Shackled Girl: Part 11 – It’s a Conspiracy!

by PropinquaEditor’s note: Timothy and Esten Ciboro appeared in Lucas County Common Pleas Court on July 11. As always, it’s all about them, the world is out to get them, yadda yadda yadda. Our country has a wonderful Constitution, which is sometimes put to amazing use. You have to admire any judge who manages to think clearly about the law when people resort to paranoid antics and nutty allegations.Timothy Ciboro loudly read the following statement in court: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: How to Best Beat Your Children?

by Lori Alexander of Always Learning - Applying the Rod ChapterEditor's note: This just gives me the chills in its compete lack of compassion. Hurting your children to make them behave is barbaric no matter what anyone in the church says. There are better ways to discipline children that does not teach the lesson that violence is the way to settle matters. … [Read more...]

Shackled Girl: Part 10 – More Open Questions and Remaining Concerns?

by PropinquaEditor’s note: A continuation of questions not yet resolved in the case of alleged abuse in Toledo. Answers might be revealed during the trial of Timothy and Esten Ciboro. Meanwhile, the public needs to understand abuse better: how to prevent it, identify it, and stop it, and how to help survivors. “Did I ever harm my children ever? No. Did I ever mistreat them? Depends what you call… the mistreating like they’re saying on the news, no.” —Timothy Ciboro (8:43 in raw video) … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: It’s Not Child Abuse Unless I Say So?

by Lori Alexander from Always Learning - Attack on Traditional Child TrainingEditor's note: Just because you were spanked does not make it right. Lori uses in the full piece the fact that she, her husband and Mr. Pearl were spanked as justification for continuing to hit in the face of overwhelming research that proves it's the exact opposite of what they claim. It does harm. It is abuse. It is banned many places for legitimate reasons. Which makes me thankful she's no longer in the classroom and possibly wielding a wooden paddle. Hitting a child is never right, most people discipline their children by having consequences for behavior that aren't abusive, not yelling. … [Read more...]

Shackled Girl: Part 9 – Open Questions and Remaining Concerns

by PropinquaEditor’s note: The three children in the Ciboro house were isolated from family and neighbors. Now they are in foster care, hidden by confidentiality laws. They need privacy and time to heal, and no decent person wants to pry. On the other hand, public attention facilitated the 13-year-old girl’s escape, and public attention is probably needed to protect her and bring about justice. … [Read more...]

Shackled Girl: Part 8 – What Happens When Mother Leaves

by PropinquaEditor’s note: “So where was the mother?” is another question people keep asking. Stafonda Hawkins is the mother of the 13-year-old girl who escaped alleged abuse by Timothy Ciboro and his son Esten. Hawkins and the elder Ciboro are parents of a girl, 10, and a boy, 9. All three children remain in foster care.Had the girl not fled the Ciboros, her mother would still be free in Vegas. There’s just no way that Stafonda Hawkins, a fugitive, was surprised to be cuffed and jailed after the long bus trip back to Toledo. But she came home anyway. … [Read more...]

Shackled Girl: Part 6 – Father and Son: the Blooper Reel

by PropinquaEditor’s note: Let’s take a break from the grim allegations in this case. While there is never anything funny about abuse itself, at times the accused Ciboro men manage to look both appalling and ridiculous. As they flail about, straining to prove what excellent Christian family men they are, feel free to chuckle between bouts of *facepalm* and *headdesk*. … [Read more...]

Shackled Girl: Part 5 – It Gets Worse

by PropinquaEditor’s note: Even more disturbing details are emerging in the case of Timothy Ciboro, 53, and his son Esten, 27. The two allegedly disciplined the daughter of Timothy’s ex-girlfriend Stafonda Hawkins by shackling the girl, now 13, to a basement post. She escaped in mid-May. Hawkins, 39, was recently jailed on unrelated warrants. … [Read more...]

Shackled Girl: Part 3 – Prepared Statement by Alleged Abuser

by PropinquaEditor’s note: For a year, a home-schooling Christian man named Timothy Ciboro allegedly disciplined his ex-girlfriend’s daughter by shackling her to a basement post. The girl, 13, escaped in mid-May. Timothy Ciboro, 53, and his son Esten, 27, were arrested in Toledo, charged with kidnapping and torture. The girl’s mother is now also jailed, but on unrelated warrants. … [Read more...]

Shackled Girl: Mother Jailed on Unrelated Charges

by PropinquaEditor’s note: On May 18, a 13-year-old girl escaped from the basement of a home in Toledo where her stepfather, Timothy Ciboro, and his son, Esten Ciboro, allegedly kept her shackled to a post for a year or more. This is yet another horrific story of what can happen when abusers use a claim of Christian home-schooling to hide and mistreat children. You might wish to start with Part 1 … [Read more...]