Raised Quiverfull: Questioning, Q. 2

June 11, 2012 By Leave a Comment

by Libby Anne Raised Quiverfull Introduction — Questioning Summary Please be sure to click the above links to see an introduction to and explanation of this project, which involves a panel of nine young adults who were raised in Quiverfull families and have since questioned and left that ideology answering questions about their experiences.     What first [...]

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Happily Abused

June 10, 2012 By 34 Comments
Can you say, "Stockholm Syndrome'?

Trigger warning: Christian woman’s advice to abused wives reads like a handbook for ascetic self-mortification. How to Use a Woman’s Faith & Trust to Make Her a Willing Accomplice to Her Own Abuse by Vyckie Garrison After stumbling across yet another piece of alarmingly dangerous advice for abused women of faith titled, Surviving Emotional Abuse Six [...]

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Who Was That Masked Man? Part 7

June 9, 2012 By 7 Comments

by Calulu After the incident with the pregnant daughter of a friend we had another reprieve from Tom and Tina. We’d see them at church but they’d stopped coming to the bible study group. I’d heard that they were both going through this other ministry’s counseling. The other ministry sounded sort of like Scientology in [...]

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Snipped! Part 6: The Fun Little Church

June 8, 2012 By 3 Comments

by Incongruous Circumspection Bill Gothard’s weekly marriage class was run by Pastor John Hartzell and his young protégé, Chuck Raichert in a little Independent Fundamental Baptist Church in Bloomington, Minnesota. Normandale Baptist was the name. The seminar was called Rebuilder’s and was all about loving Jesus Christ so much that your husband or wife simply [...]

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Raised Quiverfull: Questioning, Q. 1

June 7, 2012 By 2 Comments

by Libby Anne Please be sure to click the above links to see an introduction to and explanation of this project, which involves a panel of nine young adults who were raised in Quiverfull families and have since questioned and left that ideology answering questions about their experiences. How were you first exposed to “mainstream” American culture? [...]

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