Bonding and Bondage in Abusive Relationships

by Virginia Knowles cross posted from her blog Watch the ShepherdIn case you're wondering why you can't "just get over it" from a painfully abusive or damaging or destructive relationship: Trauma bonding makes any relationship harder to end, harder to heal, harder to find freedom from through forgiveness, than the loss of a true love. The neural pathways burned into a brain in trauma bonding are laid down in powerful fear/anxiety hormonal rushes leaving even comparatively good memories with the person colored with the stains of those traumatic events. The loss of anyone we have loved -- whether they have treated us very well indeed or in a deplorable manner -- is something that will heal … [Read more...]

“Lies Women Believe” Review: 45 – 62

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Samantha P Field.comThis chapter of Lies Women Believe (lies we believe “About God”) illustrates rather perfectly what I was talking about in my last post– how Christians taught me that my own heart can’t be trusted because it’s hell-bent on deceiving me. Nancy spends a lot of time laying the groundwork for the rest of the book, which is primarily the idea that your life experience cannot be trusted.But, before we get to that, let’s begin with something I agree with her on: … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Michael and Debi’s Love Story – Part Two

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids Collide(Editor's note: I know I'm posting these out of sequence. I overlooked the continuation of the Pearl's love story. Rectifying that now. This is what happens when you kill off brain cells listening to the Duggars, Swanson and others daily.) Preparing to Be A Help Meet: Debi and Michael's Love Story - Part TwoIn Part One, Debi goes to a youth gathering at a local church and is told by God that she's going to marry Michael Pearl.  She's 13.  He's approximately 21.  Yipee.Debi goes home and tells her mom the good news:"Then I casually told her that God had spoken to me and told me that, when I grew up, the preacher g … [Read more...]

She’s a Witch!

by Anais Chartschenko cross posted from her blog Whisper CollectorHis mother told him she had seen demons around me. I had heard of overprotective mothers, but this was ridiculous. What was worse is that this guy believed his mom. He offered to pray for me. Guys- a word of advice: It is a complete mood killer to tell your date that you are praying for her immortal soul. … [Read more...]

Fascinating Womanhood Review: Understanding and Accepting Men

by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons One thing I will say for Helen’s writing: she is organized. The book is split into two primary halves based on Angelic and Human qualities, and each quality is broken down into parts in order to be explained efficiently. The Angelic quality “Understands Men” is introduced by chapter three, “Accept Him.” … [Read more...]


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