Quoting Quiverfull – Wives Throw Temper Tantrums?

by Ken Alexander on his wife Lori's blog The Transformed Wife - One Long Temper TantrumEditor's note: Notice as he speaks about counseling the husband of a 'bitter' wife that not once does he say one thing about how the husband might possibly be failing in his job of being a husband. Oh no, it's all about demonizing the wife and coming up with dehumanizing phrasing to reduce women to something less than men, less human and more child like. Hate just drips off both Lori and Ken, certainly no love, mercy or compassion. Toxic advice from toxic people just leads to the creation of more toxic people. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Working Outside the Home is Pure Selfishness?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - Dogmatic Teaching on Keepers of the HomeEditor's note: I think 'dogged' is the operative word here more than 'dogmatic'. It's Lori harping on her constant refrain once again, that women that work outside the home cannot possibly keep it clean or prepare decent meals. I guess she doesn't realize how many different services, devices and different ways you can do things now that makes it entirely possible to work full time, have great meals cooked, a clean home and well-taught children. Her central message isn't even Biblical considering in actual Biblical times women worked along side their men and extended family in family-owned concerns. This … [Read more...]

What Christians Mean When They Say I’m “Bitter”

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Samanthapfield.comMy great-grandfather was stationed in the Aleutian Islands during WWII. He told us a lot of stories about living there– like being trapped inside the mess hall once because a moose was standing out in the street and no sane person screws around with a moose— but one of the tidbits that stuck out to me the most was an interesting detail about their water. It wasn’t clear, and had a bitter taste to it. When he asked someone why, they explained that the pipes were made out of wood and plants had grown through them to get to the water. Those roots left an oily residue that caused the bitterness. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: No Negative Thoughts or Words Allowed?

by Kristin Eason from Nancy Campbell's Above Rubies - A House or a Home?Editor's note: She's been waiting to 'make a home' for a long time considering the author's eldest child is 15 years old, so no wonder she's having to tell herself not to be bitter and negative. One idea here that she doesn't explore is not a bad one - that it does not matter if you live in a rental house, apartment, trailer, hut, yurt, duplex or mansion. The structure does not matter because anywhere you are can be a 'home'. Instead the author chooses to focus on controlling your thoughts and words instead of simply being grateful for what you do have. She makes it all about attitude in a very wrong and controlling … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 4 – Don’t Withhold Sex To Change A Husband?

by Biblical Gender Roles from Biblical Gender Roles.Com - Can A Christian Wife Withhold Sex As A Way To Change Her Husband's Bad Behavior?Editor's note: So now you not only have to allow your husband any sort of sex upon demand and not consider it rape, now you have to control your thoughts, emotions and attitudes about being raped lest it make you 'bitter'. Bitter seems to be an evangelical fundamentalist buzz word for 'Shut the hell up and SMILE!" How is it healthy to deny your own feelings about being abused? It's not. … [Read more...]

“How To Win Over Depression” review: 192 – 211

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons Thankfully, I think we only have this week and next week and then we’ll be done with this book. One of my biggest complaints today is that this book wasn’t edited– only proofread. There’s not a lot of development to this book, and Tim has a tendency to repeat himself. This chapter– “Ten Steps to Victory Over Depression”– barely contributes anything new to the book. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Getting Busier Cures Depression?

From No Greater Joy -When You Need a Miracle by Erin Harrison During those black years I felt it would never end. Maybe you didn’t bring into your marriage the baggage I did, and maybe your husband is a mean, lazy jerk or even a pervert, but pity, despair and bitterness will not set you free from your own state of nothingness, lack of productivity, wanting of challenge, or any real rewards. Do you know what I am talking about—working and never seeing the end … [Read more...]