Preparing To Be A Help Meet: The Priest Part 3

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideIn the next installment on Priestly Men, Debi paints picture of what life for the wife of a Priestly Man is like with a huge interruption by a Visionary Man on a side note. "The key is to know you man.  In what image has God created him?  You, as his help meet, will need to  learn to conform to your man.  God's Word says, in Hebrews 13:8,  "Jesus Christ the same yesterday, today and forever." On the 90's TV show Animanics, there was a reoccurring segment called "The Wheel of Morality".  The characters would pull out a giant game-show wheel, spin it and read a canned moral that printed off. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: The Prophet: Part 4c

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideFinally, at long last, Debi graces us with actual tips on how to live with a Prophet/Visionary man."If you marry a Visionary Man, learn to enjoy the trip, for if he ever makes a better light bulb, he will want you to be the one who turns it on for the first time in public.  It will be your face he looks into to see the marvel of what a great thing he has done.  You are his most important fan.  When you know your man really needs you, you can be happy with just about anything."Start taking acting classes, ladies!  Remember, you need to look enthusiastic even if the invention/idea is absolutely awful.  If you keep acting lo … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: The Prophet – Part 1

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideThe next three chapters cover Debi's conceptualization of the personality types of men.  I will give Debi credit for coming up with a schema that I've never heard or seen before.  The chapters on The Prophet (Visionary Man) and The Priest (Steady Man) are rather gentle and painless for a Pearl book.   She gives some breathtakingly bad advice but spends less time than normal running people down."God tells us right at the beginning of the Bible that he created man in his own image. "And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness" (Genesis 1:26)" … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Redefining Patriarchy in a Good Way?

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Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Creative Interpretation of the Book of Esther – Part 1

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideThe end of chapter 2 of  "Preparing to Be a Help Meet" disturbed me the first time I read it, but I couldn't exactly figure out why.  I mean, yeah, Debi twists the stories of Esther and Ruth, but she does that all the time.  I realized that I resented that Debi messed around with the stories to make both Esther and Ruth seem like passive women who did what men told them rather than active participants in their own lives. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Michael and Debi’s Love Story – Part Three

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideIn the two previous posts on Debi and Michael Pearl's 'love' story, Debi discusses how God told her she was going to marry Michael when she was 13 and he was 21.  She spends from when she was about 16 to 20 being Michael's ministry flunky and finally gets his attention by showing up with a pretend fiance.  He's pissed because he doesn't want to lose his flunky to another man.Sounds like a match made in heaven, alright.  Let's dive into the last bit. … [Read more...]

Preparing to be a Help Meet: Billy’s Courtship

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideYou may wonder why I didn't title the previous post and this one "Lydia and Billy's Courtship: Part # "  I didn't because the two narratives feel like they were written about two different courtships rather than one event involving two people.Billy's description of courting Lydia is harder to read; not because of Billy or any of his actions, but because his interview is interrupted by comments from the editors - All. The. Time.All emphasis is from the original."Q: What attracted you to Lydia? A: When I first met Lydia I wasn't what you would call really attracted, nor was I ready for marriage. (...) Our initial … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Dads Should Be Friends With Daughters Intended?

by Marshall Segal at Desiring God - Dads, Date Your Daughters Boyfriends Men, consider this a call to arms. Too many of our young women are giving themselves away to unworthy men because there’s no worthy man in their life to tell them differently. Their craving to finally be loved might cause them to make unhealthy compromises, but it’s far less likely if someone loves them enough to know what’s going on and keep them from destroying themselves. … [Read more...]

Christian Reconstruction, ATI, Abuse and Submission: Modesty and Lust Part 2

by SJ Reidhead cross posted from her blog The Pink FlamingoWhat does Randy the guinea pig have in common with the men of ATI, patriarchy, and Christian Reconstruction?Thanks to No Longer Quivering, the pieces of what modesty is doing to the culture in general, and the perversions of Bill Gothard are finally fitting into the Christian Reconstruction puzzle. Supposedly the piece is a letter from a father to his daughters. It is sick, disgusting, and basically incestuous. No NORMAL father would even begin to discuss this with his daughters. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Mate: God Needs Our Prayers – Part 2

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideFor this next paragraph, find a place where you can read aloud to a friend with a good sense of humor.  Let each sentence build a sense of increasing desperation and importance.  Whoever bursts out laughing last wins.God Designed His Will To Come About Through PRAYER Do you pray for those who bear responsibility for your well-being?  Your father will need wisdom to know how to deal with the young man who comes to ask for your hand in marriage. Your pastor might know a young man who would be a good mate for you.  Why would your pastor think to bring this young man to your father's attention?  Have you prayed for your pastor … [Read more...]