Child Sexual Molestation and Evangelical Christianity’s Completely F’ed Up Response

Vanessa L. Williams

 by Suzanne Titkemeyer cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapeI was saddened but not surprised to hear this morning that actress-singer Vanessa L. Williams (my favorite on the show "Ugly Betty") had been sexually molested at ten years old. She came out and told the story on "Oprah's Master Class"Vanessa explained how her experience had played out in the rest of her life, her early sexual experiences, bad choices in relationships, the guilt and shame, the bout of promiscuity. … [Read more...]

Christian Reconstruction, ATI, Abuse, Submission: Modesty and Lust Part 9

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by SJ Reidhead cross posted from her blog The Pink FlamingoThis is (I promise) the last of the series on modesty, cowboys, and clothing.I was only planning one part to the piece on modesty and lust.  A funny thing happened along the way.  The letter I wrote, about the condemnation of fashion, and costume started it all.  Many thanks to Suzanne Calulu at No Longer Quivering for picking up the tawdry tale.  It’s also a way to get to use my favorite photo of Wyatt Earp.But – what truly sent me over the edge was the rant about cowboys. There are times when we end up in the right time and place in this world. As a Christian, I happen to think this is divine guidance. Let’s put it this … [Read more...]

This is What Happens When a “Good Christian” Replies….

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by Suzanne Titkemeyer Most of you have been following SJ Reidhead's series Christian Reconstruction, ATI, Abuse and Submission: Modesty and Lust, here and at her blog The Pink Flamingo , that sprang out of NLQ's posting in Quoting Quiverfull of the take of modesty of one Stephanus Blignaut. It's been an interesting read because it's pretty clear that SJ is better educated and knowledgeable on the history of fashion and modesty than Mr. Blignaut. Stephanus Blignaut has no historical basis for his thoughts, only---you guessed it---The Bible!! … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Bill Gothard and Doug Phillips are like ‘Surrogate Daddies’ not Sexual Predators?

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by Nathaniel Darnell from Persevero News - Of Men and Megalomanics(It must be noted that Nathaniel Darnell also worked at Vision Forum for some years with Doug Phillips. Covering for sexual predators is an ongoing problem in ministries and churches.)Is it possible that some of the accusations being made against Mr. Gothard (and other surrogate daddies) are due to his assuming a “daddy” role in the life of many of the young ladies that came to his ministry and talking to them about various intimate things, or treating them in various intimate ways that might would have been appropriate for a father (but not necessarily appropriate for a non-relative)? … [Read more...]

The Duggar Family and ATI (plus disgraced leader Bill Gothard)

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by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open GroundI recently read through the book The Duggars: 20 and Counting. I remember meeting the Duggars  at an ATI homeschool conference about 15 years ago.  Because I grew up under the same program the Duggars are involved in, there were a lot of ATI lines that jumped out at me in the book. I am talking blatant Bill Gothard, ATI, IBLP lines. (If you don’t know the acronym, they are fancy words for Gothard’s Christian programs and seminars.) Here they go. … [Read more...]

Christian Reconstruction, ATI, Abuse, & Submission: Modesty and Lust Part 5

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by SJ Reidhead cross posted from her blog The Pink FlamingoI’m not a strong advocate for sex outside of marriage.  I am certainly no advocate for adultery, which I think is wrong.  It’s one of the Ten Big Ones, as in Thou Shalt Not.  But, fornication, which is sex between individuals who are not married either to one another, or anyone else, is not considered a major sin.  I do think, though, it is an invitation to complicate one’s life.  That’s why I avoid the subject, and the process.  It’s complicated, complicating, and just tends to get in the way of life.  Maybe that’s a cop-out, but I have enough problems right now.  I don’t need to deal with the emotional ups and downs of an involv … [Read more...]

Seven Phases of a Godly (Gothard) Courtship

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismSo I’m going to dip my toes into Bill Gothard’s Advanced Seminar Textbook once again, this time looking at a section titled “Seven Phases of a Godly Courtship” (pages 160—164). This, too, is a teaching I am unfamiliar with. Yes, I was taught courtship, but without specific “phases.” … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Winning Souls More Important Than Sexual Abuse?

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by Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy - Debi Pearl Weighs in on the IBLP Situation What I am saying is that God raised up a man, a fallen sinful man, and used that man to pull together thousands of believers for a greater good. What I am saying is that someday soon we will all stand before the throne of God to give an answer. All of us. The man. The folks on the website that rejoiced in the fall. Me. … [Read more...]

Coming Out of the Cult Closet

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by AJ cross posted from her blog I Am PhoenixThe last year has been full of shifts, most of them tumultuous, but most of them ending up being quite positive. In the actual moment, each change didn't feel positive. It felt like I was wearing skin that didn't fit me anymore, and I was trying to wrestle out of it. Much like a critter shedding it's old skin. Painful, itchy, uncomfortable, exhausting. But then each time I shed an old layer, it felt great afterwards to relax and sit in the sun, so to speak with spanking new skin that felt all new and glowing. … [Read more...]

News: Bill Gothard’s Mea Culpa

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A statement from Bill Gothard has gone up on his website in the last 24 hours in which he attempts to explain himself. I have withheld this statement in order to honor the request of the Board of Directors to wait until an initial review has taken place. As the review continues, I now want to make this statement.God has brought me to a place of greater brokenness than at any other time in my life. It is a grief to realize how my pride and insensitivity have affected so many people. I have asked the Lord to reveal the underlying causes and He is doing this. … [Read more...]


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