Before You Meet Prince Charming: Part 3 Chapter 2

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideAll quotes from Sarah Mally's book 'Before You Meet Prince Charming' in blue text.Let's see if I can remember what's happened so far in the chapter.  First, we were horrified by a creepy-as-hell rose analogy for emotional purity.  Next, we learned that Christians marry non-Christians because of dating with a variety of nonsensical reasons to support that assertion. … [Read more...]

Before You Meet Prince Charming – Part 1 Chapter 1

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids Collide"Before You Meet Prince Charming" by Sarah Mally has a few interesting points in its favor.Sarah Mally has reached the level of writing competence found among high school graduates!  She understands and uses the conventions of the English language fluently; After "Preparing to Be A Helpmeet" and "It's (Not) That Complicated", I am grateful to read a book without feeling a compulsion to pull out a red pen and fix the mistakes. Ms. Mally starts each chapter of the book with an allegorical tale involving a teen-age princess living in a kingdom.  Writing this was more complicated than the common "exhortation and advice" style … [Read more...]

Re-writing Bad Advice Part 1

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Samantha P Field.comEditor's note: Samantha is doing that wonderful thing of looking at the super -toxic advice given out in Quiverfull-Evangelical circles and rewriting it. First in the series.Among my favorite things in the world are advice columns. I read Dear Abby every week growing up, and as an adult I discovered advice columns like Captain Awkward and Dear Prudence— which is written by Mallory Ortberg, … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 4 – Fathers Own Daughters?

by Sarah Faith Schlissel from Chalcedon and BibleTopics.com – Daddy’s Girl: Courtship and a Father’s Rights Editor's note: In this bit it's clear that the author believes that Father is God to a daughter, not God Himself. Fathers own daughters completely in this world. Is that not a heresy according to the Bible she likes to quote in this piece. Cherry-picking justifications and mental Twister. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 3 – Fathers Own Daughters?

by Sarah Faith Schlissel of Chalcedon and BibleTopics.com – Daddy’s Girl: Courtship and a Father’s RightEditor's note: She moves on to the idea of being 'owned', except the menfolk. They are not 'owned', they are 'owners'. According to the author only 'Sinners' object to being under ownership. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – How To Be Loving And Friendly When You Don’t Approve Of Someones Actions?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated: Part 8 – The Boys

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideAll quotes from the book in blue text.In our latest installment of "The Boys of Botkin", we get to hear the Botkin Sisters' male friends views on pitfalls in guy-girl relationships.  After transcribing the quotations, I am extremely doubtful that any of the guys (including their married brother Ben) have actually had a relationship with a woman. … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated: Part 4 Chapter 11

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideAll quotes from the book in blue text.We're down to the last two "stories" from Chapter 11!  The first story illustrates why Emo-Pur (Emotional Purity) is a giant waste of time and energy for everyone involved. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Admitting Your Advice Leads Nowhere?

by Shalom Pearl Brand from No Greater Joy - Where Are the Men When You Need One?Editor's note: So girls are raised up to believe their one and only important role in life is to get married and breed as many Godly babies are possible yet Shalom is admitting that this has failed because no one has bothered to train the boys to be men? Why can't they just admit that this toxic system works for no one? … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated: Part 4 Chapter 10

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideQuoted text from the book is in blue. So far, the Botkin Sisters have focused on how to bother your friends show any interest in a romantic relationship. Next, the girls explain how to become a completely social isolated loser. Don't believe me? Wait until you see the advice. … [Read more...]