Positive Perceptions and Blame Games: The Self Serving Bias

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceImages by Cindy Kunsman of Under Much Grace and used with permission. Just a reminder that the purpose of this discussion aims at stimulating thought and self awareness as tools to help those in recovery from trauma learn how to make safer choices. To make the discussion more jocular, we've defined Cognitive Biases as “CranioRectal Inversions” (CRI).Like the Blind Spot and Confirmation biases, the Self Serving Bias also serves to preserve the ego by painting the self in a positive light. One of many other attribution errors, anything that happens that benefits a person is credited to their achievement and merit. This ass … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: God Created Your Sinful Desires?

by Mark Watson as republished at No Greater Joy - Confidence When Facing TemptationEditor's note: This is one of those letters that the Pearls purport to get from others praising them for helping them overcome all sorts of stuff. This letter was accompanied with an article written in a rambling style about how the author had struggled with 'lust', but without the usual Pearl-dose of blaming and shaming that goes on in the likely-fake letters they publish. This is another toxic meme in quiverfull and fundamentalist beliefs, that God created you in such a way that you will constantly be tempted to sin. Their version of God always comes across like some sick and cruel bastard. Who would … [Read more...]

David Bowie and Catholic Apologists Covering For Child Molester Priests

by Suzanne TitkemeyerMonday was a rough day in this household, and it wasn't because I was out of pain pills, or stuck changing cat litter boxes. It started first thing in the morning when I logged onto my computer and saw the news that artist David Bowie had died after an 18 month long struggle with cancer. I struggled with sadness the entire day, fighting back tears every time I logged onto Facebook and saw the tributes to this greatly influential artist flooding the internet.While I liked his music I wasn't the biggest Bowie fan. I must preferred the music of Queen and Mott the Hoople during the mid 70s. But David had recorded with both of those bands, even giving Mott the Hoople … [Read more...]

What To Do About Toxic Power In Marriage

by Virginia Knowles cross posted from her blog Watch The ShepherdDear friends,What can a woman do if she realizes that she is in a controlling, manipulative, intimidating, verbally aggressive, and/or physically violent marriage?Two months ago I wrote a post called Recognizing Pervasive, Poisonous Power in Marriage which gave an analysis of the problem. I based it on concepts found in The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans. At the end, I promised a follow up post with suggestions on what she can do. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Oh No, We’re Not Quiverfull?

by Kelly Crawford of Generation Cedar - Why I Agreed to Do a National Interview About Not Being QuiverfullEditor's note: Kelly is trying to back pedal from being Quiverfull even while she will not use birth control and has as many children as possible for the glory of God, which is actually the main definition of the Quiverfull movement, or as some folks in denial call it, the Replenishment Movement. Her immediate jump is to claim again and again that she is not Quiverfull and labels are the problem, not the twisted practices and dangerously bad theology. My Cajun great grandmother used to have a saying for times like these, "You can polish a turd, but it's still a turd." Same thing with … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Feminism Makes Motherhood a Shock?

by Jess Connell from her blog Grow on Purpose - Unprepared for Motherhood:Thanks FeminismGratuitous whining or does she have a point? … [Read more...]

Magic Words Syndrome

by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalI recently re-read a couple of the emails (or nasty-grams, as I call them) I received from one of the board members of my old church. It was quite interesting to engage with them now, without the incredible pain of betrayal and judgement I felt at the time they were first sent. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Commenting on Large Families Rude?

by Zsuzsanna Anderson from her blog Are They All Yours!?!?! - If I Had a Nickel Everytime Someone SaidIs it really rude to comment when you see families much larger than the norm? It seems to me if you have made up the t-shirts in that photo, you name your blog 'Are They All Yours' and you go out in numbered matching t-shirts you're openly seeking attention. What do you think? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Winning Souls More Important Than Sexual Abuse?

by Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy - Debi Pearl Weighs in on the IBLP Situation What I am saying is that God raised up a man, a fallen sinful man, and used that man to pull together thousands of believers for a greater good. What I am saying is that someday soon we will all stand before the throne of God to give an answer. All of us. The man. The folks on the website that rejoiced in the fall. Me. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Your Attitude Controls Everything?

by Nancy Campbell cross posted from Above Rubies - No Time To Be Bored Do you realize that you create your own world right where you are? You have the power to make your marriage, mothering, and home pulsate with life. It all depends on your attitude. … [Read more...]