Questioning the Pearls: I’m Angry at Her Attitude?

For well over a year we’ve been running a second Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ on Sundays, filled with questions by young ladies trying to get ready for marriage. Since we’ve run through many of the questions on their site it’s time to shift Sundays to something else, like perhaps examining the cornucopia of probably fake emails and questions that Michael and Debi Pearl of No Greater Joy post on their website and the possibly poisonous answers they give. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Satan Tricks Women Using Their Emotions?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - Satan Preys on the Vulnerability of WomenEditor's note: So if I'm reading Lori's fan girl's letter here she's saying that women getting together to pray or study the Bible are just gossiping and ignoring their mandate to be home silently raising their children? Why is it always all or nothing? Lori talks in her book about getting together in groups to teach other women but this makes it sound like for everyone else but Lori it is a sin. Isolationism at it's finest. Yes, yes, it's much easier to control and manipulate isolated people. … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Why is Anger so Feared?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.Today's question is why is anger so feared and discouraged in Quiverfull life? Seems in the real world that anger does hold a legitimate place, can be a catalyst for real change, forward momentum instead of always being destructive. … [Read more...]

Vulnerable

by Cindy Foster cross posted from her blog Finding Fundamental We wander through this life together in a semi-darkness in which none of us can distinguish exactly the features of his neighbor. Only from time to time, through some experience that we have of our companion, or through some remark that he passes, he stands for a moment close to us, as though illuminated by a flash of lightning. Then we see him as he really is.- Albert Schweitzer We all need somebody to talk to. It would be good if we talked ... not just pitter-patter, but real talk. We shouldn't be so afraid, because most people really like this contact; that you show you are vulnerable makes them free to be … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Fake It Till You Make It?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - Make It HappenEditor's note: This theme of emotional denial and faking your joy until it turns real is the real toxic message in the Quiverfull world. It's also one of the most heavily promoted ones by Nancy. Makes one wonder how enraged and sad she must be behind that fake grin and odd voice of hers. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Ways to Change Negative Feelings?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Men Are Logical, Women Are Emotional?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - Feminism Will Come To An End. as always linked through Do Not LinkEditor's note: Larry is claiming that women are illogical and emotional and that's why they should always been ruled over by men. He's saying with with zero empirical evidence. There's no research to back up what he's saying and he doesn't bother to cite any studies or statistics. It's all pure Larry-assumptions. After hearing his 'logic' eviscerated by Alan Combs radio show it's pretty obvious he's more emotional than logical in his thinking.  … [Read more...]

Christians Taught Me I Can’t Trust My Deceitful Heart

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Samantha P Field.comThe heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it? Jeremiah 17:9 That verse got quoted at me … well, a lot. Looking back, it seems to be one of the most common refrains of my childhood, right along with “foolishness is bound in the heart of a child.” Looking back, I’m unsure how these concepts got tied to things like honor your father and mother and in the multitude of councilors there is wisdom and your word is a lamp unto my feet but somehow, they did. … [Read more...]

Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – Why Am I Having These Feelings?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 5 – Anger in Children is Purely Selfishness?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Angry ChildrenEditor's note: One of the most poisonous ideas yet - "Anger is a generated drama where self is the star—the defender of justice, the conquering aggressor. If feels good to strike a blow for the good guys, to put down the enemy." That's not how anger works for most people, not even when angry over people that refuse to use their turn signals or asshole spouses that inconvenience you by not showing up on time for meals. Both of those are justifiable reasons to experience anger and to say something to the other person if you get a chance. It's not 'generated drama' to stand up for what is right. We all know that Michael has provoked anger … [Read more...]