When ‘Forgiveness’ Becomes a Trap

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by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalI recently came across an article which asked the question about what it takes for us to be able to forgive. In it, the author offers the suggestion that we need to lament - to protest the pain and darkness we are facing. Lament calls for us to be honest about our feelings instead of denying them. To refuse to "sugarcoat [our] rage" or "explain away [our] bitterness. To feel it, to own it, and to use it to protect ourselves from further harm. … [Read more...]

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Part One – The Paradox of Freedom

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by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalMany years ago I found myself, completely against my will, dealing with the loss of my marriage. I'd spent 7 years married to a man who lied and deceived seemingly without conscience, who was a master of emotional manipulation, and who acted as if the world revolved around him alone. While his regular outbursts of anger only occasionally resulted in physical abuse, it almost always ended with him breaking things - usually my things! … [Read more...]

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Not Quoting Quiverfull: Forgiving Doesn’t Mean Forgetting

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by Linda Vernick from the Association of Biblical Counselors - Why We Must Never Forget Even When We Do ForgiveEditor's note: This may be coming from a Christian counselor publication, but it's a step in the right direction in the way forgiveness and self-protection should work together. … [Read more...]

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Reunion

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by Kristen Rosser cross posted from her blog Wordgazer's WordsIn the early 1980s I was in college, living on fraternity/sorority row.  But it wasn't a sorority house.  It was the local branch of Maranatha Christian Churches/Campus Ministries founded by Bob and Rose Weiner.  As I have described here and here, Maranatha was a Christian group with strong authoritarian control.   We lived in the Maranatha House and went to church in the meeting room of that house, and we slept on the sleeping porches on the third floor and tried to get our homework done or hold down our jobs, despite endless outreach meetings, prayer meetings and other Maranatha obligations. … [Read more...]

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Exploring Trust in Forgiveness (What can we learn from the tragic death of Braxton Caner)

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by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace A Reposting from the blog series on forgiveness, repentance and reconciliation from 2012.  What can we learn from tragedy - the loss of Braxton Caner?  What hidden lessons can we find? ~~~  The Importance of Trust-building in Forgiveness … [Read more...]

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Feeling Empathy for Christian Patriarchy Parents & Leaders

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by Heather Doney cross posted from her blog Becoming WorldlyI did a couple things I never expected to do yesterday. I had a thought-provoking conversation that left me thinking about how it is easy to decide that someone is an enemy, a jerk, a selfish person. It is easy to determine that people are unworthy, undeserving, maybe even unclean. It is easy for them to decide that about you too. … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Sincere Repentance?

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by Doug Phillips of Vision Forum - True Repentance But repentance must be sincere. It must spring from “godly sorrow.” Too often “repentance” is the experience of offering a half-hearted and self-serving apology to God and man, mixed with large amounts of blame-shifting, pride, and a desire to be done with the whole matter so you don’t ever have to deal with it again. It is the “I have said I am sorry on my terms and in my way, and there is nothing more I need to do, so if that is not good enough for you, then you are the one in sin” attitude. … [Read more...]

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Who Was That Masked Man Part 13 – Finis

by CaluluLet's recap: Tom Smith has just spent something like nearly fifteen years meddling in my life under the guise of 'Christian Brotherhood' and we'd just left the church we attended with him for a mainstream denomination in our town. He'd led the villagers in a figurative angry mob with torches against us to try and make my husband and myself return to our old church. There was no turning back at this point....The angry emails proclaiming fire, brimstone and angry celestial judgment started to ease off till after a few years there were only a few every six months or so. The rumors getting back to me about myself were becoming very less frequent even if some of those I had … [Read more...]

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