Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – Child Extortionists?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Twinkie TwerpsEditor's note: Please excuse the lateness of this piece. I am traveling again and experiencing indifferent internet at various places.More of Michael Pearl mistaking normal childhood behavior and needs for sin and manipulation. It's horribly telling that Michael considers a child asking for food more of a 'character development' issue than what it likely is, a need, either physical or emotional, that must be met. Why the mother did not redirect the child by doing something like involving him in helping her prepare a snack for all the children by cutting the twinkie into equal portions and possibly adding items? There are so many … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Child Extortionists?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Twinkie TwerpEditor's note: Another fine piece of parenting advice from Mikey Pearl. Of course kids are going to be occasionally demanding, act like less than a mature adult and want junk food, but is that any reason to blame/shame and call them ugly names? Clearly the child wasn't suffering a 'character loss' after one selfish moment wanting a snack cake and struggling with mama over it. There's just too much in this story that is unknown. Was it late in the afternoon and he was needing a snack before dinner? Did he miss a nap and was acting out as a result of being overtired? It's not all 'sin' … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 Manipulative Children and Angry Mothers?

by Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy - Emotional ManipulatorsEditor's note: Laughing at a child hurting? Giving a bad tasting substance to punish her? So much abusive advice packed in three short paragraphs. A child's needs, physical and emotional are not 'manipulating' By the responses of the mother, this little girl has been trained to be an emotional manipulator. When she can not get her way, she will pretend to be hurt — or take a small hurt and make it into a big one. The mother will rush to the child and tell the other children to let her play or to not run off and leave her. This further compounds the sibling relationships because the other children don’t feel kindly toward a “cr … [Read more...]

Understanding How Dysfunctional Families Prime Children For the Experience of Shame (Leading To Victimization)

by Cindy Kunsman from Under Much GraceOriginally published January 2012. This is part of a series on Understanding How Emotional Development in Childhood Affects Adults: Fostering Spiritual Abuse via the “Roots of Victimization”There are many excellent Christian books concerning dysfunctional family dynamics -- that is besides the Book of Genesis which contains the best archetypal examples of how you should NOT relate to other family members! One of the most interesting families to draw out on a relationship diagram is that of Jacob, Esau and their parents, and some of the Christian self-help books in this genre look at many of the Old Testament patriarchs to explain how tri … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Deny Your Possibly Gay Son Privacy To ‘Cure’ Him?

by Scared Catholic Mom on Queerity - Scared Christian Mom Asks How To Keep Her Gay Teen PureEditor's note: The big Catholic families are sometimes the first encounter with Quiverfull for those not raised fundamentalist evangelical Quiverfull. While this woman is not promoting Quiverfull ideals she sure sounds like she's the Catholic version of Michael Pearl, trying to control the same sex attraction out of her poor confused teenager. This much control over any child is abusive! This reads like a what not to do for your LBGTQ  child primer. … [Read more...]

Misunderstanding and Punishing the Character of Children as a Root of Victimization

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace Originally published January 2012. This is part of a series on Understanding How Emotional Development in Childhood Affects Adults: Fostering Spiritual Abuse via the "Roots of Victimization" A few days ago, I pointed out that the girls who survived incarceration at Hephzibah House (HH) suffered both trauma/torture and spiritual abuse, and upon leaving, they struggle with unique problems including trauma reenactment, revictimization, and an inability to self-protect. Though some of this relates directly to the debilitation of the self created by the harsh conditions at HH, the roots of these related deficits are created in … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 3 – Children Are Foolish?

by Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy - Foolishness or WisdomEditor's note: Here Debi ignores the fact that not properly feeding kids is child abuse, neglect and setting them up for a lifetime of struggling with eating disorders. She thinks it teaches children to be deceitful, which is considered so much worse than the fact that the parents are legally abusing and neglecting the child. Parents with obese children get blamed too. Debi lots to throw shade at everyone before reverting to the Pearl cure-all, a whipping with 1/4 plastic plumbing line, the same implement of torture that has played a role in the deaths of Lydia Schatz and Hana Grace Williams.ETA 3:30 pm - Whoever it is that … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – Children Are Foolish?

by Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy Magazine - Foolishness or WisdomEditor's note: While Debi starts with a caution not to be so heavy handed in your parenting she ends this bit by advocating spanking to drive foolishness out. She ignores a big red flag and writes it off as 'bad habits'. If your child is hiding food or sneaking around you to eat then you should really take that quite seriously because many times it is a sign that your child fears you will not feed him, it's linked to fears of food insufficiency.  Controlling a child by controlling ever morsel going into their mouths as discipline can create some pretty horrific eating disorders. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Spanking Is One Of The First Resorts?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy Magazine - Spank as a Last ResortEditor's note: So there was no August version of NGJ magazine, they went straight to Sept/Oct. The passage below has the explanations of the types of rebellious stubborn children and the provoking questions you should ask before wailing on them with a plumbing line. Wonder which interviewer Michael is throwing serious shade at by calling them a 'media agitator'?  There needs to be more 'media agitators' exposing the harmful child discipline ideas of the Pearls. Roaches hate it when the lights come on. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 6 – Michael Pearl’s Parenting Methods In Action?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Child Training Marathon Revisited and UpdatedEditor's note: No matter how Michael parses it, beating a child for twenty miles is cruel. How does he know the spankings were not greatly painful to the child? He doesn't. Pulling off the road every two miles to administer a spanking to an over-tired toddler does not qualify as something 'calm' and lacks anything like 'dignity'  Constantly pulling over to spank also creates a very unsafe environment for the other drivers on the road and you cannot tell me that the father, as a primary driver, wasn't distracted while driving because of Mr. Pearl's instructions and the weirdness of the situation. The only … [Read more...]