Jessa Duggar’s Happily Ever After

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by Melissa cross posted from her blog Permission To LiveSo Jessa Duggar is officially courting and seeing the headlines on news sites and the links people were sharing made me feel nauseous. Reading the articles where they are portrayed as a young couple making a quaint and cute (albeit different) choice when it comes to romance. And then reading the comments where clueless person after clueless person gushes admiration for the “values” and praises … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Dateable Girls Know How To Shut Up

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by Justin Lookadoo, author of 'R U Dateable?' from Buzz Feed - Texas School Hosts Speaker Who Encourages Girls to 'Shut Up' to be 'Dateable' and from the Dallas Observer - Richardson High Schoolers Learned Today That "Dateable Girls Know How to Shut Up" “You’re a girl. Be proud of all that means. You are soft, you are gentle, you are a woman. Don’t try to be a guy. Guys like you because you are different from them. So let your girly-ness soar.” … [Read more...]

Interviewing Vaughn Ohlman Part 1

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by Calulu cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapeA few months ago I decided that I needed to interview Vaughn Ohlman of True Love Doesn't Wait. I wanted to know how he was coming up with his interpretations of scripture to support young marriage and young motherhood. I've read those same scriptures many times over and not come up with the same meanings.Shot off an email to Vaughn asking if he might just let me interview him for NLQ and he agreed. The ground rules were that I would ask no personal questions nor add or detract from his replies.Which made coming up with the first set of questions nearly impossible as I wanted to ask background questions, not to dig up dirt … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Fear and Readiness?

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by Vaughn Ohlman from True Love Doesn't Wait - Fear and Readiness It is a funny difference between conservatives and liberals that conservatives seem to always question liberals ideas, and liberals question conservatives motives. Indeed, when a liberal makes a movie about an evil conservative the conservative is almost never doing what the conservative says he wants to do (ie he is a hypocrite[1]) whereas a conservative movie will often show liberals living up to their stated ideals (which just happen to be wrong, immoral, and lead to a deranged and deprived society). … [Read more...]

Skewed View of “The World”

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by Calulu cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't Rape Vaughn Ohlman tried his hand at writing Bible parody to try and belabor his most beloved of points - that children must always trust their father, or in this case the father's servant, to pick the right spouse for them without taking into consideration concerns such as compatibility, sexual chemistry or even something as simple as common interests. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Politically Correct?

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In which Vaughn Ohlman of True Love Doesn't Wait writes a Biblical parody.. The following story has been updated to meet the prejudices of today’s readers…And Abraham was old, and well stricken in age… … [Read more...]

Saturday Links: Jessa Duggar – Bloggers Sound Off

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This week the thing most talked about in many of the blogs I encountered was reactions to the news that JimBob Duggar finally approved a young man to court his daughters. So here's a list of  some of our Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network bloggers and their thoughts on the news.Makes me sad for the kids how the Duggars make "Announcements" in the media about things that would normally be considered private information in most families, not an opportunities to grab the attention of the media. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: What is ‘Courting’?

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The news came out yesterday that the third Duggar daughter, Jessa, was in courtship with a young man from church. Here's Ma and Pa Duggar's explanation of what Courtship is.by Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar from People Magazine and ABC News. Jim Bob explains: "Courting is getting to know each other in a group setting, both families spending time together and the couple setting goals together to determine if they are meant to marry. With dating, a couple will often pair off alone and that sometimes leads to a more physical relationship." … [Read more...]

The Intellectual Honesty of Betrothal

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by The GraduateThe Intellectual Honesty of BetrothalRecently, a lot of news has been made about the betrothal announcement between Joshua Ohlman and Laura Camp, who became “betrothed” or engaged at their parents’ wishes after two hours of knowing each other.   Vaughn Ohlman runs “True Love Doesn’t Wait,” a website dedicated to advocating early marriage with no involvement on the part of those actually to be married, save signing rather long “marriage” contracts.If there is one thing I must grant to Vaughn, it’s this:  He at least accepts the logical conclusions of his beliefs, whereas Vision Forum, ATI, and others, try to soften the inevitable conclusions of where their worldvie … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Why is it Always About Sex?

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by Vaughn Ohlman from True Love Doesn't Wait - If Courtship Were HonestThe other day I was speaking to a courtship advocate and he called my definition of marriage ‘shortsighted’. What was my definition? Well, it was just a partial definition but it was ‘a lifelong sexual relationship’, basically. My interlocutor didn’t like that, since he was trying to say that, in a courtship done well, there was no possibility for the young man to ‘lust’ after the woman he was courting. That he could continue to treat her as a ‘sister’ and denied they had a ‘quasi-covenant’. … [Read more...]


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