Laws and Walls Won’t Protect Your Children

by Cindy Foster cross posted from  her blog Finding FundamentalI have a couple of predominant thoughts about the most recent revelation of Josh Duggar’s sexual deviancy.To all the fearful, loving Christian parents:There are no invisible walls-- no matter how well-intentioned, no matter how carefully and scripturally constructed, no matter how efficiently guarded-- thick enough to protect your young from their own humanity. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Deny Your Possibly Gay Son Privacy To ‘Cure’ Him?

by Scared Catholic Mom on Queerity - Scared Christian Mom Asks How To Keep Her Gay Teen PureEditor's note: The big Catholic families are sometimes the first encounter with Quiverfull for those not raised fundamentalist evangelical Quiverfull. While this woman is not promoting Quiverfull ideals she sure sounds like she's the Catholic version of Michael Pearl, trying to control the same sex attraction out of her poor confused teenager. This much control over any child is abusive! This reads like a what not to do for your LBGTQ  child primer. … [Read more...]

Chewed Up and Spit Out

by Mari cross posted from her blog Mari's MusesSome people won’t be gotten along with.It’s not that you aren’t trying hard enough.It’s not that you can’t be gotten along with.It’s not that there’s something wrong with you.Some people choose to not be gotten along with. * * * * * … [Read more...]

My Birdie

by Mari cross posted from her blog Mari's MusesI got a parakeet last week.Solomon is a beautiful shade of blue. … [Read more...]

Characters

by MariDonald Miller, in “A Million Miles in a Thousand Years” says that when you write a story, even though you hold the pen, the character does what it wants.It’s true.I once wrote a story for a fiction workshop about … [Read more...]

Millipede: Part 10

by MillipedeIn face of these events, I found work. Once I overcame my husband's reluctance to enter the workforce, he seemed to accept the situation. He drove me to pick up applications. He still held to his Patriarchal beliefs, but in light of our situation, he got over issue of my returning to the workplace.Things went smoothly for a couple of months and then came the phone call. My sister in law who lived at our previous residence called. She had received a notice for my husband to appear in civil court. It was an old medical bill from years back. This wasn't exactly a novel experience. In the last year that my husband was working, we had almost been sued over a smaller bill. … [Read more...]

Baptist Taliban: Part 3

by Cindy FosterTHE CHURCH WE WEREThe Preacher and his wife graduated from Baptist Bible College in Springfield, Missouri. At the time he attended there, the college was quite conservative. There were strict rules about dress, dating, curfews, entertainment, music and much more.The Preacher actually grew up in Springfield and was a member of a church that was not nearly as rigid in its standards as the college was, so in the beginning of his ministry as pastor, he did not have the extreme beliefs that he eventually embraced later in his ministry.It was several years after the church had started and was established with its own building that the more relaxed climate began … [Read more...]

Millipede: Part 8

by MillipedeThe next couple of years were what I would call the "golden years" of Patriarchy. By this I mean that we were living the Patriarchal dream, with the husband "leading" and providing and the wife keeping the home and being submissive. It was the apex of our journey; we were finally living the lifestyle.As i wrote earlier it was during this time that I experienced the joys of having the time to pursue varied interests. My husband drove overland the first year or so and then the latter part, he had a regional route. This meant that he was gone for weeks at a time when he was going across country. Later, with a regional route, he was home every weekend. In retrospect, I think … [Read more...]

Just Pray for Him: How the Christian Church Refuses to Hold Abusive Men Accountable

By Lisa Kroulik © Cross posted with permission from Hub Pages - http://nybride710.hubpages.com/hub/How-the-Christian-Church-is-Failing-Abused-Women One of the more difficult things to recover from during the process of divorce from my narcissistic ex-husband was the treatment I received from other Christians. To be fair, none of it was intentionally mean-spirited and all of these people truly believed they were encouraging me from God's word. Unfortunately, the “advice” I received kept me trapped in an abusive marriage three years longer than I should have been.The thing is, all of the responsibility for keeping my marriage together was placed squarely on … [Read more...]

Snipped! Part 6: The Fun Little Church

by Incongruous CircumspectionBill Gothard’s weekly marriage class was run by Pastor John Hartzell and his young protégé, Chuck Raichert in a little Independent Fundamental Baptist Church in Bloomington, Minnesota. Normandale Baptist was the name. The seminar was called Rebuilder’s and was all about loving Jesus Christ so much that your husband or wife simply rushed back into your arms and lived happily ever after. The only problem, it never worked that way. It merely created religious zombies with strict principles.Mama was one of these zombies. She would have hours of “conversation” with my dad over the phone. She never let him speak. You knew when he tried by the rise in the … [Read more...]


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