More Catholic Than The Pope: Feminism became my enemy of choice and I vowed to aim my life’s energy at its destruction

by MusicMom I was born in the midst of the flower children and hippie ferver – 1967.  More importantly, for where I ended up in my life, I was born a few years after Betty Friedan wrote “The Feminine Mystique” which raised the consciousness of millions of educated American housewives as to what was exactly that nagging “problem with no name”.  My mother was a rich, educated southern belle.  She graduated from Sweet Briar College in Virginia (yes, that actually is a women's college, not a fairy-tale castle) in 1960 and married the son of a NY judge, my dad.  They moved to NY and began the early-60's version of the American dream.  Dad got a job as a stockbroker and … [Read more...]

Why Did She Do That?!

Rachel Scott's crazy-making tactics on the Joy Behar Show   Look, Mimi~ I'm on TV!  LOL When I first received the phone call asking me to go to New York to be interviewed on the Joy Behar Show ~ I had to admit that I had no idea who Joy Behar is.  "I am still pretty culturally illiterate after all my years as a fundamentalist Quiverfuller," I explained.  "We do have cable TV now, but the kids keep it tuned to the Disney Channel."  So, I can tell you all about Demi Levato, Selena Gomez, the Jonas Brothers, Miley Cyrus ... in fact, I think I've got Hannah Montana's basic hairstyle ... :) Anyway ... I quickly brought myself up to speed on Joy ~ and on Tuesday, Nov. 3 ~ I had the … [Read more...]

Where are the Instructions?

by Arietty In the last months of my marriage I was gradually coming out of the fear laden fog that had been my life in fundamentalism. Now that I had internet access I would find myself reading more and more things written from a non-Christian perspective. I had joined a few forums based around interests I had but spent more and more time reading the off-topic threads. I was often blown away by how much grace some of these people showed in flame wars or contentious discussions, how much humility they had towards their own beliefs. Wasn't grace "our" word? It was at first disturbing to learn so much from people who did not follow Christ but after a time I grew used to it and found myself … [Read more...]

Guardians of the Home

by Alyzza Martin She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar. She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens. She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard. – Proverbs 31:14-16 Women around the world have historically been called upon to take care of domestic duties such as hauling water, preparing food, and disposing of waste. In areas where women are denied access to political power, “female concerns” like water security and waste management barely register on the political radar. Countries with poor track records in recognizing and maintaining women’s … [Read more...]

Will use your book in my college class

Vyckie, I have been reading your posts- actually soaking it all up like a sponge might be a better way of putting it. I am a college instructor and graduate student, finishing up my PhD in sociology at NC State. I have, for the most part, avoided the topic of religion with my students here in the Bible Belt. I just wanted to let you know that when you publish your book I will have my students buy it and read it. I support your endeavor.  You do a phenomenal job of explaining the appeal of the QF movement and the ups/downs of a patriarchal culture. You analyze your own emotions amazingly well and connect everything to capitalism, your traumatic childhood, and so many sociological … [Read more...]

All Saints

by calulu Today was All Saints Day, November 1. It’s the one day where I miss my late father the most. He and I were the two in our large New Orleans clan that would observe the rituals of All Saints. We’d pack a picnic lunch of poboys and potato salad along with cleaning supplies and head out to the cemetery with my ancient Great Aunts.  In South Louisiana entire families turn out at the graveyard to spend time remembering and honoring dead relatives by cleaning the tombstones. A special time of family remembrances and togetherness. It was our ritual that I still carry out when I’m in South Louisiana. It’s a ritual that my years in fundamentalist Quiverful country robbed from … [Read more...]

An open letter to Frank Schaeffer

Dear Frank, I am a former Christian homeschooling mother of seven who finally walked away from fundamentalism after our radical extremism drove my oldest daughter to attempt suicide ~ and I would like to help you spread your message and sell your books. In bible college, your father was my absolute hero ~ I read all of his books and was determined to study Christian apologetics until I could defend my faith as skillfully as Francis Schaeffer! However, as the years went by, fundamentalist "family values" put me in my place as a woman ~ and so I shifted my focus and that's when your mother, Edith became my role model as I devoted myself to homemaking and motherhood. I dutifully birthed … [Read more...]

Biblical sexism tops "Ten worst verses in the Bible"

I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man; she must be silent. (1 Timothy 2:12)   by Vyckie Recently, I came across a "Ship of Fools" video which invited people to submit their nominations for the "Ten worst verses of the Bible" At first, I assumed that Ship of Fools must be an atheist website holding this "Worst Verse" contest as a way to raise awareness of some of the horrific messages contained in the pages of the Christian scriptures.  My assumption was based mainly on the website's name since Psalm 14:1 tells us that "The fool" says in his heart, "There is no God."  Plus ~ who else would sponsor this sort of bible-bashing contest? … [Read more...]

A Most Twisted Love

by Vyckie Mom & Dad are in love ... but is a patriarchal relationship of entitlement-meets-martyrdom a healthy and mutually beneficial expression of love? Following a recent interview with the religion editor of our local newspaper, I've been thinking more about what I've learned from St. Bernard of Clairvaux concerning the four "degrees" of love which the ancient monk postulated in considering man's relationship to God (note that this applies to all other relationships as well) ~ although I've already written briefly on this topic here, I'd like to now give a more thorough explanation: Level 1) I love me for my benefit ~ here's an infantile, self-involved person with a severe … [Read more...]

No-Win Scenario #3 ~ Women can't "have it all" but QF women can do it all

Me ~ Feb. 2007. Too exhausted to get out of bed ~ still, the work had to be done ... There's quite a discussion about feminism going on over on the NLQ forums ~ and it's got me thinking about another no-win situation for Quiverfull moms. As a faithful Proverbs 31 woman of God, I was very concerned about my reputation ~ not for the sake of what people thought about *me,* of course ~ because, you know ~ I was very careful not to seek the "approval of men rather than God." No ~ my reputation was important only because I cared about my witness ~ I did not want the Word of God "blasphemed" on account of my unsubmissive attitude towards my husband, which would be, of course ~ evidence of a … [Read more...]


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