“Be a Good Obeying Girl”

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismWhen I was a child and my mother would leave me at a friend’s house or with a sitter, there was one thing she always said right before she left.“Be a good obeying girl.” Of every virtue a child could have, the one my mother prized above all else wasobedience. My mother was influenced by Michael Pearl’s book, To Train Up a Child, which stipulated that obedience should be immediate and without question—and with a smile. Partly I think my mother was attracted to the Pearls’ childrearing teachings because raising twelve children is no easy task, and training children to absolute obedience made things easier for her.For a … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Child Training From Day One?

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by Shalom (daughter of Michael and Debi Pearl) Brand from No Greater Joy magazine - Training Starts at Birth … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Esther and Her Mother

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 182—183We’re still in the chapter on loving your children. Remember, Debi has told women to love their children by loving their husbands, and to love their children by not concentrating too much on loving Jesus. Now, for the first time, we actually turn to loving the children themselves. “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it” (Proverbs 22:6). … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Shy Children Must Be Trained Out Of It?

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from No Greater Joy magazine by Shalom Pearl Brand - Three Types of Children, Part 3: Building Confidence (Steady/Servant Type) Don’t let your children be shy; help them overcome their fears and reach out to others. Observe your children and determine what is causing them to be shy. Is it only when someone talks to them, or is it all the time? Then, create an environment where you are in control and can train them to be confident. Do not push them to the point that they are afraid. … [Read more...]

Baptist ‘Boot Camps’ in Need of Watchful Eyes

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by Cindy Foster cross posted from her blog Baptist Taliban and Beyond(Editor's note: This was originally published on Baptist Taliban and Beyond on September 14, 2011 but the issue remains a crucial one in recovery as long as places like these and Hephzibah House remain open. The physical and emotional damage to children continues as long as these places exist.) … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Saving Your Child’s Life?

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by Jay Younts of Shepherd Press - Will your words save your child's life? If you speak the truth in love from your heart and the power of Scripture, … [Read more...]

Emotional Control: Mandatory Happiness Makes Me Sad

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by SierraI recently joined Pinterest. I resisted for a little while, like I always do, but eventually decided that it would be a convenient way to store ideas for home decorating (I just moved house) and wedding planning (for next fall). The result was my sudden … [Read more...]

A Philosophy That Destroys a Life

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By Incongruous CircumspectionThe morning was like any other morning I remembered.  The bright sun was shining through the single pane windows, teasing you into thinking that the frigid winter air outside would stay behind the glass, rather than leaking past the crumbling putty.  Shivering, I … [Read more...]

“Biblical” Parenting, Criticism #1: A Parent Who Assumes The Worst

by LatebloomerThe task of reviewing Reb Bradley's book "Child Training Tips" has been a lot more challenging than I expected.  First of all, where do I start when I disagree with almost every sentence that this book contains?  I can find almost no common ground on which to begin.  And how can I explain my reasons for disagreement when the very things that I see as horrifying are held up as admirable goals by the author?Because of these difficulties, I have decided that these posts will simply be a way for Present Me to explain to Past Me that this so-called "Biblical" parenting is damaging to individuals and relationships because it sacrifices all other virtues for the sake of au … [Read more...]

Dispelled: Part 10

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by ChandraIt didn’t take long for myself and Darren’s lengthy friendship to turn from dating to committed to one another. We were very much in love, and our voluminous email correspondence had already paved the ground for much of our relationship. I was so happy- I had met the man that I had been dreaming about marrying since I was old enough to dream about getting married.As a homeschool girl, getting married and having a family was something that was very near and dear to my heart. I had thought about going to school, and I wanted to go to college, but the fact that my parents did not allow me to take the ACT or SAT tests-and they offered no other form of assistance- left m … [Read more...]


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