Quoting Quiverfull: Be Cheerful to Make Men Happy?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - Her Sunny, Gladness Bringing PresenceEditor's note: You know what's really tragic in this piece? Lori's attempts to insist that to be a good woman you have to be fake-joyed out, like an animated blowup doll, or a grinning idiot. If there is one piece of theology out of Quiverfull that is the most dangerous it is this - suppress all negative emotions and thoughts. The only one coming across as bitter, angry, frustrated and controlling is the author. … [Read more...]

How To Encourage Your Husband: Part 5 Verbalize – Tell The World

Today's bit is about bragging about your husband to others - Tell the World.This is a series looking at the marriage advice given in Nancy Campbell’s book ‘How to Encourage Your Husband’.While packing for a move I have turned up are books, terrible idiotic books filled with toxic advice. One of those books is by Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies ‘How to Encourage Your Husband’. I think I ended up with this book in the aftermath of leaving my old church, given to me by one of my former friends that thought it would ‘help’ my marriage since in her eyes my husband leaving our old church meant that I wasn’t doing my job of wife well enough. Reading through this book now I cannot help but lau … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Do it Happily and Shut Up!?

by Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies - Put Your Heart Into It!Editor's note: Whenever I see advice from Nancy and others ordering you to do it CHEERFULLY I want to visit physical harm to them. Let's face it, not everything about raising children or keeping a home running is easy, not even if you are a stay at home mother. Is anyone ever smiling and happy when scrubbing a child's vomit off every surface in the house during a bout of stomach flu sweeping through the family? Or just gutting through the day to day? Nope, emotional denial is unhealthy no matter why you're doing it. Better to acknowledge you're not exactly jumping for joy and move on to just do the thing before you. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Hold Hands and Laugh?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - Holding Hands and LaughingEditor's note: Sorry but there will not be a review of Lori's book tonight. I am house sitting for a loved one about ninety minutes from home and I neglected to pack the book I discovered this morning. Instead here's a quote from Lori's blog that sounds like it's a direct response to the fact that we've pointed out the lack of loving gestures they seem to have for one another. Left unquoted all the burbling Lori posted on how Ken and she are always holding hands, grinning and laughing and how everyone around them comments on how 'lovey-dovey' they are. Sorry, but this sounds contrived, fake and sort of in the realm … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Is Your Home Stagnant?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - Don't Block the River!Editor's note: More thought-control with Nancy Campbell. When did 'Longsuffering' become a positive thing? While it is usually a good idea to keep your home a safe nest, a place of peace and tranquility for your own personal mental health, much less that of anyone else, this idea that there can only be happy and positive emotions going on in your home is just toxic.  The sad thing is those that are following Nancy are likely right now beating themselves up with guilt over failing to do just that. Sometimes home is the place where we lick our wounds, heal, recover, work through very negative emotions and circumstances. There's no … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Why Not Just Admit Struggles?

This is a series we run every Thursday. The questions are things that people who may not know much about the Quiverfull movement or even Fundamentalist or Evangelical Christianity ask about the lifestyle. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life can only shine a light on the toxic nature of this lifestyle choice. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Cheerfulness Wins Over Husbands and Children From Sin?

by Lori Anderson from Always Learning - Cheerful Holiness is the Most Forcible of SermonsEditor's note: Most of the post on Lori's  blog is her copying and pasting the words of Charles Spurgeon, with the exception of the last paragraph of her applying his words to the idea of winning over a 'disobedient husband' and others. Yeah, like controlling your facial expressions and words has ever manipulated anyone into repenting from whatever imaginary 'sins' these folks can think up. Nowhere in the Spurgeon quote does it say that this is how you win over 'disobedient' relatives. She's extrapolating without any evidence again. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – This is the Damage Female Cultural Enforcers do in Quiverfull

by an anonymous letter writer to Ladies Against Feminism's Lori Alexander on her personal blog Always Learning - Taking Responsibility For Her Own UnhappinessEditor's note: Shout out to Debi Pearl in this bit. While what the letter writer is describing in her marriage sounds good, like they've managed to get back on track in a healthier way. Especially good is her responding in a better way to her husband's chronic health condition. What she's not said, only hinted at, it's because she is submitting to her husband to an unhealthy degree and suppressing her own emotions and needs. Typical Quiverfull, fix the marriage by pretending everything is perfect once you start doing 'Biblical … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Now the Men Have to be Freakin’ Cheerful Too?

by Colin Campbell of Meat For Men - The Heart Test 1cThis reads more like Nancy Campbell, his wife, wrote this more than anything Colin has said in the past! … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Change Your Attitude Woman!

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - What's Your Attitude? … [Read more...]