Who Said It – Michael Pearl and Christian Grey Edition

Think you can tell the difference between things No Greater Joy's Michael Pearl says and the things said by Christian Grey in the book 'Fifty Shades of Gray'? Guess which below belongs to which man. Answers at the very bottom of the page. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Women Were Made For Men’s Sexual Pleasure?

by Biblical Gender Roles from Biblical Gender Roles.com - The Heresy of Skip Moen and His Book 'Guardian Angel' Part 2Editor's note: In BGR eagerness to debunk the assertion in Skip Moen's book that women exist to help keep their husbands on the straight and narrow road of life in Christ he goes to a place that Moen never mentioned in his book. The so-called 'natural use of women' in a marital relationship. BGR does not seem to realize that by reducing women to servants who put out sex and bear children he's missing out on some of the best parts of a marriage. How sad for his wife and he, much less anyone actually taking his words seriously. … [Read more...]

Understanding How Dysfunctional Families Prime Children For the Experience of Shame (Leading To Victimization)

by Cindy Kunsman from Under Much GraceOriginally published January 2012. This is part of a series on Understanding How Emotional Development in Childhood Affects Adults: Fostering Spiritual Abuse via the “Roots of Victimization”There are many excellent Christian books concerning dysfunctional family dynamics -- that is besides the Book of Genesis which contains the best archetypal examples of how you should NOT relate to other family members! One of the most interesting families to draw out on a relationship diagram is that of Jacob, Esau and their parents, and some of the Christian self-help books in this genre look at many of the Old Testament patriarchs to explain how tri … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Not A “Real” Woman Unless You Bear Children?

by Biblical Gender Roles from Biblical Gender Roles.com - The Heresy of Skip Moen and His Book 'Guardian Angel' Part 2Editor's note: Oh boy, now he thinks that all women secretly desire children and if you don't that you've bought some modern lie. In his simplistic and immature world all women should have children, or at least want children to validate their own roles as women. Funny how people with little to know experience in certain situations or roles always want to redefine those roles for others. … [Read more...]

Mythical Creation Science: Who Was Cain’s Wife?

by Mel cross posted from When Cows and Kids CollideA common problem pointed out by people who can read is that Cain's wife came out of the blue. Ken Ham himself decides to tackle this problem himself in Chapter 6 of The New Answers: Book 1.The Problem: In Genesis 4, Adam and Eve have sex and give birth to Cain and Abel.  They both offer sacrifices to God.  God likes Abel's sacrifice, but not Cain.  Cain gets mad and kills Abel.  God banishes Cain.  Cain has sex with his wife and they have kids.  Eventually, Adam and Eve have another son they name Seth. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Public School is Creating Indoctrinated Herd Mentality?

Ray E. Moore of Exodus Mandate as quoted by Raw Story - Christians Urge Parents to Save Their Kids From Indoctrination With an Exodus From Public SchoolsEditor's note: I don't think that our government is organized enough to have an actual agenda to turn all American children into an unquestioning herd of robots like Moore is claiming in the first part of his piece. While Common Core may not be the best thing for education, it remains to be seen, it's not trying to indoctrinate Christian kids to leave the church. Part martyrbating and part fear mongering. Every parent should be free to decide what type of education they want for their children and what will be best suited for each … [Read more...]

Ignoring Friendship is Destroying the Church

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Samantha P Field.comI’ve been mulling over a few thoughts for the past few months, and they all sort of came to a head last night. Suddenly things that didn’t seem to be connected fit together to create one compelling conclusion: the Christian obsession with marriage and family (read: traditional, nuclear) is destroying the Church and her people.A bit ago I was a part of a discussion group to help a group of pastors who wanted to make sure they created a safe space for LGBT+ people, regardless of whether or not they identified as Side A or Side B. One of the things that was emphasized over the course of the discussion was the absolute need … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: No Babies? You Must Be Eating Wrong?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - God Is Your HealerEditor's note: I hate, hate, HATE this type of thinking regarding infertility in the Quiverfull movement. Those who've read my story know that during my years as a trying to submit attempting to quiver momma know that I ended up having nine miscarriages before having to get a hysterectomy to stop my continual bleeding. During those years I got some of the same advice Nancy gives and a lot of very unhelpful advice and blaming such as many thought that my liking an occasional diet coke was causing the miscarriages all the way to being told it was 'unconfessed sin' in my life causing the miscarriages, that God was punishing me, or it … [Read more...]

Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – Should I Or Shouldn’t I Court Him And How?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Being Happy During Sorrow?

by Megan Van Vuren from No Greater Joy - The Lord's Mercies Never FailEditor's note: While this flogging a book written by not by Michael and Debi but by one of their ministry people Erin Harrison it seems from the cover and this paragraph that it's merely another doubling down on the 'Don't ever have negative emotions' thing tha NGJ does so well. We've all seen how well not being allowed to feel your own real emotions works out. Curious that they chose to promote this on the 14th anniversary of 9/11.  Are they implying that you can have joy and peace during the one of the most massive tragedies in America by controlling your thoughts? Seems a bit tacky if that's the implication. … [Read more...]

News: Fans Angry Over Jill Duggar Dillard and Derick Dillard Donation Use

by Suzanne TitkemeyerETA: Perhaps I might have to eat my words about the Duggar Studios just being the kids trying to get paid. This story from the Inquistr seems to say it's a family money grab - Duggar Family Tries To Recreate Reality Series Magic With Amy Duggar Wedding Video, Fails MiserablySeveral days ago I took a look at all the major media sites claiming that the Duggar family was going broke because of Jill and Derick asking for donations for their El Salvador mission venture. It looks like people are just getting angrier over the possibility that the donated mission monies being used for personal expenses. The two recent back to back trips back to Arkansas by the family for … [Read more...]

A Connection Between Marriage and Holiness? Part 5 of Tim Keller on Sex

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace I posted this while bleary-eyed, so please let me know about typos! In an earlier post in this discussion, we read Shirley Taylor's summary of the writings of Tim Keller and those who ascribe to the misogyny that arises from Eternal Subordinationism.  This doctrine is used to argue that husbands rule and reign over their wives because, as the teaching asserts. Christ is subordinate to God the Father. who rules and reigns over His Son.  The Father is the exemplar for men and the Son is the exemplar for women in this paradigm … [Read more...]