Quoting Quiverfull: Spoiled Unspanked Children?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - Don't Pamper Your ChildrenEditor's note: Is there some fundamentalist world calendar that causes QF enforcers to all write about similar subjects at the same time? I am finding a lot of 'Don't Spoil Just Spank' posts on the usual peoples blogs today. In the unquoted bits of this piece Lori explains you just have to 'be firm' and 'not allow' certain behaviors like tantrums to turn out perfectly obedient children before she makes the huge leap to say that those kids allowed to get away with the things she considers bad behavior are doomed to awful lives. I don't think it's much of a leap from her words about awful lives to the hell and … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Parents Are Supposed to Fight Over Discipline?

by Tim Bayly of the Bayly Blog - The Good Father: Fight the Good Fight Part 1Editor's note: Does Bayly have a point here? I can only speak from personal experience and say that there were no fights ever in my family over disciplining the children because this is something we'd agreed upon well before we had children or even get married. I don't remember there being arguments or any whispering over family fights on this subject in my old church either. Money? Oh yeah, popular fight topic for everyone. Discipline? Nope. Not even tearful prayer requests to learn to accept a husband's will for his children. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 6 – Questioning the Pearls

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy magazine – But I Wanted to Ask Mr. PearlEditor's note: Oh my word! She's upset that she didn't learn to spank her child early on? I wonder if she's ever considered the 'Love and Logic' series instead of 'To Train Up A Child'? Can Michael give child training advice that does not lead to beating a child with a rod of correction? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Let Me Tell You What to Do or Else?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - Listen to AdviceEditor's note: It's starting to look like that Nancy is running out of material so she's resorting to some very odd posts like this one. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 7 – Homeschoolers Embracing The World?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Jumping Ship Part 2Editor's note: Shorter version of Michael Pearl: Everyone, and I mean everyone, is a dirty, nasty, whore-y potential Sodomite sinner. He doesn't believe what most of us know, that if you repression or control your children too much that they will rebel at some point. Plus that sexual repression always emerges later in the weirdest ways. Towards the end you realize this is also all about selling copies of his vile child beating manual "To Train Up A Child." It's a walking, talking, fear-mongering never ending commercial pitch. Michael Pearl and his never ending shaming others journey because 'God' told him to do it. … [Read more...]

Why Do So Many Evangelicals Abuse Their Children?

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce Gerencser Now there’s a title sure to get everyone’s attention! Why do so many Christians abuse their children? The reason is primarily a theological one. (though they might not even realize it is) Most Christian sects believe in some form of original sin.(depravity) The theology goes something like this: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Judgmental Father?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - My Father and My JudgeEditor's note: Nancy has been writing on the fear of the Lord for a week or so now. This bit concerns how we need to fear God as well as love him like a father. Isn't fearing your father one of the hallmarks of a dysfunctional relationship? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: “Hanukkah” Parenting?

by Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies - Full Time Hanukkah ParentingProverbs 22:6, "Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it." The word "train" is "hanuk," the verb of Hanukkah, meaning "to initiate, dedicate, consecrate." It is not enough to celebrate Hanukkah for eight days. As parents, we are in a FULLTIME HANUKKAH CELEBRATION! … [Read more...]

Post-Fundamentalist Motherhood

by LatebloomerWhen I look at my little toddler, I am so glad that I am no longer a fundamentalist Christian.First, I don't believe in total depravity anymore, so I don't feel compelled to interpret his actions with negative terminology. The doctrine of total depravity is a common belief among fundamentalists.  It teaches that every person is born with a sin nature, separated from God, and capable of the worst kinds of evil.  It also says that proper parenting can mitigate the effects of the sin nature, but only a relationship with Jesus can make a person capable of true goodness.If I believed that my child had a sin nature that predisposed him to evil, that would c … [Read more...]