Emotional Control: Mandatory Happiness Makes Me Sad

December 13, 2012 By 8 Comments
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by Sierra I recently joined Pinterest. I resisted for a little while, like I always do, but eventually decided that it would be a convenient way to store ideas for home decorating (I just moved house) and wedding planning (for next fall). The result was my sudden

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A Philosophy That Destroys a Life

December 3, 2012 By 4 Comments
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By Incongruous Circumspection The morning was like any other morning I remembered.  The bright sun was shining through the single pane windows, teasing you into thinking that the frigid winter air outside would stay behind the glass, rather than leaking past the crumbling putty.  Shivering, I

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“Biblical” Parenting, Criticism #1: A Parent Who Assumes The Worst

September 7, 2012 By 21 Comments

by Latebloomer The task of reviewing Reb Bradley’s book “Child Training Tips” has been a lot more challenging than I expected.  First of all, where do I start when I disagree with almost every sentence that this book contains?  I can find almost no common ground on which to begin.  And how can I explain [...]

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Dispelled: Part 10

June 24, 2012 By 3 Comments
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by Chandra It didn’t take long for myself and Darren’s lengthy friendship to turn from dating to committed to one another. We were very much in love, and our voluminous email correspondence had already paved the ground for much of our relationship. I was so happy- I had met the man that I had been [...]

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Baptist Taliban: Part 3

June 18, 2012 By 7 Comments

by Cindy Foster THE CHURCH WE WERE The Preacher and his wife graduated from Baptist Bible College in Springfield, Missouri. At the time he attended there, the college was quite conservative. There were strict rules about dress, dating, curfews, entertainment, music and much more. The Preacher actually grew up in Springfield and was a member [...]

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