Quoting Quiverfull: Your Boyfriend is Supposed to Lead You to Christ?

by Raegan Thornhill from Delighted in Him - Wait for the Man Who Preaches You the GospelEditor's note: The purity and courtship crowd come up with some of the most confining rules for friendships and relationships. We see how well this works out when you look at the large number of unmarried daughters like the Botkin girls and look at the fact that Christians have higher divorce rates than non-believers. Why not base your relationship on mutual interests, love and attraction and not worry so much about if you are being lead to Christ? … [Read more...]

What Are You Doing? Chapter 3 – Girls Just Wanna Have Sex

by Suzanne TitkemeyerGentlemen start your engines and let the slut-shaming commence! It's an all slut-shaming inappropriate conversations with odd guys in the park extravaganza!The title of this chapter is 'The Importance of Boyfriends' and as the chapter unfolds Von makes it sound as if boyfriends were the newest trendy accessory, like a Fendi bag or a pair of Christian Louboutin shoes with the bright red soles or a French tip mani/pedi. Not that author Vaughn Ohlman is familiar with the must haves, unless it's the must have items in fundamentalism, a crisp KJV Bible, an ironed floor length skirt and a pack of 'ministry mints' Altoids in your pocket just in case you have to do an … [Read more...]

What Are You Doing? – Chapter 2: Boys Just Wanna Have Sex

by Suzanne TitkemeyerAnd so we are back reading this book that is a stark look into the mind of marry them off young patriarch Vaughn Ohlman. The players are in place. Young Andrew Adamson is back at the park again, eating lunch this time instead of playing with his cell phone. He's joined by vaguely Middle Eastern buttinski Sakal Davidson. This is apparently post-date from the week before. Von states at the beginning of this chapter that the overarching theme is 'What should I be doing on a date that is God-honoring?' but that's not it. The main theme is that this boy wants to get married just so he can have sex finally, since, you know, it was established in chapter 1 that everyone is … [Read more...]

What are you Doing? – Chapter 1: Boys Just Wanna Have Fun

Today we dive right into our review of Let Them Marry Vaughn Ohlman's book on young marriage 'What are you Doing?' Warning, extreme levels of snark ahead. This book is so dreadful it's impossible to do a serious analysis of the material.Also, Von has updated his website and is now claiming he has been falsely accused of advocating pedophilia and child marriage. Was he ever accused of pedophilia? Not here. It was the selling of underage girls into common law marriages that most people are upset about. The possibility that he might be encouraging sex trafficking among his followers under the guise of it being somehow 'Godly' instead of what it actually would be - a crime. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Courtship is ‘Safer’ Than Dating?

by Rowina Seidler as quoted by Ladies Against Feminism from Ruby in the Rough - Courtship vs BoyfriendsEditor's note: No where in this article does the author come out and give that hoary old untrue Christian trope about giving away pieces of your heart, but it's a close thing. Sounds like her idea of courtship does not involve developing feelings or attraction to a guy, it sounds more like an extended job interview. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – What Does Christian Dating Look Like?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – How to Tell a Guy ‘No’ Gently

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Emotional Intimacy is Only for Marriage?

by Larry Solomon of Biblical Gender Roles - How the Modern Practice of 'Christian Dating' is Cruel to Men and as always linked through Do Not Link for safety purposes.Editor's note: Larry just goes right back to that women owe men sex thing that is the pillar of his entire Christian faith, that does not square at all with the historical and cultural Jesus of the Bible. I feel almost sorry for him, he'll never know what it's like to have friends you're emotionally intimate with that has exactly zero to do with any type of romance, sex or expectations of sex. He's really missing out on one of the best experiences of life, intimate friends. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Dating Only Encourages Men to Have Sexy Sinful Thoughts?

by Larry Solomon of Biblical Gender Roles - How the Modern Practice of 'Christian Dating' is Cruel to Men and as always linked through Do Not Link for safety purposes.Editor's note: This piece starts off with a story about a young man and woman in Bible college who date and hold to the strict rules of no handholding or side hugs until their engagement only to have the man start imaging what his fiance looks like naked. It's a hop, skip and a jump to his attempting to touch her breasts and derriere, leading to a broken engagement. According to Larry the problem isn't that he's just a normal red-blooded healthy male dealing with emotions and hormones, the problem is that dating is the type … [Read more...]

Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – What Do I Do Now?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]


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