Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 Listening To Your Wife?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - I Need Her Counsel and JudgementEditor's note: This is almost enough to make you feel sorry for Michael's wife Debi Pearl, but knowing how Debi twists what happened to her and uses it to make others feel fear and guilt cancels out any sympathy points she might get for her husband admitting what an abusive jerk he has been. Sick relationship. His advice in the end might be good except for his suggestion to pretend to be humble and thoughtful. Pretend? … [Read more...]

World Magazine Featured Vyckie’s Story!

If you had told me that one day World magazine would ever mention Vyckie Garrison in a positive light after she left her Quiverfull lifestyle I would have busted out laughing and asked you if you were insane. Seriously? Never ever happening! … [Read more...]

Patriarch Spanks Wife & Gets Jail Time: Physical Violence is Always Unacceptable!

by Suzanne TitkemeyerThis Monday and Tuesday on the Dr. Phil show there was featured a man (Kirby ) that is a Fundamentalist Christian Patriarch type who'd spanked his wife Renee with a paddle for not calling him "Sir". What he didn't know was that his wife had videoed him disciplining her and eventually went to law enforcement with that video and others showing him physically disciplining their sons. He was arrested and now the wife has a no contact order against him. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Is Using Accountability Software “Trusting In The Lord”?

Remember last week when we posted an account by The Joy Filled Wife of how her husband harangued her over a piece of bread and other bad abusive behaviors he exhibited while addicted to internet pornography?  Over on the Always Learning blog - by Lori Alexander - there is a piece about how Joy Filled found out her husband was using pornography because the accountability software installed on his computer sent her an email with info about how many links he visited and how long he spent surfing these links. While NLQ isn't condoning addictions or pornography it does beg the question - Is it right or moral to monitor your significant others internet usage? What do you think?Lori also has … [Read more...]

Not Quoting Quiverfull: Financial Abuse

There's a type of spousal abuse that we're not spoken of here at NLQ -  Financial Abuse.What is financial abuse?It's when a partner controls the money of the household so tightly that there isn't any or enough given over to meet the basic needs of the other partner and/or children. By controlling all of the family finances the controlling partner puts the other under their complete control, even if there is no physical or verbal abuse this is also now considered spousal abuse.Huffington Post did a story recently on financial abuse filled with horrifying tales of what some women have had to live through before escaping their controlling partners. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Don’t Divorce Your Abuser?

from Ladies Against Feminism and Christian Worldview - What Should an Abused Spouse Do?Trigger warning for harmful advice. The posting at Ladies Against Feminism and Christian Worldview has a very triggering photograph of abuse.My suggestion is that you tell your husband that you want to be married to him, and that your goal is reconciliation, but that you are no longer willing to live under abuse. He has a choice to make. He needs to seek help, counseling and accountability through a local … [Read more...]

Spiritual Abuse and Whitewashed Marriage

by Mere Dreamer cross posted from her blog Love is Not Equal to Love(Editor’s note: Please welcome Mere Dreamer to NLQ and the SASBN! Another great addition to our group!)I grew up in a 3rd world mission where the horror stories of Northern news overshadowed all other impressions of the US, though I determined to move there after graduation in spite of the fear. My 17 year old, culture-shocked self feared the six block walk from the school to work, morbidly certain it was inevitable that I would be kidnapped and raped. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Divorce and Abuse?

by Michael Pearl of No Greater Joy - Divorce and AbuseThere is a treasure trove of Michael Pearl answering Bible Questions on YouTube and  No Greater Joy. Trigger warning for Christianese and meat butchering. … [Read more...]

Religion Makes Abuse Easy

by AJ cross posted from her blog I Am Phoenix(Editor's Note - Let's all welcome AJ as she is the newest member of NLQ's Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network! Welcome AJ!)Religion makes abuse easy. There it is, pure and simple. A truth I've born witness to.Walk with me down this road. Travel back in time with me, and open the window to the kitchen in my parents' house. Poke your head in and listen with me. Look at the old farmstead kitchen table, and the meek kids with their heads lowered in submission, while the patriarch booms on at the head of the table, lecturing and teaching after dinner before everyone's dismissed from the table. … [Read more...]

roses – how the purity culture taught me to be abused

by Samantha[warning: I am going to be talking about sensitive, sex-related issues today, including rape and sexual assault. ]First, let me share my rationale … [Read more...]