Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – What Does Christian Dating Look Like?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – How to Tell a Guy ‘No’ Gently

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Emotional Intimacy is Only for Marriage?

by Larry Solomon of Biblical Gender Roles - How the Modern Practice of 'Christian Dating' is Cruel to Men and as always linked through Do Not Link for safety purposes.Editor's note: Larry just goes right back to that women owe men sex thing that is the pillar of his entire Christian faith, that does not square at all with the historical and cultural Jesus of the Bible. I feel almost sorry for him, he'll never know what it's like to have friends you're emotionally intimate with that has exactly zero to do with any type of romance, sex or expectations of sex. He's really missing out on one of the best experiences of life, intimate friends. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Dating Only Encourages Men to Have Sexy Sinful Thoughts?

by Larry Solomon of Biblical Gender Roles - How the Modern Practice of 'Christian Dating' is Cruel to Men and as always linked through Do Not Link for safety purposes.Editor's note: This piece starts off with a story about a young man and woman in Bible college who date and hold to the strict rules of no handholding or side hugs until their engagement only to have the man start imaging what his fiance looks like naked. It's a hop, skip and a jump to his attempting to touch her breasts and derriere, leading to a broken engagement. According to Larry the problem isn't that he's just a normal red-blooded healthy male dealing with emotions and hormones, the problem is that dating is the type … [Read more...]

Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – What Do I Do Now?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: The Taunt of Slut?

by Unknown Very Creepy Christian Dude on You Tube - 7 Simple Rules for Dating My Christian DaughterEditor's note: This dude is talking to his daughter about his rules for her dating members of the opposite sex. Found this gem on Liberal America.org, who found it on the very funny Instagram account Christian Nightmares. Video posted below the horrendous quotes. This man is another of those Good Christian Men (tm) that are all too interested in their daughter's sex life. Jaw drop. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Don’t Defile Someone’s Future Spouse?

by Ray Alcorn from Eternal Perspective Ministries - 23 Guidelines to Protect Your Purity in DatingEditor's note: This seems to be a new idea popping up in fundamentalist Christianity that you have to keep your love-interest somehow 'pure' for their future husband or wife. A bunch of extra Biblical extrapolation is what it seems like from here.  Are these 'Good Christian' guys afraid someone might gain enough experience to judge them against and find them lacking? Or is this simply another attempt to control someone else because Bible? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Help! I’m Falling In Love With ‘GASP’! An Atheist!?

by Paula Hendricks from Lies Young Women Believe - I'm Falling in Love with an AtheistEditor's note: Oh no! Because it's just not possible that two people could ever possibly respect and love one another if they don't agree on faith? I'm sure that will come as a huge surprise to the many inter faith couples out there that have been successfully married for many years. If your faith is so shallow that it's challenged by anyone not of the same faith then perhaps you need to examine exactly why that is. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Is Romance In Dating A Sin?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Part 5 – Cinderella

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideToday, Leah lays out another example of how courtship creates angst, confusion and general insanity. David and I met at his work.  He was giving a presentation and I was sitting in the front row.  After the meeting, we talked briefly but we both thought the same thing, "What are the chances they know the Lord?"  I later called David with a work question and suddenly he was talking about God.  I remember hanging up the phone and thinking, "I totally misjudged this guy!" Interesting.  I would like to go on the record that I've NEVER thought "Hmmm.  Is that speaker a saved Christian?" before.  Likewise, if I call someone on busine … [Read more...]


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