Deeply Planted Seeds of Cognitive Bias

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceContinuing on in Cindy's excellent series on the role cognitive bias plays in spiritual abuse and recovery. All images by Cindy Kunsman from Under Much Grace and used with permission. This is a tweeked excerpt from a post that I wrote a few years ago, prompted by Cindy Foster's reflection on a blog post about a blog post (Rachel Held Evans' The Scandal of the Evangelical Heart)     Reflecting on my own, consistently repeated cognitive biases, I thought that this might give the reader some insight into how illogical ideas can become so entrenched in our natures and the ways we learn to we see the world. I still find th … [Read more...]

Guilt and Shame: Not the Same

by Cindy Foster cross posted from her blog Finding Fundamental This short piece was posted by someone from the ‘Unfundamentalist Christians facebook page https://www.facebook.com/UnfundamentalistChristians?fref=ts and appeared on my wall.     The truths expressed are so profound, I wanted to preserve them here since they so eloquently differentiate these two ideas commonly, mistakenly, treated as synonyms. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: If You Don’t Give Things Away You Don’t Really Trust God?

by anonymous as reposted by Lori Alexander of Always Learning - Keeping a Home Beautiful on a Small BudgetEditor's note: Most of this article is the typical 'blah-blah-blah' female cult enforcer idea that no matter how broke you are that you aren't Godly or righteous unless you keep your home spotless and attractive to others. On a budget of course. How many different female cultural enforcers have we heard this nonsense from? How does it square up with the words of Jesus to Mary and Martha? I have done the every six months reorganize and donate for years now but still do not consider it anything to do with faith or God. Is it 'spiritual' or practical? … [Read more...]

Created To Need A Help Meet – Part 12: How Do I Need Thee? (Michael Turns Debi On) *Insert Puking Smiley Here*

by Aletha cross posted from her blog Yllom MormonTrigger warning: You may have to use brain bleach after reading this about Michael's ideas of sex.Hello, everyone! I apologize for my sporadic posting, but I've been traveling to and from Spokane this past week. I'm back home now though, so things should be back on schedule.p55-57 Text is in purpleAlrighty! We are finally at the section we have all been waiting for. I hope you guys are ready for this. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: You Will Wilt If You Do Not Embrace Motherhood Right Now?

by Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies - Which One Are You? Wilting, Surviving or Flourishing?Editor's note: More pushing of the old guilt buttons and making any woman that isn't overjoyed at being a housewife and a mother of many feel guilty as can be. It's what Nancy specializes in, at least when she's not hiding what happened to her African adoptees. Happy, Happy, Happy or you get the hose! … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Stop Stressing You Selfish Woman?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - Do You Need Refreshing?Editor's note: So let me get this straight: you're stressed out and need refreshing so Nancy says you have to yoke yourself to Jesus, even though this doesn't take away or ease whatever it is that's stressing you out? I must be missing something here because it sounds like she's telling you to take on more burdens. Nancy Campbell word salad. … [Read more...]

Cry Baby

by Kaleesha Williams cross posted from her blog The Lost (and Found) Mind of Kaleesha WilliamsWho are you crying for? Me. I weep for myself, for the me that was.  Part of the grief process, I suppose.  The stark contrast between my life now and the life I was living two years ago continues to jump out at me at occasionally and I end up in tears.  The scars are all there… … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Keep Your Children From Worldly Temptation?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - Can You Do It?Editor's note: One thing you can count on from Nancy Campbell, she stays consistently on message. Too bad her message is always 'You are not a good enough mother unless you are doing all the things I outline' which, in my mind, translates to something close to 'The beatings will continue until morale improves' Yeah, like that works. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Just Like That You Changed?

by Rosaria Champagne Butterfield in Today's Christian Woman- From Lesbian Professor to Pastor's WifeEditor's note: This seems to be a common theme in Evangelical Christianity, this belief that you can just walk away from the type of sexuality you have lived in for years. Seems wrong to say it's a simple change of thoughts. What do you think dear reader? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Shut Up Because Your Family is a Song?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - A Beautiful SongEditor's note: One of Nancy's shorter ones. Must have been a busy day. Still the message is the same as always even with Nancy's unusual economy of words: Do not complain. Always smile. Suck it up and do it.  … [Read more...]