Raised Quiverfull: Introductory Questions

by Libby AnneWelcome to Raised Quiverfull! Nine young adults who grew up in the Christian Patriarchy and Quiverfull movements have come together to answer a series of questions about their experiences. All of these young adults have since questioned and left these ideologies and have chosen their own life paths. The goal of the Raised Quiverfull project is to inform. Click here for the Raised Quiverfull introduction.This section, Introductory Questions, showcases the participants’ responses to three introductory questions. If you would like to read the questions and answers to these three questions in one document, click here. To go to the other sections and read the par … [Read more...]

Debunking the Fourteen Basic Needs of a Marriage: Part 1b – Women? Goals? Who Are YOU Kidding!

By Incongruous CircumspectionIn Part 1a, we witnessed Bill Gothard call a woman who does not obey her husband in everything, never questioning any decision he makes, a "fool". He based this epithet on a woman while referencing Ephesians 5:22 - 24. Of course, I uncovered the fact that Bill was flat out lying. That passage says nothing of the sort.Let's continue discussing Gothard's first Basic Need of a Husband ([A man needs a wife that is loyal and supportive]).Gothard continues to expound on the above basic need by stating the following:[Realize that your husband’s perspective is different than yours.]Wow. Bill is really smart. Put two or more people together and you h … [Read more...]

NLQ FAQ: Is No Longer Quivering an Atheist Website?

by VyckieI recently received an email from "Henrietta" who asked:If I choose to get involved here, contribute etc, am I part of a Christian but anti QFP group; or an anti Christian and esp anti QFP group?It is ironic that NLQ seems to be perceived quite differently depending on the perspective of the reader. We have several new readers who are commenting here on the blog ~ conservative, Quiverfull Christians who are convinced that NLQ is nothing but angry, pro-abortion, Feminazi Atheists.  On the other hand, MoJoey at "Deep Thoughts" recently promoted NLQ with the caveat: Now granted, No Longer Quivering is a Christian site and I don’t normally pimp out the opposition but the woman who … [Read more...]

Leaving the Fold

[Note: This piece was originally posted at "Enlightened Life."]by JesslynFive years ago, we commenced our homeschooling journey.  We were moderate christians, active in church and we believed in our faith wholeheartedly.  My 2 oldest were very interested in the solar system and dinosaurs and we spent a great part of that year learning about those subjects.  Our approach was purely scientific and secular.  I had a few moments of doubt (as a christian) about what we were learning but felt confident that “exposing” them to secular science was a good thing. As the years progressed and we traveled deeper into the homeschooling world, I was faced with some tough decisions.  None of the fam … [Read more...]

Daughter of the Patriarchy: The Atheist

by SierraWilla was an atheist. A self-styled “unschooler,” she attended homeschool conventions and activities with her two children, Alexis (9) and Steven (5), and it was there that she met my mother. Willa’s husband worked in a field that I knew only abstractly as something involving computers and sales. He was a passive, taciturn man with whom I never exchanged a single word. Their children were boisterous, especially Alexis. Willa attached herself to my mother very quickly. Since Alexis was my age, we were an automatic source of play dates, which often really amounted to tea parties for our mothers. Common interests seemed to abound at first: homeschooling, books, and bargains. Both ador … [Read more...]

Everybody's dying to know!

by VyckieA friend and I were talking rather excitedly about my upcoming guest appearance on the Joy Behar Show.  We were chattering away when she suddenly asked me, "How are you going to respond if Joy asks you what you believe about religion now?"Well, to tell the truth, I was stumped.  I mean, I do have an answer to that question, but the minute my friend asked me about it, my brain froze up and I couldn't think of a thing to say. Oh no, I thought ~ what if I get totally stuck during the interview?  I'd better be prepared!  I'm sure I won't get a chance to to tell it all ~ but just for practice ~ and since I've been told that, "Everybody's dying to know!" ~ here's the summary that I … [Read more...]

I was too wiped out and overwhelmed to enjoy the fruits of my labor

by VyckieShortly after Angel's first suicide attempt, I remember thinking to myself that all of my children were growing up without me ~ because I was much too worn down physically ~ plus what little energy I did have was all being zapped from me daily as I tried to make life with their overbearing, micro-managing, hyper-critical, narcissistic father as painless as possible for the children. Despite my efforts, they were all obviously beaten-down and discouraged to the point that we had become of family of zombies ~ excepting, of course, for Warren ~ who rather than feeling half-dead like the rest of us, seemed to have all the energy in the world ~ in fact, I believe he thrived on the … [Read more...]

An open letter to Frank Schaeffer

Dear Frank,I am a former Christian homeschooling mother of seven who finally walked away from fundamentalism after our radical extremism drove my oldest daughter to attempt suicide ~ and I would like to help you spread your message and sell your books.In bible college, your father was my absolute hero ~ I read all of his books and was determined to study Christian apologetics until I could defend my faith as skillfully as Francis Schaeffer!However, as the years went by, fundamentalist "family values" put me in my place as a woman ~ and so I shifted my focus and that's when your mother, Edith became my role model as I devoted myself to homemaking and motherhood.I dutifully birthed … [Read more...]

Biblical sexism tops "Ten worst verses in the Bible"

I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man; she must be silent. (1 Timothy 2:12) by VyckieRecently, I came across a "Ship of Fools" video which invited people to submit their nominations for the "Ten worst verses of the Bible"At first, I assumed that Ship of Fools must be an atheist website holding this "Worst Verse" contest as a way to raise awareness of some of the horrific messages contained in the pages of the Christian scriptures.  My assumption was based mainly on the website's name since Psalm 14:1 tells us that "The fool" says in his heart, "There is no God."  Plus ~ who else would sponsor this sort of bible-bashing contest? … [Read more...]

It's About MONEY

With Promises of Protection, Security and Ultimate Victory, Peddlers of "Family Values" Manufactured a Culture War, and Capitalized on Our Fears Please note: This post has been modified to clarify the point I want to make which is this:I have no problem with making a buck ~ earning an honest living. In fact, that's exactly what I've got in mind in running the NLQ website, writing a book, etc. ~ I do not apologize for these efforts to support myself and my children.What makes me sick is that the "need" which the Quiverfull philosophy and lifestyle are being marketed to fill is manufactured and exaggerated in order to sell the product.A friend recently put it this way: It's like buying … [Read more...]


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