Quoting Quiverfull: Part 5 Disrespectful Wife Leads to Divorce?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles – Why the Movie ‘Fireproof’ Offers Unbiblical and BAD Marriage AdviceEditor's note: Now we're moving on to Larry's comparing his first failed marriage to the things he thinks are wrong in 'Fireproof'. Turns out that the movie was released about the same time as he was divorcing his first wife and that someone in church leadership insisted that Larry make like Caleb in the movie and practice sacrificial love. That didn't go over very well at all. I apologize in advance for the length of today's quote, but we're pushing through towards the end of this mess. This is the next to last bit. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Biblical Divorce Because Of Abuse?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Why Are Some Sins Unforgivable – Duggar Family Edition?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.This question comes directly out of the various tabloid reports of Josh Duggar returning home from Reformers Unanimous. Why is the sin of molesting little girls ruled to be forgivable yet infidelity and pornography aren't? To me this seems backwards, it seems like molesting children would be the bigger sin. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Don’t Judge Your Husband Ever?

by Michael and Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy magazine - Marriage Good WillEditor's note: I know we've featured some rather toxic sludge from this issue of No Greater Joy already this week but it just keeps on coming. This entire article reads like a 'Shut up about your husband or end up divorced in a lesbian duplex' threat that Debi loves to toss about. Notice that while they are citing 'studies' the studies are unnamed and not linked to. Citation needed Mr. and Mrs. Pearl. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Abused Wives Must Never Divorce?

by Pastor Stephen Kim from NYC Pastor.com - Divorce and RemarriageEditor's note: We all know that the Pearls think the way to handle an abusive spouse is to stay married to him, but many other pastors believe that divorce in the case of abuse is not wrong. And then there are pastors like Pastor Kim that hold you have to stay with your abuser no matter what because Bible. Recipe for disaster and more abuse. Emphasis mine below … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Lack of Submission Causes Domestic Violence?

by Archbishop of Toledo Braulio Rodriguez in The Mirror - Fury as archbishop says domestic violence is caused by women 'not obeying men'Editor's note: Just when it seems like the leadership of the Catholic church was starting to realize that they had to modernize to keep their members this guy shows that old dangerous ideas still abound. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – Selfish Momma Dooms Children

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Broken CirclesEditor's note: Now Michael goes for the super-toxic, by blaming the child for her circumstances. He claims that all this uncertainty teaches the child how to manipulate every adult in their path. He eventually always reverts to control, blaming and punishment. It's not wrong or manipulative for children to require different supportive actions from the different people in their lives. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Selfish Momma Dooms Children?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Broken CirclesEditor's note: More of the harsher rhetoric of the Pearls from the 1990s. In this lengthy piece we're quoting Michael lays the blame for all the children out of control firmly at the feet of women who divorce their husbands. This is pretty awful in so many ways. All the  boxes of Pearl fears are checked, drinking, addiction, sexual molestation of children, lesbian duplex/apartment living, poverty..and how did Mom go from living with another man to rushing out to date? Typical Pearl lack of logic or editing. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Welfare Creates Easy Divorce?

by Biblical Gender Roles from Biblical Gender Roles.c0m - How the Social Safety  Net Encourages DivorceEditor's note: So he's upset that there are now social programs that keep women and children fed and clothed without having to put up with the emotionally abusive bullshit of the patriarch? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: No Marriage Counselling?

by Biblical Gender Roles from Biblical Gender Roles.com - Stories of Sexual Denial in Marriage Episode 8 - linked with a safe 'Do Not Link' hyperlink.Editor's note: Now BGR says that marriage counselors are tough enough on ladies that refuse sex with their husbands. I wonder if any of these whining guys has ever tried any self-improvement, actually asked their wives if there was something that they could be doing to make sex happen more frequently. It could be something as simple as taking care of the children alone one night a week so she can have some 'me' time, or helping out more. Why this go straight to bring her up in front of the pastor, threaten divorce and demand sex. … [Read more...]