“Real Marriage” review: 3-18, “New Marriage, Same Spouse”

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons [content note: sexual violence, emotional abuse] I’m doing something different with Real Marriage than how I reviewed Fascinating Womanhood and Captivating; with the last two books, I’ve read the entire thing before I started and then did one chapter at a time, trying to keep the message of the whole book in mind. After reading the first few chapters of this book, I realized I couldn’t handle that– not spiritually, not emotionally, not psychologically. So, for this review, what you’ll be reading from me will lean in the direction of gut reaction and instinct, since I don’t know where Mark and Grace are taking this. … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Praying Women and “Spiritual Masturbation”

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 180—182So, Debi gets mail. Or rather, Michael does, but whatever, it made into Debi’s book. Dear Mr. Pearl,I am a busy mother whose children go to a Christian school. I am realizing that without another close female in my life who could share house duties, it is harder on me than it should be. Do you by any chance have a husband? Because believe it or not, they can help out with things like housework and childcare. I know, right? It’s crazy! … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Being an Abused Woman Makes You Sinful?

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by Jennifer Tritle at Chalcedon.edu and cross posted at Ladies Against Feminism - Joy as a Tool of Dominion For the Abused Woman Consider this scenario: Various women are abused as children. They grow up in conscious or unconscious guilt and shame. They subtly or ostensibly manifest fear, bitterness, depression, masochistic dependency, and/or sadistic domineering behaviors in their personalities. Undiscipled Christian men are attracted for various conscious and unconscious reasons to … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Tell My Wife To Have Sex With Me!

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, Feminism(Trigger Warning for intimate partner rape)Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 161—164In this post we begin on Debi’s chapter “To Love Their Husbands.” Remember that Debi is working her way through the things older women are commanded to teach younger women in Timothy 2. You want to know what this entire chapter on wives loving their husbands is about? I bet you can guess. Sex. That’s right, I’m not surprised either. I do need to start with a warning, though. If you’ve ever experienced intimate partner rape, I’d suggest you either read carefully or skip this post altogether. … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: In Which Debi Has Scientific Proof

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love Joy FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 221-222Debi starts this section with these reassurances: So, is a woman a second-class citizen of the kingdom? Is she to be a subdued, brow-beaten servant to the male species? Certainly not! What the Bible teaches will not put women back into the Stone Age, nor will it turn us into a bunch of Muslim-like women who stay covered in black, sweaty bourkhas. If you knew me (and by the time you finish reading this … [Read more...]

(Not) An Open Letter to the Pearls

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by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons and Homeschoolers AnonymousSamantha Field blogs at Defeating the Dragons, and she was recently featured in a Christianity Today story entitled, “Finding Faith After Spiritual Indoctrination.” This piece was originally published on her own blog, and is reprinted with her permission. Also by Samantha on HA: “We Had To Be So Much More Amazing” and “The Supposed Myth of Teenaged Adolescence.” … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Taming Wild Horses and Lassoing Bears

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love Joy FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 105-106Weirdly, this passage actually succeeded in making me more angry than have just about all of the passages so far, but in some sense a different sort of angry. Rather than just saying “What?! No!” after every sentence, I’m going to make four distinct … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Don’t Resist, Confront or Challenge

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love Joy FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 100-104 A wise woman does not dream of what “could have been.” … Therefore, she is joyful and content in her present circumstances. In this section, Debi will argue that you need to impose a sort of thought policing on yourself, and that discontentment stems not from bad … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: The Butter Churn, the Carrot and the Stick

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love Joy FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 94-98Debi starts off this section by discussing the 1989 movie Dad. I haven’t seen it so I have only the wikipedia summary to go off of. Basically, a busy young executive is called home to help his ailing parents, and he ends up helping his dad, who had been growing senile, live more fully and learns to live more fully himself in the process. Upon waking up from a coma, the father suffers delusions that he spent his life on a dairy farm, rather than as an aerospace industry worker, and keeps speaking of people who never existed. … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Don’t Take Your Mr. Steady for Granted

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love Joy FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 86-92 God is as steady as an eternal rock, caring, providing, and faithful, like a priest—like Jesus Christ. … [Read more...]


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