Millipede Part 32 How Did I Get Here? Part 3

October 21, 2012 By Leave a Comment
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by Millipede In my case, the path started when I became involved in various “patriot” groups. Ironically, I was at first very careful to weed out the chauvinists and the misogynists. How women were viewed and treated was a make or break issue with me. My husband at the time was like most “average” guys [...]

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The Marriage Benefits of Leaving Fundamentalism

July 26, 2012 By 7 Comments

by Latebloomer If I had stayed within the constraints of fundamentalism and Christian Patriarchy, my husband and I would absolutely not be happily married today. Our relationship from the very beginning consisted of many departures from the teachings I grew up with. Each of those departures furthered the development, health, and mutual happiness of our [...]

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Raised Quiverfull: Living the Life Part 1

June 25, 2012 By 1 Comment

by Libby Anne Raised Quiverfull Introduction — Questioning Summary Please be sure to click the above links to see an introduction to and explanation of this project, which involves a panel of nine young adults who were raised in Quiverfull families and have since questioned and left that ideology answering questions about their experiences.     Question 1: [...]

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Dispelled: Part 10

June 24, 2012 By 3 Comments
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by Chandra It didn’t take long for myself and Darren’s lengthy friendship to turn from dating to committed to one another. We were very much in love, and our voluminous email correspondence had already paved the ground for much of our relationship. I was so happy- I had met the man that I had been [...]

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Review: Pixar’s Brave is Braver Than it Looks

June 23, 2012 By 12 Comments

by Sierra Pixar’s Brave is every fairy tale and none of them. It’s every trope and none of them. It’s filled with lovable scamps, bumbling eccentrics, defiant courage, enchanted landscapes, stifling expectations and unintended consequences. And it’s filled with beautiful brogue and wayward redheads. I’m going to talk my way through this movie. It’s currently 10:30pm. [...]

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