Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Part 6 Cinderella

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideWe are at the last section of the Leah/David courtship where Leah shares her post-marital advice. Post-marriage thoughts: No Regrets Do you know how nice it is when we look through family photo albums at Christmas to never see David with another girl? No. I assume Leah means with another girlfriend, but either way, seeing a photo of your husband with an ex shouldn't be traumatic. … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Internet/Phone Accountability To Keep Hearts ‘Pure’?

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by Jana, Jill, Jessa, and Jinger Duggar from their book "Growing Up Duggar" - page 152Doesn't say if this is only for the kids or also for the young adults in the household. … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Is Using Accountability Software “Trusting In The Lord”?

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Remember last week when we posted an account by The Joy Filled Wife of how her husband harangued her over a piece of bread and other bad abusive behaviors he exhibited while addicted to internet pornography?  Over on the Always Learning blog - by Lori Alexander - there is a piece about how Joy Filled found out her husband was using pornography because the accountability software installed on his computer sent her an email with info about how many links he visited and how long he spent surfing these links. While NLQ isn't condoning addictions or pornography it does beg the question - Is it right or moral to monitor your significant others internet usage? What do you think?Lori also has … [Read more...]

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Accountability and Failure and More Accountability

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by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open GroundMy early years of my childhood were filled with a lot of rules. My family started homeschooling in the early 90s when I was 6. My first two years homeschooling were really fun. We did a ton of field trips and park days, and I still had my trolls. Lord knows I loved my trolls. … [Read more...]

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Self Preservation and Mental Health

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by Sarah Henderson cross posted from her blog Feminist in Spite of ThemIn my last post, I made a brief mention of how living in a state of survival affected my mental health. I thought it would be a good idea to expand on this issue, because in my opinion it is the crux of why having quiverfull families and homeschooling in chaos is abusive to the children involved.As I have mentioned before, doing something that causes harm to your child is abusive regardless of your intentions or religious justification. … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Benefits of Having Older Children?

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by Zsuzsanna Anderson of Are They All Yours? - The Benefits and Pitfalls of SchedulingHaving older children is a great asset for many reasons:They help set a pattern: When you have two parents and four older children all following a consistent schedule, the younger ones simply fall in line themselves, assuming it's just the way things are. … [Read more...]

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Who Was That Masked Man: Part 9

by CaluluHigh school graduation loomed for Tom's oldest non-disabled kid, a son that's as bright as they come. The son has always been in the gifted and talented program at the local schools and was eligible for a few different college scholarships. The problem was that except for the small scholarship money there was no other funds for college. the scholarships were about enough to pay Tom Jr.'s tuition at community college but not enough to pay for books, a car, and gas back and forth much less pay for room, board and tuition at one of Virginia's four year universities.How do I know that? Because Hubby was the recipient of a late night drunken call from Tom, a call out of the blue. … [Read more...]

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Raised Quiverfull: Living the Life Part 1

by Libby AnneRaised Quiverfull Introduction — Questioning SummaryPlease be sure to click the above links to see an introduction to and explanation of this project, which involves a panel of nine young adults who were raised in Quiverfull families and have since questioned and left that ideology answering questions about their experiences.  Question 1: What sort of a church did your family go to while you were growing up? Were the other families who attended the church also involved in the Christian Patriarchy/Quiverfull movement?Joe:Before my parents divorced in 1987, we attended an American Lutheran Church in Minneapolis, Minnesota, USA.  It was … [Read more...]

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Millipede: Part 10

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by MillipedeIn face of these events, I found work. Once I overcame my husband's reluctance to enter the workforce, he seemed to accept the situation. He drove me to pick up applications. He still held to his Patriarchal beliefs, but in light of our situation, he got over issue of my returning to the workplace.Things went smoothly for a couple of months and then came the phone call. My sister in law who lived at our previous residence called. She had received a notice for my husband to appear in civil court. It was an old medical bill from years back. This wasn't exactly a novel experience. In the last year that my husband was working, we had almost been sued over a smaller bill. … [Read more...]

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Pornography and the Fundy

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by Calulu(Warning, possibly triggering and some of the links are of the not safe for work variety.)Recently I started thinking about pornography. Not that I was partaking it in, it's never done anything for me. I might as well be looking at a pile of rutabagas or dirty socks. It is what it is, but it never did much to make me experience sexual feelings of excitement. But then again, I did grow up in New Orleans, with its capacious amounts of ever present sex shops, hookers, strip clubs and just general debauchery. I was jaded about such things by the age of eighteen and have never viewed them as erotic in any way.Plus I understand the Feminist views on pornography objectifying … [Read more...]

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