CTBHHM: Sexually Abused Children as Broken, Diseased

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, Feminism Created To Be His Help Meet,  pp. 185—186 This week we get to read the end of Debi’s chapter on loving one’s children. The Hall There is no permanent cure for genital herpes and many other forms of STDs. Yet one in five young teens in the USA has a sexually transmitted disease. Many statistics also tell us that one in four little girls will be sexually “messed with” by the time they are four years old. One in four little boys will be the victims of homosexual abuse. Our children are in grave danger in today’s world, not only from emotional trauma, but also from many of these diseases. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: The Prophet: Part 4c

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids Collide Finally, at long last, Debi graces us with actual tips on how to live with a Prophet/Visionary man. "If you marry a Visionary Man, learn to enjoy the trip, for if he ever makes a better light bulb, he will want you to be the one who turns it on for the first time in public.  It will be your face he looks into to see the marvel of what a great thing he has done.  You are his most important fan.  When you know your man really needs you, you can be happy with just about anything." Start taking acting classes, ladies!  Remember, you need to look enthusiastic even if the invention/idea is absolutely awful.  If you keep … [Read more...]

The Destiny of a Virtuous Daughter: Part 6

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by Starfury My depression grew over the months we were without contact. I had begun to build much of my life around Anthony, and my/our intent to marry. I assumed what I was doing was how it was supposed to  be--I didn’t have anything to compare it to, but, if I was supposed to marry my first beau? I dropped out of college and transferred to a state school in another state, where some friends lived. I made up half-hearted excuses to any who asked, and did my best to throw myself into my studies, despite the lack of challenge they presented. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: The Prophet – Part 1

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids Collide The next three chapters cover Debi's conceptualization of the personality types of men.  I will give Debi credit for coming up with a schema that I've never heard or seen before.  The chapters on The Prophet (Visionary Man) and The Priest (Steady Man) are rather gentle and painless for a Pearl book.   She gives some breathtakingly bad advice but spends less time than normal running people down. "God tells us right at the beginning of the Bible that he created man in his own image. "And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness" (Genesis 1:26)" … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Redefining Patriarchy in a Good Way?

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Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Creative Interpretation of the Book of Esther – Part 1

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids Collide The end of chapter 2 of  "Preparing to Be a Help Meet" disturbed me the first time I read it, but I couldn't exactly figure out why.  I mean, yeah, Debi twists the stories of Esther and Ruth, but she does that all the time.  I realized that I resented that Debi messed around with the stories to make both Esther and Ruth seem like passive women who did what men told them rather than active participants in their own lives. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Michael and Debi’s Love Story – Part Three

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids Collide In the two previous posts on Debi and Michael Pearl's 'love' story, Debi discusses how God told her she was going to marry Michael when she was 13 and he was 21.  She spends from when she was about 16 to 20 being Michael's ministry flunky and finally gets his attention by showing up with a pretend fiance.  He's pissed because he doesn't want to lose his flunky to another man. Sounds like a match made in heaven, alright.  Let's dive into the last bit. … [Read more...]

The Female Body, a Source of Contamination

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, Feminism I recently came upon a blog post titled “How the Modesty Police Are Hurting My Son,” in which blogger Ami writes about trying to teach her son that he is responsible for his own actions even as those around her tell him that girls are responsible for covering up so as to “protect” him. As I looked through the mostly positive comments on her post, I was struck by this one: I think it’s great that you teach your child all these things—and I think it’s great that parents teach their children modesty. And sometimes it is to protect boys—they can’t un-see a girl’s body once it’s been seen barely clad. Many … [Read more...]

Preparing to be a Help Meet: Billy’s Courtship

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids Collide You may wonder why I didn't title the previous post and this one "Lydia and Billy's Courtship: Part # "  I didn't because the two narratives feel like they were written about two different courtships rather than one event involving two people. Billy's description of courting Lydia is harder to read; not because of Billy or any of his actions, but because his interview is interrupted by comments from the editors - All. The. Time. All emphasis is from the original. "Q: What attracted you to Lydia? A: When I first met Lydia I wasn't what you would call really attracted, nor was I ready for marriage. (...) Our initial … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Dads Should Be Friends With Daughters Intended?

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by Marshall Segal at Desiring God - Dads, Date Your Daughters Boyfriends Men, consider this a call to arms. Too many of our young women are giving themselves away to unworthy men because there’s no worthy man in their life to tell them differently. Their craving to finally be loved might cause them to make unhealthy compromises, but it’s far less likely if someone loves them enough to know what’s going on and keep them from destroying themselves. … [Read more...]


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