Virgin – The Serpent’s Seed

February 25, 2010 By Patheos Admin

by Sierra I was about nine years old when I started paying attention to some of the doctrines that were slowly infiltrating my life over the past two years. I’d stopped wearing pants or cutting my hair by the end of the first year, following my mother’s lead. The last pair of pants she wore [...]

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The 49 Character Qualities of Ruth #7

February 24, 2010 By Patheos Admin

Resourcefulness vs. Wastefulness – Wise use of that which others would normally overlook or discard (Luke 16:10) – Bill Gothard by RazingRuth Six boys in one room and me, sitting like a princess, in my canopy bed. If that’s not a recipe for jealousy, then I don’t know what is. My parents would often go to little [...]

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More Catholic Than The Pope: Feminism became my enemy of choice and I vowed to aim my life’s energy at its destruction

February 23, 2010 By Patheos Admin

by MusicMom I was born in the midst of the flower children and hippie ferver – 1967. More importantly, for where I ended up in my life, I was born a few years after Betty Friedan wrote “The Feminine Mystique” which raised the consciousness of millions of educated American housewives as to what was exactly [...]

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Lydia's smile could have lit a room

February 22, 2010 By Patheos Admin

This post first appeared at Beauty For Ashes by Laurie M. Paul and I have just returned home from the funeral of a most precious little girl. Lydia’s smile could have lit a room. Now it reflects the glory of God the Savior for all eternity. . . . It is now exactly two weeks [...]

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Disciplining to Death ~ No Greater Joy Ministries and Child Abuse

February 19, 2010 By Patheos Admin

by WanderingOne Friday, February 5, Kevin and Elizabeth Schatz, were charged with beating their 7 year old daughter to death for mispronouncing a word, and torturing her 11 year old sister, who was brought to Sacramento Children’s Hospital in critical condition from kidney failure and other injuries.[1] In addition to the two girls, who were adopted, the Schatz’s have 6 [...]

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Are Scott and Andrea Bass a Quiverfull couple?

February 13, 2010 By Patheos Admin

This article was originally posted at She Keeps Bees. by KM You have probably heard the story by now. Scott and Andrea Bass, the Arizona couple who locked a fourteen year old girl in a bathroom without running water for two months and tortured her to the point of starvation? I’m wondering if this is [...]

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The 49 Character Qualities of Ruth #10: Basic Training II

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