How Should Churches Handle Allegations of Abuse?

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by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserHow should churches handle allegations of abuse? Let me state right up front that I do not think churches shouldn’t “handle” anything.  This is what gets churches, pastors, and church leaders into trouble to start with. Instead of immediately doing the right thing when someone makes an allegation of abuse, pastors and church members often: … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Selfish Momma Dooms Children?

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by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Broken CirclesEditor's note: More of the harsher rhetoric of the Pearls from the 1990s. In this lengthy piece we're quoting Michael lays the blame for all the children out of control firmly at the feet of women who divorce their husbands. This is pretty awful in so many ways. All the  boxes of Pearl fears are checked, drinking, addiction, sexual molestation of children, lesbian duplex/apartment living, poverty..and how did Mom go from living with another man to rushing out to date? Typical Pearl lack of logic or editing. … [Read more...]

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Who Said It – Michael Pearl and Christian Grey Edition

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Think you can tell the difference between things No Greater Joy's Michael Pearl says and the things said by Christian Grey in the book 'Fifty Shades of Gray'? Guess which below belongs to which man. Answers at the very bottom of the page. … [Read more...]

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Siding With The Many

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsI often reblog or link to the writings, wisdom, and insights of others, not so much because I couldn’t have said it myself, but simply because I fear that were I to address these issues, it would appear that I am simply trying to argue for myself.  As those of us who are intimately familiar with spiritual abuse, doing so would create an immediate dismissal of my writing simply because I would be perceived as only making an effort to defend myself.  In the world of spiritual abuse, this would result in making me the problem for pointing out the problem. … [Read more...]

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Helpful Links For Recovering From Abuse

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One of the things that has happened in the wake of Josh Duggar's sexual molestation coming to light has been that both NLQ Founder Vyckie Garrison and myself have started to discuss what is the best response, in what way can NLQ help those that have suffered from similar things, to promote healing and wholeness. One thing we came up with was a list of different types of organizations and people who offer help or information. This is our list. … [Read more...]

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Survivor Testimonials & Prayer For Hope

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by Emily cross posted from her site - Christian Patriarchal Watch List For  Parents What do these ideas look like in real life? It varies, but not something I want for my daughter in any shade of gray, you? "I guess when you are the center of your family (prophet, king, and priest) where all the women serve you (wife and unmarried daughters), it must go to your head. On top of that add homeschooling expert, president of a company/ministry, and leader in a church, sought after speaker, author, and not to mention one's own sin nature, and what do you have?" http://surphside.blogspot.com/2013/11/questions-and-thoughts-about-vision.html … [Read more...]

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News – Race, Homeschooling and Domestic Terrorism

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This first news isn't precisely Quiverfull or Fundamentalist Christian related but it is awful. A young man by the name of Dylann Roof is a suspect in the shooting deaths of nine people in a prayer meeting in Charleston, South Carolina. This took place at a historic African American church that has been a cornerstone of the community since 1816. Our thoughts and prayers go out to everyone affected by this senseless killing spree.More from CNN - Charleston church shooting: '9 killed because they were black,' official says … [Read more...]

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Oh Daughters of Fundamentalism, Take Upon Yourselves the Cloak of Self-Deception

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by Sarah Henderson cross posted from her blog Feminist in Spite of Them I recently witnessed a young girl who is struggling a bit who expressed that she was a bit unhappy with her life, being told that she just needs to take it one day at a time, and be happy with it. To me it is shameful to express to a child or a teenager that their discomfort or unhappiness with a difficult situation stems from their own inability to cope. What message is being given to girls when they are told that although they are not the creators of the bad situation, they must be the authors of the solution, but the solution must only be to swallow their feelings and smile. … [Read more...]

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How Do We Tell Who The Real Victim Is?

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by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living Liminal In recent times, I've been following developments in the story of Julie McMahon vs Tony Jones, which first surfaced last year in the comments section of this blog post.Since that time, emotions have run high. People have taken sides and tried to shut down opposing voices. Names have been called and accusations thrown around. … [Read more...]

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Cersei Lannister, Rape Culture, and a Lot of Me Flipping the Bird in General

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The DragonsTrigger Warning: Sexual violence I’ve read G. R. R. Martin’s A Song of Ice and Fire up through Feast of Crows, and I’m currently reading Dance of Dragons, albeit slowly. The books are a struggle for me to read, as an abuse and rape survivor. I do enjoy them, although I caution people to engage with Martin’s world critically. He’s been hailed by a lot of people as a “feminist” writer, but I am extremely hesitant to think of him in those terms (read Sady Doyle’s piece there– it’s both hysterically funny and insightful). … [Read more...]

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