Understanding How Dysfunctional Families Prime Children For the Experience of Shame (Leading To Victimization)

by Cindy Kunsman from Under Much GraceOriginally published January 2012. This is part of a series on Understanding How Emotional Development in Childhood Affects Adults: Fostering Spiritual Abuse via the “Roots of Victimization”There are many excellent Christian books concerning dysfunctional family dynamics -- that is besides the Book of Genesis which contains the best archetypal examples of how you should NOT relate to other family members! One of the most interesting families to draw out on a relationship diagram is that of Jacob, Esau and their parents, and some of the Christian self-help books in this genre look at many of the Old Testament patriarchs to explain how tri … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Deny Your Possibly Gay Son Privacy To ‘Cure’ Him?

by Scared Catholic Mom on Queerity - Scared Christian Mom Asks How To Keep Her Gay Teen PureEditor's note: The big Catholic families are sometimes the first encounter with Quiverfull for those not raised fundamentalist evangelical Quiverfull. While this woman is not promoting Quiverfull ideals she sure sounds like she's the Catholic version of Michael Pearl, trying to control the same sex attraction out of her poor confused teenager. This much control over any child is abusive! This reads like a what not to do for your LBGTQ  child primer. … [Read more...]

Misunderstanding and Punishing the Character of Children as a Root of Victimization

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace Originally published January 2012. This is part of a series on Understanding How Emotional Development in Childhood Affects Adults: Fostering Spiritual Abuse via the "Roots of Victimization" A few days ago, I pointed out that the girls who survived incarceration at Hephzibah House (HH) suffered both trauma/torture and spiritual abuse, and upon leaving, they struggle with unique problems including trauma reenactment, revictimization, and an inability to self-protect. Though some of this relates directly to the debilitation of the self created by the harsh conditions at HH, the roots of these related deficits are created in … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 3 – Children Are Foolish?

by Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy - Foolishness or WisdomEditor's note: Here Debi ignores the fact that not properly feeding kids is child abuse, neglect and setting them up for a lifetime of struggling with eating disorders. She thinks it teaches children to be deceitful, which is considered so much worse than the fact that the parents are legally abusing and neglecting the child. Parents with obese children get blamed too. Debi lots to throw shade at everyone before reverting to the Pearl cure-all, a whipping with 1/4 plastic plumbing line, the same implement of torture that has played a role in the deaths of Lydia Schatz and Hana Grace Williams.ETA 3:30 pm - Whoever it is that … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – Children Are Foolish?

by Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy Magazine - Foolishness or WisdomEditor's note: While Debi starts with a caution not to be so heavy handed in your parenting she ends this bit by advocating spanking to drive foolishness out. She ignores a big red flag and writes it off as 'bad habits'. If your child is hiding food or sneaking around you to eat then you should really take that quite seriously because many times it is a sign that your child fears you will not feed him, it's linked to fears of food insufficiency.  Controlling a child by controlling ever morsel going into their mouths as discipline can create some pretty horrific eating disorders. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Spanking Is One Of The First Resorts?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy Magazine - Spank as a Last ResortEditor's note: So there was no August version of NGJ magazine, they went straight to Sept/Oct. The passage below has the explanations of the types of rebellious stubborn children and the provoking questions you should ask before wailing on them with a plumbing line. Wonder which interviewer Michael is throwing serious shade at by calling them a 'media agitator'?  There needs to be more 'media agitators' exposing the harmful child discipline ideas of the Pearls. Roaches hate it when the lights come on. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 6 – Michael Pearl’s Parenting Methods In Action?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Child Training Marathon Revisited and UpdatedEditor's note: No matter how Michael parses it, beating a child for twenty miles is cruel. How does he know the spankings were not greatly painful to the child? He doesn't. Pulling off the road every two miles to administer a spanking to an over-tired toddler does not qualify as something 'calm' and lacks anything like 'dignity'  Constantly pulling over to spank also creates a very unsafe environment for the other drivers on the road and you cannot tell me that the father, as a primary driver, wasn't distracted while driving because of Mr. Pearl's instructions and the weirdness of the situation. The only … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 5 – Michael Pearl’s Parenting Methods In Action?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Child Training Marathon Revisited and UpdatedEditor's note: Yes, the child obeyed the mother and started smiling a fake smile, he was scared he was going to be beaten if he didn't. Keeping someone else compliant with your wishes because they fear physical pain inflicted upon them isn't Biblical and I'm pretty sure that Jesus would not approve no matter how many Bible verses you quote. It's sick and twisted. That poor little boy! Beaten for having the normal needs and behavior of a toddler. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 4 – Michael Pearl’s Parenting Methods In Action?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Child Training Marathon Revisited and UpdatedEditor's note: The family ride from hell continues, with continued spanking of a toddler who's up late, tired, over-excited and out of control with his emotions. Why does it not occur to anyone in this family that stopping once to hold, comfort and meet the immediate needs of this toddler might be enough to turn off the tears and end the situation in a peaceful and loving manner? Why keep beating and keeping the child stirred up and in a state of high anxiety? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 3 – Michael Pearl’s Parenting Methods In Action?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Child Training Marathon Revisited and UpdatedEditor's note: So now we've had Michael saying you should stop every two minutes to spank your child for crying while you are driving down the road. Sounds like the most miserable car ride you could experience this side of explosive diarrhea and swarms of biting fleas invading the car.  And spank and spank and spank and spank and don't you cry while I'm spanking you for crying...how is this not child abuse? … [Read more...]


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