NLQ Question of the Week: Why is a Man’s Infidelity Always The Wife’s Fault?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.One of the sadder things that has happened after Josh Duggar's infidelity was exposed is the number of Christians expressing the idea that a wife is always responsible when the husband has sex with someone else during their marriage. It's an idea that has been mentioned even in the mainstream media, that poor heartbroken betrayed Anna Duggar is going to be blaming herself and it's likely the entire family will blame her. Like she doesn't have enough trauma and pain in her life this unBiblical theology point is going to add to that. It's already … [Read more...]

Creating Conditions for Abuse

by Emily cross posted from her site Christian Patriarchal Watch List For Parents "Bible-based groups that are authoritarian, legalistic, and sanction-oriented tend to create conditions for abuse within families. Survivor blogs/netoworks address how to recognize it and deal with it, with links to outside help and resources, and document family abuse in the Geftakys Assembly. Additional resources on the effects of family abuse, and the proper roles of spouses and parents, can be found in the Biblical Perspectives and Recovery sections of the site. http://www.geftakysassembly.com/Reflections/AbuseInFamilies.htm … [Read more...]

“Real Marriage” review: 3-18, “New Marriage, Same Spouse”

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons [content note: sexual violence, emotional abuse] I’m doing something different with Real Marriage than how I reviewed Fascinating Womanhood and Captivating; with the last two books, I’ve read the entire thing before I started and then did one chapter at a time, trying to keep the message of the whole book in mind. After reading the first few chapters of this book, I realized I couldn’t handle that– not spiritually, not emotionally, not psychologically. So, for this review, what you’ll be reading from me will lean in the direction of gut reaction and instinct, since I don’t know where Mark and Grace are taking this. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Being an Abused Woman Makes You Sinful?

by Jennifer Tritle at Chalcedon.edu and cross posted at Ladies Against Feminism - Joy as a Tool of Dominion For the Abused Woman Consider this scenario: Various women are abused as children. They grow up in conscious or unconscious guilt and shame. They subtly or ostensibly manifest fear, bitterness, depression, masochistic dependency, and/or sadistic domineering behaviors in their personalities. Undiscipled Christian men are attracted for various conscious and unconscious reasons to … [Read more...]

(Not) An Open Letter to the Pearls

by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons and Homeschoolers AnonymousSamantha Field blogs at Defeating the Dragons, and she was recently featured in a Christianity Today story entitled, “Finding Faith After Spiritual Indoctrination.” This piece was originally published on her own blog, and is reprinted with her permission. Also by Samantha on HA: “We Had To Be So Much More Amazing” and “The Supposed Myth of Teenaged Adolescence.” … [Read more...]

Abusive Theology, Oklahoma and Us

by Joel L. Watts crossposted from The Huffington PostIt would seem when John Piper tweets, the world takes notice in much the same way it notices the words Pat Robertson says -- with much gnashing of teeth. Almost immediately after the monster of massive currents touched down in Moore, Okla, John Piper tweeted Job 1.19: … [Read more...]

Connecting Homeschooling and Religious Abuse

by Becoming WorldlyI was asked a very good question by a homeschooler recently and figured I’d answer it here as well, expanding on it a little bit. The essence of that question (as I understood it) was “Why are you including homeschooling in your discussion of religious abuse? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Bad Attitude Causes Chronic Illness?

by Pat Robertson on The 700 Club - April 2, 2013 “The first thing you’ve got to get straight is that what’s happening to you isn’t necessarily ‘God’s plan’ for you,” Robertson said in response, looking into the camera. “What is it Shakespeare said? ‘The fault, dear Brutus, … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Polygamy & Christianity?

RedLegBen on his wife's blog Sarah's Daughter - January 17, 2013 Men value loyalty. If a wife is loyal, a man will put up with a lot of crap. I have seen men put up with women putting on weight that equals the newer economy cars but remain with their wife because they are loyal.  If feminism were reversed, women would be demanded to provide sex to their ex … [Read more...]

The Gender Issue

by Wendy Leifeld(Editor's note: The link for this article came into my email box (thanks Frank!)  and while it was written & originally published back in 1992 it illustrates the same struggles over gender roles occurring in churches and in … [Read more...]