Five Things Home School Moms Should Know About Abusive Marriages

by Virginia Knowles cross posted from her blog Watch the Shepherd When our family started the homeschooling journey about 25 years ago, I envisioned my comrades in the movement as the ideal examples of healthy marriage and parenting. I have learned much along the way about educating and nurturing my own ten children, and I am seeing this legacy continue with my six grandchildren. However, as the years have gone by, I have had to lay aside my cute little rose-colored glasses and acknowledge that there can also be a dark side. Abuse, whether it is against a child or a spouse, is a tragic reality in far too many homeschooling families. Because I write frequently on the topics of domestic … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated: Part 2 Chapter 4

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideAll quoted sections of the book are in blueThis book does have some fun side-effects.  My sister-in-law offered to lend me any and all books from her house to stop me from continuing to read this book.  The offer was tempting, but inflicting this book on my family is sweet.  (Reading chunks aloud....it's a twisted pleasure for me.) Well, we get a glimpse into the teenage Botkin sisters. … [Read more...]

Socialization Isn’t a Freaking Joke

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Samantha P. Field.comIf you’ve been around homeschooling culture for any length of time, you’re probably familiar with how they tend to make fun of “socialization.” When I was growing up as a homeschooled kid, I had “20 Snappy Comebacks” prepared in case I overheard someone asking “b-but but what about socialization?!” I’d been taught– and was firmly convinced– that when people asked about socialization it sprang from a place of ignorance about homeschooling. When you homeschool, I believed, you’re not just limited to interact with people from your grade level, but with children and adults of all ages. Through church (and, theoretically, co-ops … [Read more...]

Laws and Walls Won’t Protect Your Children

by Cindy Foster cross posted from  her blog Finding FundamentalI have a couple of predominant thoughts about the most recent revelation of Josh Duggar’s sexual deviancy.To all the fearful, loving Christian parents:There are no invisible walls-- no matter how well-intentioned, no matter how carefully and scripturally constructed, no matter how efficiently guarded-- thick enough to protect your young from their own humanity. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Michael Pearl Defending His Strawman?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Spank and Save a ChildEditor's note: Michael manages to beat all his favorite dead horses in this: television, public school, liberals, global warming, environmentalists, animal rights people, gays, communists and fascists. Sometimes he manages to come across like some strange isolationist who has time-traveled back from the early 1950s to warn about the 'Red Scare'. Since he loves to claim that his critics misquote him we like to quote every single word of his misogynistic rantings and let the readers decide they are actually about. … [Read more...]

Living Without the Metanarrative

by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open GroundWhen I left evangelicalism, I got depressed. It was a living nightmare.After I wrote my post on how the Duggars are not crazy, it hit me head on that I actually left a part of me that was extremely meaningful. Also, the homeschool positive series on Homeschoolers Anonymous made me a bit homesick.That may come as a shock because I can’t look back and say, “oh, well doctrine of hell is meaningful.” or “save the kiss lessons helped me in relationships.” “Or I learned a lot of social skills as a kid.” rrrrr no. definitely no.But, but, there was a heroic purpose in fundamentalism. … [Read more...]

What Ken Ham Thinks The Atheist Agenda Is

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserEditor's note: Since we sometimes talk about Quiverfull Homeschooling and Ken Ham is followed and praised by many in the homeschooling communities we need to look at his science-denying/Christian persecution beliefs. All you have to do it look at some of the presidential candidates and see that science-denial like Ham practices is rampant in all levels of society. Bruce is talking from the perspective of someone that has left fundamentalist Christianity, specifically he left Independent Fundamentalist Baptist religion and theology far behind. Please keep this in mind while reading his rebuttal of Ham. If you … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Michael Pearl Invented ‘Healthy’ Patriarchy?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - The Balanced PatriarchEditor's note: Even as far back as 2009 Michael was throwing shade at Bill Gothard and Doug Phillips over their patriarchal teachings, well before the news that both men are sexual predators emerged. The original article has a longer version of the history of patriarchy and society's problems, but we're picking up the history at the time that the Pearls claim they started practicing it. Lots of blaming others per usual.  … [Read more...]

How to Spiritually Abuse Your Children in Three Steps

by Joe Sands cross posted from his blog Incongruous Circumspection Step One - Repeatedly teach them something that the rest of society would find weird, "out there", or flat-out offensive.Step Two - Tell them that the negative reaction of the "rest of the world" proves that the above "something" is true and must be adhered to even more rabidly. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – How Do You Balance Faith And The Burlesque Of Life?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]