The Famous Ones

by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsThere are big names out there in the spiritual abuse world.  Big name perpetrators.  Big name authors of blogs and books and Twitter feeds.  Big names whose social media accounts explode regularly over big names.  Big names getting the word out about big names who have committed outrageous acts of abuse.  And, of course, any time those outrageous acts are committed with any hint of ties to churchianity, we recognize them as not just sexual or domestic or physical abuse, but as spiritual abuse. … [Read more...]

Awkwardness

by Mari cross posted from her blog Mari's MusesI went to Bible Study tonight. We were supposed to get into groups and answer this question:As a child, how did you adapt in order to be accepted or in order to fit in?I didn’t answer the question.I fully intended to go home and think about it, but my friend’s 3-year old threw herself at me the second I suggested going home, so I held her, hugged her, and prayed that she would never, ever have the same answer to that question that I have. … [Read more...]

Not Quoting Quiverfull: Retracting Harmful Words Towards Gays in Church

from Buzz Feed -Exclusive: 9 Former Ex-Gay Leaders Join Movement to Ban Gay Conversion TherapyShort excerpt from the letter: … [Read more...]

“Frozen”: True Love Doesn’t See Agendas Behind Every Bush

by Suzanne Titkemeyer cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapeYou have to see this before I start talking about "Frozen". Of the many wonderful versions of the song 'Let It Go' from "Frozen" I think this one personally tops them all. But then again I love classical music so blending the song with Vivaldi's "Winter" makes sense to me. … [Read more...]

Differentiation and Emotional Cut-Offs

by Sarah Henderson cross posted from her blog Feminist in Spite of ThemMurray Bowen's theories on differentiation of self, and emotional cut-offs provide an excellent lens for viewing the complex relationships that exist between family members who were raised in quiverfull and Christian patriarchal families, where the family roles are artificially skewed by religious influence and the necessity for sibling-parenting due to sheer numbers in the family. … [Read more...]

Revisiting Tapati’s Body Image Workshop: Why Body Image Matters

by Tapati(Editorial note: after all this talk of modesty and body image I felt this is the right time to revisit Tapati''s entire Body Image Workshop. We all need to be reminded we're beautiful just as we are.)My involvement with the issue of body image came out of my encounter with the size acceptance movement in the late 1980s. I was fortunate enough to meet Ruah Bull, a body image educator. I had never heard of such a thing but soon I was exposed to her classes at Cabrillo College in Aptos, California. She had studied with body image guru Marcia Hutchinson and had joined with other large women to form a radical group that occasionally defaced billboards with thin models and … [Read more...]