Before You Meet Prince Charming: Part 3 Chapter 2

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideAll quotes from Sarah Mally's book 'Before You Meet Prince Charming' in blue text.Let's see if I can remember what's happened so far in the chapter.  First, we were horrified by a creepy-as-hell rose analogy for emotional purity.  Next, we learned that Christians marry non-Christians because of dating with a variety of nonsensical reasons to support that assertion. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – I’ve Made Mistakes But Can’t Get Past Them

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

What are you Doing? – Chapter 14 Sakal Just Wants Everyone to Marry Now so He Can Imagine the Wedding Night

by Suzanne TitkemeyerOkay, let's dive right in today instead of silly shilly-shallying around cracking bad jokes.When we last left the book Pater (Pat) Terrifille and know it all dirty minded park lurker Sakal Davidson were walking and discussing in the most disgusting ways the reasons why horny young boys must marry immediately. Seriously, by the time I got to the end of the chapter reading on Facebook Live Sunday night I was starting to gag from the tequila I had to swill so much because of all the squishy sexual references. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Your Boyfriend is Supposed to Lead You to Christ?

by Raegan Thornhill from Delighted in Him - Wait for the Man Who Preaches You the GospelEditor's note: The purity and courtship crowd come up with some of the most confining rules for friendships and relationships. We see how well this works out when you look at the large number of unmarried daughters like the Botkin girls and look at the fact that Christians have higher divorce rates than non-believers. Why not base your relationship on mutual interests, love and attraction and not worry so much about if you are being lead to Christ? … [Read more...]

What Are You Doing? Chapter 3 – Girls Just Wanna Have Sex

by Suzanne TitkemeyerGentlemen start your engines and let the slut-shaming commence! It's an all slut-shaming inappropriate conversations with odd guys in the park extravaganza!The title of this chapter is 'The Importance of Boyfriends' and as the chapter unfolds Von makes it sound as if boyfriends were the newest trendy accessory, like a Fendi bag or a pair of Christian Louboutin shoes with the bright red soles or a French tip mani/pedi. Not that author Vaughn Ohlman is familiar with the must haves, unless it's the must have items in fundamentalism, a crisp KJV Bible, an ironed floor length skirt and a pack of 'ministry mints' Altoids in your pocket just in case you have to do an … [Read more...]

What Are You Doing? – Chapter 2: Boys Just Wanna Have Sex

by Suzanne TitkemeyerAnd so we are back reading this book that is a stark look into the mind of marry them off young patriarch Vaughn Ohlman. The players are in place. Young Andrew Adamson is back at the park again, eating lunch this time instead of playing with his cell phone. He's joined by vaguely Middle Eastern buttinski Sakal Davidson. This is apparently post-date from the week before. Von states at the beginning of this chapter that the overarching theme is 'What should I be doing on a date that is God-honoring?' but that's not it. The main theme is that this boy wants to get married just so he can have sex finally, since, you know, it was established in chapter 1 that everyone is … [Read more...]

What are you Doing? – Chapter 1: Boys Just Wanna Have Fun

Today we dive right into our review of Let Them Marry Vaughn Ohlman's book on young marriage 'What are you Doing?' Warning, extreme levels of snark ahead. This book is so dreadful it's impossible to do a serious analysis of the material.Also, Von has updated his website and is now claiming he has been falsely accused of advocating pedophilia and child marriage. Was he ever accused of pedophilia? Not here. It was the selling of underage girls into common law marriages that most people are upset about. The possibility that he might be encouraging sex trafficking among his followers under the guise of it being somehow 'Godly' instead of what it actually would be - a crime. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Courtship is ‘Safer’ Than Dating?

by Rowina Seidler as quoted by Ladies Against Feminism from Ruby in the Rough - Courtship vs BoyfriendsEditor's note: No where in this article does the author come out and give that hoary old untrue Christian trope about giving away pieces of your heart, but it's a close thing. Sounds like her idea of courtship does not involve developing feelings or attraction to a guy, it sounds more like an extended job interview. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – What Does Christian Dating Look Like?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – How to Tell a Guy ‘No’ Gently

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]