Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – How to Trust God About a Relationship?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Exhausted? Have Another Baby!

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - Strength For Each New DayEditor's note: Nance doubles down yet again on her claims that if you keep pumping out babies that God will make sure you have enough energy to take care of them. Wonder how that applied to all her disappeared African adoptees? Did God give he enough energy to care for them? Where are they? … [Read more...]

Part 15 RU Labor Exploitation For Jesus

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideWe are finally nearing the end of the Application Form for RU: School of Disciples.    So far, RU's collected personal identification information, legal information, health information and previous employment information.They have a section on a background check that matches closely the background check run by the school districts I have worked for.  The two major differences are that the background check used for teachers costs ~100 dollars and involves being fingerprinted by the local police department.  The RU background check costs $40.00 and is limited to what information was provided by the applicant. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Let Your Friends and Family Pick Your Mate?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - How the Modern Practice of Christian Dating is Cruel to Men as always linked through Do Not LinkEditor's note - Larry finally comes out and spells out the only way in his mind for two people to decide to marry, by committee meeting. Followed by a quickie wedding so Mr. Bridegroom can control his brain and his gonads. Such weak silly men in Mr. Solomon's world! … [Read more...]

Created To Need A Help Meet: Part 9 Mr. Command (Your Wife Will Be What You Make Her)

by Aletha cross posted from her blog Yllom Mormonpp 122-123We're starting to finish up the Command Man chapter.Text is in purple. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Miscarriage is Caused by ‘Emotions’?

by Andrew Wommack at Raw Story - TV Faith Healer: Women Have Miscarriages Because They Don't Obey God's Law About Being Too EmotionalEditor's note: With this piece I think I've seen every imaginable blame assigned to women by Christian Patriarchs now. This is vile and extremely hurtful to the many women who have suffered the pain of miscarriage, particularly those who've lost babies they wanted with all their hearts. Miscarriages happen for all sorts of reasons, sometimes no one knows the why, but emotions don't cause them. What he says at the beginning in the clip on Raw Story about depression and mental illness is even worse. … [Read more...]

News: Ron Luce Shuts Down Teen Mania and Acquire The Fire

After years of allegations of cruelty and abuse towards the unpaid interns that do all the hard work at Teen Mania comes news that the entire ministry is being closed down. No more Esoul events at the Honor Academy that saw kids being forced to do so many gross and unsafe things. No more over-priced missionary tourism trips around the globe. No more unsafe living and working conditions for the mission kids or the Honor Academy kids. No more giant Christian rock concerts thrown by a guy that derided rock concerts. … [Read more...]

Part 14 RU Labor Exploitation For Jesus

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideHonestly, I never expected this series to get this long - but the more I read about this program the more freaked out I got.  In fact, my husband argues that signing up for RU's Schools of Discipleship should be legally admissible as a sign of mental incompetence.Today, we look at the work information that RU wants prior to acceptance. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Emotional Intimacy is Only for Marriage?

by Larry Solomon of Biblical Gender Roles - How the Modern Practice of 'Christian Dating' is Cruel to Men and as always linked through Do Not Link for safety purposes.Editor's note: Larry just goes right back to that women owe men sex thing that is the pillar of his entire Christian faith, that does not square at all with the historical and cultural Jesus of the Bible. I feel almost sorry for him, he'll never know what it's like to have friends you're emotionally intimate with that has exactly zero to do with any type of romance, sex or expectations of sex. He's really missing out on one of the best experiences of life, intimate friends. … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Why Child Collecting Via Adoption?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.This morning all the news sites were discussing Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar's plans to adopt a baby in the coming New Year. Not content with the 19 living children they have they are starting the process to adopt according to many different sites like In Touch Weekly and The Inquistr.  There are no details available on if the Duggars will go through DHS or a private adoption agency, but it's likely they'll do like so many other Evangelicals and go through an extremely lenient private 'Christian' adoption agency that doesn't screen the applicants … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Dating Only Encourages Men to Have Sexy Sinful Thoughts?

by Larry Solomon of Biblical Gender Roles - How the Modern Practice of 'Christian Dating' is Cruel to Men and as always linked through Do Not Link for safety purposes.Editor's note: This piece starts off with a story about a young man and woman in Bible college who date and hold to the strict rules of no handholding or side hugs until their engagement only to have the man start imaging what his fiance looks like naked. It's a hop, skip and a jump to his attempting to touch her breasts and derriere, leading to a broken engagement. According to Larry the problem isn't that he's just a normal red-blooded healthy male dealing with emotions and hormones, the problem is that dating is the type … [Read more...]

You Are Beautiful

by AJ cross posted from her blog I Am Phoenix(Editor's note: Not precisely related to QF or religion but something important to remember in recovery. So many of us coming out of high demand religions have such a down negative view of ourselves that it's worthwhile to sometimes stop an realize we are all beautiful. It's a message that can never be repeated too often. We need to keep hearing this message as we recover.)Can you really fully experience being you if you never get outside of yourself?Do you really know who you are if you've never experienced yourself through the eyes of others? … [Read more...]