Quoting Quiverfull: No Bitterness Allowed if Sexually Assaulted?

by Doug Wilson from Blog and Mablog - Waiting for the Rat to DieEditor's note: The unquoted bits of this deal with the Christian trope of forgiveness not matter what. At least he didn't insist on immediate and full forgiveness of this fictional sexual assault victim towards the person that abused her. This idea about not being 'bitter' in the aftermath is so inappropriate on many different levels. It's more victim silencing. … [Read more...]

Questioning the Pearls: Screaming?

 tFor well over a year we’ve been running a second Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ on Sundays, filled with questions by young ladies trying to get ready for marriage. Since we’ve run through many of the questions on their site it’s time to shift Sundays to something else, like perhaps examining the cornucopia of probably fake emails and questions that Michael and Debi Pearl of No Greater Joy post on their website and the possibly poisonous answers they give. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Love Your Husband But Deny Your Emotions?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - Thirty-Six Years of MarriageEditor's note: Apparently Lori and Ken just celebrated their anniversary and Lori waxed on about what she's learned in that time between asking her readers to send photos of them kissing their spouses. Warning, there's two photos of Lori and Ken kissing on the blog. But, just like the flip flopping Lori does in her book 'The Power of the Transformed Wife' she stresses the need to show love to your husband and then turns around and tells you to deny all negative emotions, hold your feelings in check. Can she not see how impossible and toxic it is to just allow only one set of emotions? … [Read more...]

Do Hurt People, Hurt People?

by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalThere is an old saying, "Hurt people, hurt people."The idea is that people who have been hurt will lash out and hurt others in their pain. Sounds reasonable... sort of...Except for the fact that some of the kindest, gentlest people I know are those who have been hurt deeply. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Anger is Poisonous?

by Kaylene Yoder as quoted by Faith Along The Way - Hope For the Angry MomEditor's note: Another bit of righteous fear-mongering. A little anger is not necessarily a bad thing. Anger can be motivating, a signal that you need to address an issue either internally or externally, it can be cleansing. It's not going to ruin your life if you experience anger every now and again, even if it happens while you are with your children. But you know what will ruin your life? Repressing your emotions! I will give the writer credit for one thing, she did the right thing in getting away from her children for a few moments to take control of what she felt. Removing yourself from triggering situations … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Do Not Share Your Thoughts With Your Wife?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - How to Train Your Wife Not to be JealousEditor's note: Toxic marriage advice from Larry. Don't share your thoughts, don't allow her to pressure you to spent time with her. Seriously dude, the only thing this advice is growing is frustration and contempt on the part of the wife. You want a divorce? Follow Larry's advice. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 5 – Bad Marriages Are Like Bad Health?

by Michael and Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy Magazine – Seven Pearls for Finding a Happy MarriageEditor's note: This entire series is sort of ironic in light of how much abuse both of these writers advise their followers to either inflict or endure. A good marriage does take patience, sacrifice and practice, but it's not much of a good marriage if one partner is forcing the other to have sex all the time when not being forced to cook, clean and crab to the point where they collapse. Good marriages don't involve forcing one of the partners to beg strangers for funds enough to have surgery for their chronic neck problems. GOOD MARRIAGES DO NOT EVOLVE ABUSE! … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Denigrate Needs and Call Them Choices?

by Tim Bayly from The Bayly Blog - Welcome to Fatherhood: You Are What You EatEditor's note: There's so much hateful shaming over possible allergies and food needs, which do vary wildly among people, in this sneeringly awful piece on Father's Day from Bayly. He uses this awkward, blaming and silly story on food allergies and needs to slide later in the piece into saying that you cannot pick a church based on what he thinks are silly things...the pastor having hipster eyeglass frames or the style of music. Do people really chose churches or their own eating needs in such a shallow ridiculous way? I think it's likely done in all seriousness and Bayly is disrespecting people for having … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – Children’s Needs Are Not To Be Considered?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy Magazine - No More Bondage to FEAREditor's note: In light of Debi's babbled prayer mess and her freaking out one can only conclude that the horrible parenting advice giving out by the Pearls has possibly resulted in a law suit. It should, what they advocate is at best neglecting the needs of a child and in its worse child abuse. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Exhausted? Have Another Baby!

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - Strength For Each New DayEditor's note: Nance doubles down yet again on her claims that if you keep pumping out babies that God will make sure you have enough energy to take care of them. Wonder how that applied to all her disappeared African adoptees? Did God give he enough energy to care for them? Where are they? … [Read more...]