Kiss Your Monster on the Nose

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceAll images by Cindy Kunsman and Under Much Grace used with permission. I first encountered this story near the end of the book An Adult Child's Guide to What's “Normal” by Friel and Friel, but beyond that, I have no idea where it originated.In many ways, I hope to make the monsters of Cognitive Biases something of friends by what they tell us about ourselves. May we continue to learn from our mistakes and those uncomfortable parts of ourselves that tend to scare us. May they become our respected friends and instruments for fostering healthy growth.Once upon a time there was a little girl who lived in a village far fro … [Read more...]

Sunday Quotes – Fear

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NLQ Question of the Week: Why is Government so Feared?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.While reading through Zsuzsanna Anderson's blog one thing jumps out again and again that I've noticed in most of the more conservative Evangelical and Quiverfull blogs - Fear of the federal government as some evil beast seeking to destroy Christian families. Like this bit from Anderson: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – Making Your Child Less Fearful by Punishment?

by Michael Pearl of No Greater Joy - Fear of BeesEditor's note: So Mike and I have the same advice regarding teaching the child about bees to lessen their fears and he doesn't automatically go to switching the child to make them stay in the bed. Even a stopped clock is right twice a day by accident. But how is making the child sleep in a very uncomfortable place, like the laundry room or bathtub not some sort of punishment? What would you do instead when the child is too afraid to sleep in her room? … [Read more...]

Oh To Be A Pharisee! A Church’s Love Affair With Rules!

by Cindy Foster cross posted from her blog Finding Fundamental (God) Who also hath made us able ministers of the new testament; not of the letter, but of the spirit: for the letter killeth, but the spirit giveth life. II Corinthians 3:6 Why would anybody in their right mind want to live by the letter of Old Testament Law when the New Testament clearly teaches they have been set free?I believe an honest comparison of the ancient, biblical Pharisee to the modern-day 'Pharisee' in all of us could answer this question. … [Read more...]

Not Quoting Quiverfull: Fear is Evangelical Christianity’s Real God

by John Pavlovitz from Stuff That Needs To Be Said - The Greatest False Idol of Modern Evangelical ChristianityEditor's note: I've thought for a long time now that fearing everything was the real belief in modern Evangelicalism. Just spend a few moments with any friend that might be a white American Evangelical and see if the conversation does not eventually turn to a topic of who or what to fear. Many times that fear is attached to people of a different color or race. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 5 – Children’s Needs Are Not To Be Considered?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy Magazine - No More Bondage to FEAREditor's note: I can think of more than a few children I've known through the years that would be emotionally devastated to have a parent minimize their need for comfort and safety in situations that create fear in them like Michael states you should. Overcoming shyness isn't simply a matter of telling a kid to tough it out. Again Mr. Pearl shows he has no real basic understanding of either emotions or needs in children. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 4 – Children’s Needs Are Not To Be Considered?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy Magazine - No More Bondage to FEAREditor's note: Again Michael claims that any behavior that is not text book perfect is another set of manipulations by the child. … [Read more...]

Two Ways Modern Republicans Are Anti-Christian

by Samantha Field cross posted from Samantha P Field.comI was seven when I saw the original Star Wars trilogy, and eleven when The Phantom Menace came out. To say that Star Wars had an impact on me would be one hell of an understatement. I was obsessed. Completely and utterly obsessed. I loved everything about those stories, and almost everything I wrote for over a decade was Star Wars fanfiction. … [Read more...]

Fear Factor

by Ellen cross posted from When Church HurtsMy friend, Rebekah Gilbert, has written a great blog post about Fear.  Her thoughts turned on a light bulb in my head because I realized just how true her words are.  You see, the spiritual abuse that was meted out to me had one purpose only:  to create fear in my heart and in my life.Perhaps the perpetrators’ ultimate goal was to get me to leave, but they did this in such a way that over the decade-plus years of spiritual abuse, I became terrorized.  And, just as my friend, Rebekah, realized, once I began to stand up to my abusers, the fear that they had placed on me returned to them.  Such great fear that their only recourse was to ban me … [Read more...]