True Love Waits

February 28, 2013 By 14 Comments
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by Betty Crux   If there is anything I have very, very vivid memories of, it’s youth group at either church we attended.   I was a loser, no getting around it.  I wasn’t good looking, and my parents weren’t helping that fact.  I had

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Quoting Quiverfull: True Love?

January 29, 2013 By 17 Comments
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Josh Harris from his book “I Kissed Dating Goodbye” “‎True love isn’t expressed in passionately whispered words an intimate kiss or a embrace; before two people are married, love is expressed

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Quoting Quiverfull: Men Robbed?

January 16, 2013 By 11 Comments
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QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers

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Raised Quiverfull: A Gendered Childhood Part 2

January 2, 2013 By Leave a Comment
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by Libby Anne Raised Quiverfull Introduction — A Gendered Childhood Question 3: In what ways were boys and girls in your family expected to dress or act differently from each other? Were there certain things it was appropriate for girls to do but not boys, and vice versa? Joe: Not really.  If we were

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Quoting Quiverfull: Undressing America?

January 2, 2013 By 14 Comments
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QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers

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