Quoting Quiverfull: Getting Busier Cures Depression?

From No Greater Joy -When You Need a Miracle by Erin Harrison During those black years I felt it would never end. Maybe you didn’t bring into your marriage the baggage I did, and maybe your husband is a mean, lazy jerk or even a pervert, but pity, despair and bitterness will not set you free from your own state of nothingness, lack of productivity, wanting of challenge, or any real rewards. Do you know what I am talking about—working and never seeing the end … [Read more...]

Sometimes Church is the Problem

by Boze Herrington cross posted from his blog The Talking LlamaIn May 2011 I requested a meeting with a church leader about the terrible time I had been having.I hadn’t eaten, really, in three weeks. I could barely sleep. Some nights I would just sit in my room and cry and cry as I thought about my life, about the kind of man I was, someone whose anger and hatred had left him alone and completely friendless. I cared about ideas more than I cared about people; and I realized I was heading towards the same miserable end as my hero, … [Read more...]

Self Preservation and Mental Health

by Sarah Henderson cross posted from her blog Feminist in Spite of ThemIn my last post, I made a brief mention of how living in a state of survival affected my mental health. I thought it would be a good idea to expand on this issue, because in my opinion it is the crux of why having quiverfull families and homeschooling in chaos is abusive to the children involved.As I have mentioned before, doing something that causes harm to your child is abusive regardless of your intentions or religious justification. … [Read more...]

Mark Driscoll Tweet on Thou Shalt Not Kill

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardYesterday, misogynist Fundamentalist Calvinist pastor of Mars Hill Church, Mark Driscoll tweeted: “Thou shall not murder” includes suicide, terrorism, euthanasia, abortion, but not necessarily capital punishment, just war, self defense. Currently, Driscoll is incoherently preaching through the Ten Commandments at Mars Hill. This past Sunday, Driscoll preached on the command, thou shalt not murder (kill) . Based on Driscoll’s tweet, he thinks:Murder is:Suicide Terrorism Euthanasia AbortionMurder is not:Capital Punishment Just War Self DefenseWelcome to the schizophrenic world of Evangelicals … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Mental Illness is Self Focus?

by John Piper from desiring God - 10 Resolutions for Mental Health That night Dr. Kilby had a pastoral heart and a poet’s eye. He pled with us to stop seeking mental health in the mirror of self-analysis, but instead to drink in the remedies of God in nature. He was not naïve. He knew of sin. He knew of the necessity of redemption in Christ. But he would have said that Christ purchased new eyes for us as well as new hearts. His plea was that we stop being unamazed by the strange glory of ordinary things. He ended that lecture in 1976 with a list of resolutions. As a tribute to my teacher and a blessing to your soul, I offer them for your joy. … [Read more...]

Iron Sharpeneth Iron, Part One

by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons “I’m really worried about her.” I was laying in my bed, staring up at my ceiling, envisioning all the different situations one of my dearest friends could find herself in, now that she was living in the downtown of a big city, far away from people she knew and the community she’d grown up in. Handsome was on the phone, listening to my concerns. … [Read more...]

Come To Jesus?

...or How Not To Witness To An Atheist/Agnostic - by CaluluAs I've said before I wasn't raised Quiverfull or even as a fundamentalist or believer. Through the years I kept being subjected to people trying to witness to me, giving that old altar call, tap dancing towards salvation, come to Jesus sonny boy father and the Holy Ghost sales pitch. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Depression & Suicide

Rick Warren from Saddleback Church It was a lifelong battle lost, despite consultation with top doctors, counseling, medication and floods of prayer. Despite all that, Warren wrote. "this was an illness that was never fully controlled and the emotional pain resulted in his decision to take his life." … [Read more...]

Two Simple Statements

by SamanthaBy the time I was a sophomore at an extremely conservative Christian college, I had gone through twelve years at an IFB church and been manipulated and bullied by quiverful and patriarchal teachings. My family had been excommunicated from the church, and friends I had … [Read more...]

Bad, Evil Psychology Helped Me

by LatebloomerGrowing up, I heard a lot of scoffing at psychology in my family, homeschooling community, and fundamentalist church.  In those circles, the study and application of psychology represented a worthless human attempt to feel happier apart from God and become better without the guidance of the Bible.   The anti-psychology sentiment was so strong that even building kids' self-confidence and self-esteem was derided as a "worldly" goal.  There was too much "self" in the name.  Real True Christian children were to be obedient and humble instead.Looking back, I definitely had the obedience thing handled; in fact, I cannot remember ever purposefully disobeying my parents, even in … [Read more...]