Quoting Quiverfull: Your Bad Mood is Sin?

by Jon Bloom at John Piper's Desiring God - Lay Aside the Weight of MoodinessEditor's note: More thought and emotion control nonsense from the religious right. They discount things such as mental illness but later allows for things that beset only women; periods, pregnancy and childbirth as possible reasons you might have fluctuating moods. It's just not that simple or formulaic. Humans are complex with a myriad of reasons their moods might not be always up. It's not sin to be sad, or angry, or feeling deflated, it happens to everyone. … [Read more...]

Not Quoting Quiverfull: Teaching Girls It’s Okay To Be Angry

by Soraya Chemaly from Role Reboot - Does Your Daughter Know It's OK To Be Angry?Editor's note: What do you think about this? Is teaching our daughters to own their feelings something we need to do more of? Especially when coming out of fundamentalist cult religions anger can be a scary unpleasant thing. Food for thought this Thursday morn. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Blaming Parents Attitudes?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Bad AttitudeEditor's note: While I sort of agree with Pearl's words that if you are feeling not so nice towards your children they will read it on your face I don't see where that is always a bad thing. Being fake isn't good but sometimes the kinder of two evils. I am sure before we get to the end of this article it's going to take a nasty toxic turn. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: No Negative Talk Ever?

by Colin Campbell from Meat For Men - The Hotter The Battle The Higher The PraisesEditor's note: Now Colin is following his wife Nancy's lead, telling men to control their thoughts and to only be happy, thankful and praising God instead of feeling their true emotions. While I agree openly grumbling likely isn't a good thing all of the time, telling someone to suppress their emotions and thoughts is much worse and can lead you into some pretty strange unhealthy places if you let it. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Control Your Thoughts and Get a Crown?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - Are You Wearing Your Golden Crown?Editor's note: Another control your thoughts or else piece from Nancy. The different in this one is that she promised a golden crown if you do so, not the usual blaming and shaming routine with threats of all the awful things that will happen if you don't control your negative thoughts. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull Part 4 – Michael Pearl Answers Critics of “To Train Up A Child”

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - It's The Book's FaultEditor's note: Another laundry list of bad attitudes or thought crimes that Michael claims makes his book not work right. Impossible standards. Emotional control. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Bless Your Husband or Else?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - Are You Blessing Your Family Today?Editor's note: Nancy seems pretty obsessional about being beyond submitted to your husband. You have to bless him all the time according to Nancy-world. This message about being a 'blessing' isn't necessarily a bad one, I've found that a card or perfectly timed phone call can be just what's needed in the moment, but being that this is Nancy Campbell suggesting being the blessing you can count on this not being a suggestion, but a command. Like so much in Quiverfull those things that are good in the outside world becomes poisonous when it is ordered instead of given freely. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Control Every Thought?

by Jessica from Smartter Each Day - Getting rid of ANTS: tips for AnxietyEditor's note: While there is no avoiding some anxiety in life and it is not healthy to be in a constant state of anxiety it's not the end of the world. Your feelings ARE your feelings. This lie that parts of the church tell that you must only have positive thoughts and emotions harms many women, causing them to feel like they're a failure. Own your feelings because most of the time they are trying to tell you something. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Accept the Bad Things to be Happy?

by Sarah Mae at Fitting Perfect Into Fallen - I Have Bad Thoughts About My HusbandEditor's note: Why is it that in the world of Quiverfull, Evangelicals, Fundamentalist and Christian Patriarchy no one ever thinks to just come right out and TALK about their issues or feelings or struggles WITH the person they are struggling with instead of repressing their angst and pasting a smile on their face? Life outside that bubble is so much more simplistic and fulfilling if for no other reason than you can express your thoughts and feelings without feeling shame. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Deny Your Feelings Yet Again Or Feel Guilty?

by Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies - Cheer Up Your Home TodayMany times when preparing a Nancy Campbell post for Quoting Quiverfull I am reminded of that old sign that reads "The Beatings Will Continue Until Morale Improves". This is more of the same. … [Read more...]