Created To Be His Help Meet – Part 2 – The Power of Stinking Thinking

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollidePart Two of the un-named epic failure - in Debi's eyes - of a woman who dared obey her husband without enough joy in her heart.Her husband is the one who lacked spiritual clarity but wanted to go to Bible College in a different country while wrecking their finances and refusing to have children for at least 5 years.  (Anyone else wonder what Vaughn Ohlman would think of this marriage?)Anyway, she continues wringing her hands... … [Read more...]

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Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Part 2 – Pie in the Sky

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids Collide(Trigger Warning for abusive church behaviors.)Ever wonder if Debi would pull her punches on friends?She doesn't. When a "friend" has the audacity to get a divorce from an abusive husband AND marry a different man, Debi spews out the massive misinformation created by a conspiracy to destroy the woman's magazine.I know it sounds crazy...but the information is a matter of public record since the woman and her second husband were brave enough to sue. … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Woman, It’s STILL Your Fault Maybe?

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From yesterday's Quoting Quiverfull by Nathaniel Darnell  on Persevero News. This is a comment that the writer of the piece Nathaniel Darnell made to a divorced homeschooling momma's question in the comments. I am sorry to hear that your husband has divorced you. This is a shame. Even so, however, my statement is still true as I explain below. … [Read more...]

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Millipede Part 29

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Millipede Part 27

by MillipedeWhen I got to my sister's place, she called her neighbor's son. We ended up going out to see the trailer that day. It was a pleasant day for traveling; warm and sunny. It matched my mood perfectly. I was floating along that day, nothing could get me down. The early fall colors were beautiful and made for a great drive.The trailer was in decent condition. There was some work that needed to be done. It was full of the previous occupants' belongings and one whole side was missing the metal siding. I imagine that it was stolen for scrap, however that was small fry. Overall, it was in good and solid shape. Better yet, the neighbor's son wanted only a small finder's fee for … [Read more...]

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Millipede: Part 26

by MillipedeI stood there looking at my ex turned "roommate".  By either title, I would be stuck with his problems. Winter and all it's problems loomed ahead. For some reason, I thought of the book,The Shinning. The description of Danny's thoughts as he realizes that the hotel is haunted and that he and his family will be stuck there all Winter. In vain, he hopes that the evil that resides in the hotel will leave him alone, but deep down he knows better.Here I was facing, the same dilemma; should I do something or should I try to stay and hope for the best. Moving out on such a short notice, how could I even manage it. Short of moving in with my sister and her husband, sharing a … [Read more...]

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Millipede Part 24 – The Breakup

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by MillipedeThe next day I got up. As I showered and got dressed I thought of the previous night's events. I was tired, a bit worried, but mostly resolved. I was going to have a final talk with my husband; lay the cards on the table concerning our future.The discussion started as others had before with me sharing my concerns about my husband's drinking. Of course, my husband denied that he had a problem and our argument followed the trail. It was clear to me as we argued, that my husband was in his usual denial mode and I knew what that meant for the future. I couldn't not live under that sort of stress. It was time to act.I told my husband that if this was how he felt about the … [Read more...]

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No-Win Scenario #2 ~ If you stay you lose, if you leave you lose ~ No Winning Allowed!

by Arietty The experience of being in a No Win Scenario is a very familiar one to me. A decade after my divorce I still find myself smack up against that in certain conversations. While a marriage to an abuser is replete with such scenes (they rapidly become normal), it's the big leap of leaving where it angered me the most. I mean, I've left, why do I have to put up with this STILL? It's like after you have a baby and they suddenly want to give you stitches.. haven't you been through enough? Though not as grueling as what came before your tolerance is now zilch.In a marriage breakup most church friends and acquaintances don't wish to really hear about it. They want to tell you they are … [Read more...]

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