A Story of Becoming Sick

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Samantha P Field.comEditor's note: One of the big things that seems to happen if you're a woman that leaves Quiverfull is that many seem to physically fall apart, experiencing ill health and a wide variety of problems with their immune systems. Because of the mind set in extreme Christianity being ill is viewed many times as a moral failing, adding guilt to the physical misery. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Deny Your Possibly Gay Son Privacy To ‘Cure’ Him?

by Scared Catholic Mom on Queerity - Scared Christian Mom Asks How To Keep Her Gay Teen PureEditor's note: The big Catholic families are sometimes the first encounter with Quiverfull for those not raised fundamentalist evangelical Quiverfull. While this woman is not promoting Quiverfull ideals she sure sounds like she's the Catholic version of Michael Pearl, trying to control the same sex attraction out of her poor confused teenager. This much control over any child is abusive! This reads like a what not to do for your LBGTQ  child primer. … [Read more...]

The Fantasy of Church Culture

by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalIn my last post, I mentioned watching the efforts of my ex-fellow elder to pretend he was unaware of my presence. I also mentioned how funny I found them. (I also admitted that I used to find this sort of behaviour deeply painful and hurtful.) So when a friend commented on my Facebook page that it gave her hope that she might also get to that same point of freedom from the pain, it made me stop and think about my response to his performance, and how I have got to this place myself. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Godly Response To Emotional Abuse?

by Rick Thomas from Rick Thomas.net - Emotional Abuse:  Its origins, its cureEditor's note: Another perfect example of why the evangelical and fundamentalist Christian crowds are so toxic to those struggling with depression, spiritual abuse issues, verbal abuse and issues dealing with human emotions. Thomas claims that what we call emotional abuse is sin and that it is not causing real damage, that we must respond to the person 'sinning' against us with love, forgiveness and scripture. What a victim-blaming, self-righteous, unhelpful load of hog wash! If someone is abusing you in any fashion the best thing to do is to leave the abuser, get far away from them and their attempts to hurt … [Read more...]

What ‘Gaystapo’?

by Suzanne TitkemeyerI never know exactly what awaits me every morning when I take a stroll through the latest articles and blogs on the type of extremist Christianity that fills Quiverfull. Today I was greeted with the bizarre thoughts of one Mark Judge at Real Clear Religion. Mark has one of the stranger reactions to the recent Supreme Court decision on marriage equality. He decided it means that the gay community has started to purposely inflict emotional abuse on Christians at large.Say what? Emotional abuse, that thing that goes hand in hand with the spiritual abuse many of us here at No Longer Quivering suffered at the hands of those same 'Good Christians'(tm)? If they were … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Defining Marital Abuse?

by Biblical Gender Roles at his blog Biblical Gender Roles - The Frustrated Feminist WifeOur pal that thinks women don't have a right to refuse sex in marriage is at it again. Now he's worked up a mock police interview to show none of his points are actual abuse. Typical abuser behavior, justifying his abuse of the wife. Justifying economic abuse (against the Biblical standard that says a man supports his wife/family or he's no better than a sinful heathen.) an he's claiming he does not condone rape. Unbelievable the length some of these "Good Christian Patriarchs" will go to excuse their own abusive words and natures. Clearly he's never seen any episodes of "Law & Order: … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 Listening To Your Wife?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - I Need Her Counsel and JudgementEditor's note: This is almost enough to make you feel sorry for Michael's wife Debi Pearl, but knowing how Debi twists what happened to her and uses it to make others feel fear and guilt cancels out any sympathy points she might get for her husband admitting what an abusive jerk he has been. Sick relationship. His advice in the end might be good except for his suggestion to pretend to be humble and thoughtful. Pretend? … [Read more...]

Part 1 – Call Me Crazy: the Gaslighting of Homeschool Abuse Survivors

by Heather Doney cross posted from her blog Becoming WorldlyEditor's note: This is part one of two. At some point during posting this the last half didn't come over so the post has been split in two to correct this and because of the lengthiness of the original article. Part two will be posted on December 29th. Last week my Dad diagnosed me with bipolar disorder. Maybe this could have explained a few things, and no doubt he would like to think it does, except for one uncomfortable fact. I do not have bipolar disorder. I still see a counselor and I previously saw another one for two years and I’m pretty sure that if I had bipolar disorder, one of them would have told me. … [Read more...]

Listening, Learning, Growing

This is Suzanne and I have a quick foreword here as an introduction to Vyckie Garrison's piece. You know, it's hard sometimes for people in different stages of healing and different perspectives to actually understand the pain of the other. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Controlling Your Attitude About Mothering?

by Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies - Mothers With ZealKeep in mind as you read this that Merriam-Webster defines 'Zeal' as 'a strong feeling of interest and enthusiasm that makes someone very eager or determined to do something' and that it's the root word of 'Zealot' - 'a person who has very strong feelings about something (such as religion or politics) and who wants other people to have those feelings' Nancy fits the description of 'Zealot' a little too well.  … [Read more...]


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